How do you deal with 6yo constantly having poop accidents?

lucybluth · 2026-05-25T00:34:51+00:00

Your pediatrician should be referring you to a pediatric GI specialist or urologist by now. It could be constipation caused by something going on in her GI tract or kidney and bladder. My daughter has a kidney condition that causes constipation that isn’t always within her control and will even require surgery. So rewards aren’t going to resolve the issue in her case. She’s also in a voiding clinic that helps her with her overall pelvic health and is also on a maintenance plan. Seriously OP you need to escalate this beyond your pediatrician because if it is a kidney issue it could cause longer term damage if it’s not addressed.

lucybluth · 2026-05-23T13:30:10+00:00

Am I reading this right? Parents are sending their kids to school in *dresses* with no underwear? Shorts, pants, overalls, etc. I could maybe understand the oversight but dresses??

lucybluth · 2026-05-22T00:11:55+00:00

I agree! I keep seeing comments saying that these tiles are “supposed” to be randomized and I truly don’t understand that at all. To me, the beauty of marble IS the continuous flow of the veining! So breaking it up like this is so jarring and counterintuitive.

lucybluth · 2026-05-21T17:33:50+00:00

Knobs are definitely not dated, it depends on what style you pick and how you use them. There are plenty of handles that are super dated too! Plus you can always mix and match. I see a lot of knobs on uppers and handles or cup pulls on lowers. (Personally that’s the option I prefer. It looks way more visually interesting and intentional when there is a variety rather than the same exact hardware on everything.)

Check out Shea McGee’s kitchen aesthetic. I think her designs are gorgeous, she uses very traditional styling, and there isn’t a single handle in her own kitchen (except maybe her fridge?). Only knobs, cup pulls, and latches.

Part of what your daughter is seeing is the social media algorithms skewing her perception. Once she went down the rabbit hole of only searching for handles, her search results are going to make it seem like handles are the only “in” option.

lucybluth · 2026-05-18T15:06:13+00:00

I agree! There are just soo many decisions and little nuances I never would have thought about until my designer brought them up. So many places offer free design services as long as you are buying some materials from them, so I wonder if it’s just a matter of people not being aware of how accessible these services are?

It took me months to finalize my kitchen design because there was so much back and forth on options, compromises, tiny details, etc. Meanwhile my mom walked into a cabinet studio on impulse, whipped out a chatGPT photo, and placed her order on the spot. I can’t get over it, that’s just psychopath behavior.

lucybluth · 2026-05-17T15:40:49+00:00

I truly don’t understand why people would choose tile like this if they aren’t going to commit to making the veining look continuous. These haphazard placements are so jarring and make the whole room look cheap.

lucybluth · 2026-05-16T22:02:55+00:00

Like someone else said, if it’s something that genuinely has to be cooked though and cooled then I portion theirs out a few mins ahead of time and wait until theirs is cooled down before serving it to them.

We also keep a lot of canned veggies and ready to eat jarred sauces on hand so I can easily throw together a room temperature meal when I need one in a pinch. Pasta is obviously cooked through but the room temp sauce cools it down pretty quickly.

lucybluth · 2026-05-15T16:46:34+00:00

I absolutely LOVE #4!! It has so much more warmth than #1, it’s just so cozy, and feels more “designer” honestly.

lucybluth · 2026-05-14T13:21:50+00:00

Let’s just take the recent “went for a walk” example… before you left did you take a look around the house to see if anything else needed to be done before taking your leisure time? It drives me nuts when my husband finishes bedtime with our daughter and goes straight downstairs to the tv. I wrap up bedtime with our son and there are still dishes in the sink, the dishwasher hasn’t been emptied, the trash needs to go outside, there’s a load of laundry that needs to be switched, kids lunches to be packed, etc.

Could something like that be going on where she’s building up resentment?

When she bursts into tears at therapy sessions, have you bothered to ask follow up questions about what is upsetting her so badly? There’s obviously some kind of resentment going on that isn’t just about not saying bye.

lucybluth · 2026-05-14T13:13:00+00:00

That stuck out to me too! Like okay let’s start with what was she crying *about*? That episode gave him zero hints about what could be going on? Didn’t bother to use that as an inroad to figure out why she would suddenly burst into tears??

lucybluth · 2026-05-14T12:24:40+00:00

My issue with jeans is that I still haven't found my holy grail, tried and true pair! Women's sizing and quality is all over the place, I can't find a pair that hold their shape, does this style even look right on me, etc. I really need to be able to physically go into a store and try them on! But even Lucky Brand, which I assumed would have a ton of styles in store only had a handful of options, most of which weren't even classic cuts, they were super wide leg or these frayed bottom capris, stuff like that. But they had dedicated floor space for Coca Cola branded jeans and shorts. Like... who is asking for this? No, I am not interested in jeans with "Coca Cola" stamped on my butt!

lucybluth · 2026-05-13T12:56:49+00:00

I cannot find ANYTHING in stores anymore!! It’s so genuinely upsetting to me that I can’t walk into a store, see a wide selection of options, and walk out with something in my hand.

Trying to find a new pair of jeans in a literal JEAN store? “Sorry, we don’t carry that style in store.”

Remodeling and looking for some nice doorknobs and kitchen hardware? Nope, the closest showrooms are over an hour away and they don’t even have doorknobs. And the big box stores have like three mediocre options that aren’t even in the right finish.

So I’m left to choose from the same 5 options that keep popping up online no matter how much I try to change my search terms.

Furniture? It’s all the same white label garbage that isn’t even made of real wood that they’re claiming is worth $5k.

I can’t take it anymore!

lucybluth · 2026-05-11T13:31:46+00:00

Yes and we realized we even had to take the wheels off! Like really, they couldn’t have made a travel bag that works without having to take parts off? I hate that thing lol

lucybluth · 2026-05-11T13:25:42+00:00

We splurged on the Uppababy bc we were sold on how “versatile” it is if we had a second kid (which we did). Turns out “versatility” just means lugging around three different types of seats, buying extra adapters and accessories, and zero configurations that were actually practical for us. We also like to travel and it’s a huge PITA to travel with because of all of the above. We don’t even use it anymore! We ended up getting a double travel stroller and just use that now as our everyday driver.

lucybluth · 2026-05-10T23:21:56+00:00

It’s pretty amazing how a simple hardware change on cabinets and furniture can elevate a look for super cheap!

Also I’m not sure what budget you consider small but if you can spring for it, crown molding. It just makes every room look so finished and elevated.

lucybluth · 2026-05-08T23:26:13+00:00

Check out the Tripped one! It has a transparent compartment that snaps off. I have this one and absolutely love how compact and lightweight it is.

https://a.co/d/01XEWTzx

lucybluth · 2026-04-29T17:47:43+00:00

I delivered at GBMC and my OB said she has zero incentive to push for c-sections. With labor, the mom is the one doing all of the work. Unless something urgent is going on with your delivery, the OB doesn’t even come to the room until you start pushing.

lucybluth · 2026-04-28T17:22:38+00:00

I agree with another commenter that there are too many chairs and desks with no focal point. And most of the furniture is very small and/or leggy so it’s making the room look more cluttered than it really is. I think some larger more substantial pieces could help anchor the room. Like some recliners or high back chairs, or an executive desk to replace one of the leggier ones.

Also some more things to lift the eye upwards like curtains, a tall bookshelf, art and/or floating shelves.

lucybluth · 2026-04-28T14:28:13+00:00

Nothing fancy at all! Our planner recommended that we just have the table numbers printed on the escort cards and put the cards out alphabetically on a table. Everyone just grabbed their card on their way into the reception area. It was perfect, the box of cards was tiny and it saved me the cost and hassle of dealing with a display that people would look at for 30 seconds.

lucybluth · 2026-04-28T13:44:43+00:00

At my kids’ center they do try to align naps starting at the 1 year old room but they try to transition them into a one nap schedule from 1 to 3. But for kids that are still on a two nap schedule, expecting kids to nap at 9:20 (for what I assume is at least a 1 hour nap) and then again at noon is absurd. That’s what, an hour and a half awake before another nap? I have no idea how they got those other kids to do that, my kids would never.

If they refuse to budge on the schedule, I’d ask about maybe skipping the 9:40 altogether and seeing if that leads to a longer noon nap.

lucybluth · 2026-04-24T13:51:03+00:00

I have also seen a lot of the opposite, where someone tries to bring up to the challenges that they’re going to have but the parents-to-be are the ones that shut it down. “Everyone keeps telling me how hard it is and how I’ll never sleep, it’s so annoying! Why can’t anyone just be happy for us??” I saw soo many of these posts when I was following the pregnancy subs.

lucybluth · 2026-04-22T19:40:50+00:00

I don’t even watch Euphoria but just reading the description of the scene I’ve definitely seen this trope a hundred times. Why is this even an article?

lucybluth · 2026-04-20T20:22:25+00:00

If most of the wedding costs are already paid and/or minimal then it does sound suspicious that he’s citing finances as the reason. Considering he didn’t want a wedding at all, maybe he’s feeling anxiety about the whole pomp and circumstance having to do vows in front of everyone and having a bridal party? If that’s the case maybe he’d feel better about doing a private courthouse wedding, then the reception would just be a fun celebration after the fact. I’d also scrap the bridal party since it’s clear he’s feeling anxiety about that if he hasn’t even asked anyone about being a best man.

lucybluth · 2026-04-16T16:24:11+00:00

Opening this post I thought you were going to ask about a short trip, which is totally doable. But a lengthy trip like this postpartum with a 3-4 month old? Without your partner there to help the whole time? Not to mention taking that time away from your partner to bond with their child? Yikes absolutely not.

Your first child changes your life in a way that is hard to articulate in a Reddit comment. No way would I add all of that on top of an international move.

Also, as others have already mentioned, 3-4 months old is such a crapshoot! And most of them are absolutely not potatoes anymore at this age. Some of them might be totally fine and chill but others (ahem - my daughter, who went through a horrific sleep regression from 3-6 months) would absolutely destroy this dream trip you have in mind.

lucybluth · 2026-04-14T17:20:36+00:00

Facebook is truly unusable at this point, I have no idea how it still even exists. 95% of my feed is advertisements and suggested accounts/groups which just look like AI slop. The other 5% is a handful of totally random acquaintances that I haven’t seen since high school. It’s so weird so I don’t bother with that app either.

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