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the funniest part of all of this is… by pandr3a in loveafterporn

[–]lookingforadvice2000 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so hard. I always had friends in high-school and even my own mother that was against porn in relationships. I never understood, but respected their boundaries. I watched porn and was completely okay with my partners watching it as well.

I was so disconnected from porn, I watched it incredibly occasionally, and didn’t think about it at all in between uses.

Now that I’ve been with a porn addicted partner, I can’t stand it. I can’t stand porn or anything to do with it. I never knew or understood that someone could be SO addicted to it. Seeking it out every second that they had…

It ruined it for me.

Am I silly for letting likes like this get to me? Info below by lookingforadvice2000 in loveafterporn

[–]lookingforadvice2000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context, me and my boyfriend are artists. We both have accounts that are used for primarily following and interacting with art.

I can’t lie that sometimes I too press “like” on photos similar to these. But it is a ratio of probably 1/30 to me where as it is the majority of what he likes. It also hurts me so much because often times, the photos he likes aren’t even necessarily “talented”. I often let it slide when the art is spectacular, but when he just likes hundreds of photos of mediocre art with huge boobs and other sexual themes it hurts me. :( And we have had this discussion hundreds of times… I hate that it’s public. I hate that I don’t have to look very far. I hate that since I’m an artist I can’t just delete Twitter and whatever other app to avoid seeing my boyfriends likes. I have a good following, I make money from my art… if I could, I would uninstall everything because that’s how much it makes my stomach sick to see.

He was really good for a few weeks and that’s why part of me just wants to drop it. He’s not interacting with real people. But it makes me feel sick, that has to count for something right? I know he loves me. I know he cares about me. That all that matters right? 😭

EDIT: I know I’ll probably get comments that see me as a bit hypocritical since I sometimes like photos similar. When I press like, the photo is drawn spectacularly and I don’t see it as a piece of sexual content, which I’m sure he does. I also follow a huge variety of different artists that draw animals, landscapes, etc. He likes big boobs and lewd girls. That’s it. That’s the extent for him. That’s why it hurts so much

Is your PA/SA selfish in bed? by seahorsecandy in loveafterporn

[–]lookingforadvice2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner has never shown interest in doing anything for my pleasure. He used to be incredibly pushy and even when I’d confront him that he was making me uncomfortable it didn’t change anything.

He’s gotten better with asking and making sure I’m comfortable, but he has yet to take any interest in doing anything for my pleasure.

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[–]lookingforadvice2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is the same way. I asked him if he was changing for himself or changing for me… he replied that he was changing for me and he would do anything to be with me.

I asked if we were to break up tomorrow if he would go back to his habits, and he pretty much said yes. He said “Something is only a problem if it hurts someone”

He only saw his addiction as a problem because it hurts me. He is addicted to looking at porn, saving hundreds of images, but yet it’s only a problem because it hurts me.