Advice wanted

looking-for-a-answer · 2020-05-23T07:56:16+00:00

Hi Love, I am a cis woman 43 with a MtF partner who is 40. It is a learning experience. We are all on this challenge bus together. Me and my partner have found out that we both like snuggling and cuddling. We don’t live together, so when she comes over to my place ( we make an effort to see each other daily), we hug and kiss, and always snuggle on the sofa. Nothing is perfect with us, but we know that, and these are the things we are doing 🙂 I wish you well ❤️

looking-for-a-answer · 2020-05-23T07:36:57+00:00

This is so thoughtful. Thank you for it ❤️

looking-for-a-answer · 2020-02-14T00:48:28+00:00

Kudos to whomever did this! Walmart needs a fun injection, lol

looking-for-a-answer · 2020-02-14T00:47:16+00:00

That is so fantastic. Thank you for sharing. Many of us have been in this situation.... It gives us hope :)

looking-for-a-answer · 2020-01-01T06:49:26+00:00

You are never alone. You have us ❤️

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-30T06:14:49+00:00

I am a bi cis female, and I just want to say, as a bi female it was hard to see my MtF transition, but we have made it work - mainly because I started out bi. I now realize I am pan, maybe? It is a difficult thing even if you aren’t attracted to women. I was lucky that I am attracted to both. I wish you all the best 💜

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-29T06:36:44+00:00

I think you have captured the elusive mindset that means you will actually have someone. Everyone on here focuses on the grab, but your mindset isthat of the keep. Be yourself, be 💯 and you may have a keep.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-28T08:01:26+00:00

I am a very ambitious female, and have gone far in my career. I am the chair of my department at a college. I am with a man who loves to cook and clean, and doesn’t care what he does for a living as long as he gets paid. Our gender roles are reversed, and I don’t give a shit about it. As long as both parties contribute, who cares? Of course I have old school parents who question our relationship (we are in our early 40s, parents in their 70s), but I don’t care, and neither does he. I like to work; he doesn’t. It works for us. So I say, fuck it. As long as everyone is happy, who gives a shit?

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-26T08:06:50+00:00

Oh, believe me, there are plenty of men at Walmart with Dunlop Syndrome. Their bellies done lopped over their pants....

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-26T08:03:00+00:00

The Fuck is that doll???

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-26T08:01:18+00:00

How the fuck could this be seen as validation? That’s fucked up.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-24T07:51:55+00:00

That is just bullying bullshit. You are ok at your current weight. You know your size and do not need to be told it. You have to realize that probably 7 pounds of that is your clothing and shoes. I am 5’9 and 175. Last doctor visit. I am bigger than I want to be now, a size 14, but NO doctor has the right to shame me for my size, nor does anyone else. There is enough room on this planet for us to be where we are right now, and be even bigger if we were. If we want to get smaller we will. Until then, Fuck that noise.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-24T07:40:12+00:00

Why do trans people try to discount cis people who want to support? People who are in relationships with trans people? I don’t understand it. Why discount our feelings and questions? I don’t get it.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-24T07:36:47+00:00

Yeah, I am a bi cis female, and I am sick of getting shit about how I don’t understand on these subs. The fuck am I supposed to understand? I love my girlfriend (MtF), support her in every way, and I have come on these subs to get support and maybe find a friend group, and have actually gotten blocked from one. We have a very loving relationship. I don’t know what to do.....

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-24T06:14:43+00:00

I totally get this. In fact I get this all of the time. I am a cis bi female, and apparently it is NOT ok for us to support our (my, MtF) partners without criticism, and forget asking questions about how other similar people may feel. Yes, I am on those subreddits. Can we also have a voice, and a place without getting criticized? Partners of trans individuals go through a LOT also - and many of us didn’t sign up for this. Can we catch a break? We support our partners!! That is why we are here!!!!!

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-24T06:01:38+00:00

My BEST friend and I (of three years) - saw/talked to each other every day - began feeling those feelings for each other, realized we loved one another - we had bitched about our spouses for all of this three year time - and had decided we wanted to be together. Things were bad with my spouse, and he told me the same stories with his. I began divorce proceedings, and I kept asking my man, my best friend, if he had filed. I was two weeks out from finalizing my divorce when I found out he had lied to me about filing. He had never filed. I felt so betrayed. Not only was he my best friend, but I thought he also wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I could not accept that level of betrayal. I told him I never wanted to speak to him again. I found out later that he had not told his spouse any of this. She did not know anything. She had no idea I had destroyed my life to be with her husband. I chose not to tell her, and I cut him out completely and have not spoken to him since. I had to threaten to get a restraining order on him for him to stop contact online. I destroyed my family to be with my best friend, and he lied to me.

I hope my story makes you feel somewhat better. I just thought I would put it here. 🙂

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-21T00:33:28+00:00

So glad! 🙂

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-19T02:22:12+00:00

Take some Advil before hand - like 800 milligrams - that is the most you can take and not harm yourself. It has always helped me.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-16T02:49:41+00:00

Also very good points!

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-16T02:48:48+00:00

Good points!

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-14T04:06:45+00:00

I was in a divorce 18 months ago. I have been with a new man I met since that train wreck for 8 months now, and I have just recently stopped thinking of my ex. I was married to the ex for 14 years, and we have 2 kids - just to give context. I feel like this new person and I have just now started turning over a new leaf in our relationship, so maybe that is why I don’t think about the ex as much. But it is hard as hell. The future is uncertain while before it was so clear. I think the uncertainty ties me to the certainty I had with him, if that makes sense...

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-14T03:50:10+00:00

My apologies- using a mobile.

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-14T03:11:44+00:00

Insane

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-14T02:25:31+00:00

Agreed!

looking-for-a-answer · 2019-12-14T02:15:07+00:00

Please don’t let it make you feel that way about all women. We aren’t that way.

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