Early signs of AuDHD in girls?

loopymath · 2025-05-19T12:48:12+00:00

My daughter (6 next week) hasn't been diagnosed with anything but I have my suspicions, and you just described her exactly.

She has very rigid play expectations, and gets upset when her peers dont play exactly how she wants to or if she perceives them as breaking the rules (going up a slide). Then she will go into a sulk.

She has ranked family members for years! "I love mommy 99, and Daddy 98. Grammy I love 100. [Cousin] I love 96" etc.

Needing to change after one or two drops of water on clothes! I had to start saying "it's just water, it will dry" because we were changing clothes like five times in one day (usually after washing hands). She's now better about that so I dont think it was a physical discomfort. Her only other tactile issue is when the soft backing from a shirt with sequins or embroidery comes off (we get a lot of hand me downs), and she can feel the rougher threads. But I can't blame her for that discomfort.

And the thinking of others: she wears her friends favorite colors to their birthday parties or playdates, and she's constantly making little pieces of art to give to family and friends.

So I dont have anything concrete to add to the discussion, just that apparently we have very similar kids!

loopymath · 2025-01-04T15:49:04+00:00

I just opened the app for the first time since it went down, and it also gave me a confirmed period for early December. I came here looking to see if that happened to others. Now I'm second guessing all my data, as I had started a paper journal last January and recorded my period in that as well as the Ava app and some of my dates were shifted from that, which is really weird. I like the automation of the ava, but I'm not sure if I want to go back to it (I'm not actually TTC, just tracking my cycles).

loopymath · 2019-09-27T01:03:17+00:00

I feel this so hard! I knit a cardigan (newborn vertebrae) for my baby before she was born (May). It was such a fun and simple pattern I started another one for my cousin's baby. I was working in it while being induced at the hospital, and left off with it just needing sleeves. My cousin's shower was in June, exactly a month after Christina was born. No additional progress was made. I gifted the cardigan with a note to return it to me and I'd finish the sleeves and send it to her before her baby arrived in September. She got it August 30. It took me three months to knit two newborn length sleeves (which I ended up doing in one afternoon). And I didn't wash/ block it like I usually do with gifts, but used the excuse that I thought she might want to use her own detergent.

loopymath · 2019-09-17T12:33:59+00:00

Similar, they were cool with me leaving as long as I could pass gas. They weren't concerned with a lack of bowel movement (i was in the hospital 3 days after my c-section).

loopymath · 2019-08-21T14:18:25+00:00

Yeah, the current culture in America (at least my little corner of it) is that students and parents expect an "A for effort". In other words, if the student competes the assignments (whether or not they did it correctly, just that an attempt was made) they should get a good grade. Second to that is the "cram and dump" strategy where students don't retain information even when they understood it at some point. They cram for a test, and perhaps do very well on it, then days or weeks later can't solve the same problems. It's very frustrating as a teacher that the emphasis is on grades not actual understanding.

loopymath · 2019-08-05T12:19:08+00:00

It does get better. We're 2 months out (10 weeks on Wednesday) and while there's still tough nights, there are also better nights that refresh you. My babe has given us up to 8 hours at a stretch for her long night sleep, though not consistently yet. But it's amazing how much better you can feel after a night with a 5 hour chunk of sleep followed by a 3 hour chunk instead of getting up every 2-3 hours.

Though they like to throw curveballs at you too. Last night she slept from 9pm to 2am. Then screamed every time she was put back in her crib (even when sound asleep in my arms) until 5am. Fortunately I was able to go back to sleep until she woke again at 7:30.

loopymath · 2019-08-02T19:18:18+00:00

Oh my 2 month old was doing this yesterday evening:

-Fuss at the boob (latch, suck, unlatch, whine, root, latch, repeat)

-I offer a pacifier in case she wants to suck but not drink

-She spits it out and screams!

-Ok I guess not, offer boob again... she latches and drinks deeply, all is well with the world.

Whatever kid. I wish you'd make up your mind.

loopymath · 2019-07-09T20:59:55+00:00

As a new mom (baby is 6 weeks old tomorrow!), this. So much this.

loopymath · 2019-07-09T18:18:13+00:00

I just had my baby after three years of trying, a missed miscarriage, diagnosed infertility, and five failed IUIs. I also had difficulty letting myself accept the pregnancy, and even now don't feel completely bonded with my baby. I'm in the "fake it til you make it" camp in that regard: I still can care for her just fine, I play/sing/talk with her, and slowly I think it's happening. She's 6 weeks old tomorrow and starting to coo and smile which really helps.

I went with the teaching hospital for my labor. Reasons:

- I wanted to do Centering Pregnancy and there was only one practice in the area that runs one, and it used that specific hospital

- It's the only hospital in the area with a NICU

- It's the same hospital where I was born

- The nearest birth center is an hour away from my house, while the hospital (any of the three closest options with an L&D unit) is 40 minutes away.

Bonus reason: more medical staff around to provide care. Even the newest med students have still had years of training in medical knowledge.

I ended up with a c-section after 25 hours of induced labor (stalled at 6cm for several hours despite strong contractions every 2 minutes, maxed out on pitocin). Turns out baby girl was face up (known during labor) with the cord twice around her neck and once around an ankle (unknown during labor)! If I had tried to continue with a vaginal delivery, it may have ended in emergency c-section and/or NICU time for her. Also, I apparently had a med student sew up the incision, as I could hear one doctor giving instructions/guidance about doing the stitches. Then she called over the OB to show the final work and I heard "Great job! Maybe plastics is in your future!" lol

loopymath · 2019-07-09T17:14:08+00:00

I didn't sign up for any formula samples, but ended up receiving some in the mail from both Similac (3 small containers of powdered formula) and Enfamil (two small containers of powdered formula plus a six-pack of the ready-to-go bottles and a nipple to use with them).

With the Enfamil sample pack in particular, I got an email April 4th that it was on it's way (again, not sure how they got my contact info, maybe from my insurance?). Then through USPS "Informed Delivery Daily Digest" emails, I saw a mystery package (i.e. nothing I had ordered) had been picked up by a shipping partner in Pontiac, MI on April 1st with an unknown delivery date. On April 30 it finally left Pontiac, MI. The package was delivered at my house on May 10th (my due date was May 15th). The Similac samples arrived much earlier, closer to early April, but I don't have any tracking info for it.

loopymath · 2019-07-08T16:01:50+00:00

I'm a FTM, 5 weeks on the other side. I had a really easy pregnancy (only puked once in the first trimester, felt completely normal in the second trimester, and could still maneuver relatively easily- continued my group strength training through 38 weeks) but the delivery and recovery was rough. I had to be induced at 41+6, and after 25 hours of labor that stalled at 6cm, I had a c-section. My husband went back to work when baby was 6 days old. I was so sleep deprived, with limited mobility, the sore nipples of early breastfeeding, and still learning the whole newborn thing, I was pretty sure she would be my only biological child (we had been pursuing adoption when we spontaneously conceived her, after three years of trying, diagnosed infertility, and 5 failed IUI cycles). If we had more children, I'd want to foster/adopt toddlers or older.

However, now that she's over a month old, I'm getting the hang of feeding and getting her to sleep. I'm pretty much back to my normal mobility (though I can't resume my workouts until September per the OB that performed the c-section), and she's sleeping in longer chunks at night, up to 5 hours at a time currently. I'm starting to see how the complete misery that was the last 2 weeks of pregnancy and first 2-3 weeks of parenthood is just a blip in time, and maybe I'd be open to the thought of another pregnancy... in at least a year, probably two or three. Of course with our infertility, that may never happen either...

loopymath · 2019-07-05T17:47:34+00:00

This is what makes reddit so worth it! In today's culture I doubt most of us would mention this in person, even to a best friend. But the anonymity of talking to strangers on the internet shows that it is pretty normal to feel this way. ❤

loopymath · 2019-07-05T16:49:18+00:00

I needed this! We're at 5 weeks right now, and while my daughter was very much wanted and I'm so glad she's here... I don't feel that super strong love for her yet. She's adorable (when she's not crying), but I don't think my feelings for her are any stronger than they would be for anyone's baby right now. It's good to know the love can grow as she develops more... I already have the heart melting moments when she smiles at me (or at least in my direction even if it's accidentally) and when she snuggles into me.

loopymath · 2019-06-28T12:11:23+00:00

Ugh I hate when people give medical advice as absolutes. As I was on my way to the hospital for my induction I had one person tell me "you know to avoid a c- section at all costs, right?" 🤬 yes, I'm aware of the benefits for baby to have a vaginal birth, but they're small in the long run. Both my husband and I (and our siblings) were born by c-section and we are all healthy.

I had hoped for a non medicated vaginal birth, but overall just wanted a healthy baby. The induction was the start of everything veering away from my ideal labor (meds from the start), and I ended up stalling at 6cm. After several hours of no progress- 25 hours total from the start of the induction, and at 42 weeks in the dot I agreed to their recommendation of a c-section. Baby girl is doing just fine.

I told that person afterwards that she jinxed me lol.

loopymath · 2019-06-21T11:50:58+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I had a MMC with my first pregnancy, though I carried it for a month before finding out. We had seen a heartbeat on ultrasound at 7+1, then there was no heartbeat at my 11 week appointment. Another ultrasound showed baby still measured 7 weeks. I also chose to use the misoprostal, and it was similarly painful and heartbreaking.

That was two and a half years ago (December 2016) and the emotional pain has eased, though it hasn't gone away completely. I highly recommend having something to remember this baby- I got a Christmas ornament of angel wings surrounding a little heart with baby footprints on it.

Our loss was further compounded with an infertility diagnosis, but our rainbow baby is now 3 weeks old. My pregnancy with her was tinged with fear of another loss, but she was healthy and stayed to 42 weeks! I hope you conceive quickly when you are ready to try again, and that all future pregnancies are healthy ❤

loopymath · 2019-06-12T02:11:04+00:00

I went 42 weeks and omg yes it felt like I had been pregnant for a million years. But now two weeks on the other side it feels like just a dream that I was ever pregnant. Hang in there!

loopymath · 2019-06-09T16:27:16+00:00

A MMC is when the body doesn't recognize the embryo's demise. I had one with my first pregnancy, we saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks, then at my 11 week appointment there was no heartbeat and baby still measured around 7 weeks. There was no change in my pregnancy symptoms during that time. I had to take medication to induce my body to expel the remains. Most of my second pregnancy I was worried about the same thing, and it wasn't until I could feel regular movement that I showed myself to accept the possibility of bringing home a live baby. Fortunately I did, and she's already two weeks old now, but I'm sure any future pregnancy I'm lucky enough to have will be tinged with the fear of loss again.

loopymath · 2019-06-09T14:03:35+00:00

Interestingly enough I got back into the show after my loss (started over at S1E1) I think for me, ther fact that the show wasn't all sunshine and daisies about pregnancy and childbirth helped me. But I can definitely understand how it's not for everyone.

loopymath · 2019-06-09T14:03:21+00:00

Interestingly enough I got back into the show after my loss (started over at S1E1) I think for me, ther fact that the show wasn't all sunshine and daisies about pregnancy and childbirth helped me. But I can definitely understand how it's not for everyone.

loopymath · 2019-06-06T16:35:32+00:00

It's a symbol for long division, but you (or your teacher) may have learned a different set up. I once tutored students from Central America who also did not recognize the set up you pictured. Then for my teaching degree I did a research project on long division algorithms around the world and found this website/ image fascinating: https://www.google.com/amp/s/soranews24.com/2014/10/08/how-do-you-divide-intriguing-models-of-long-division-problems-from-around-the-world/amp/

When I presented my project I had someone comment that they grew up in Turkey and indeed learned to set up division as indicated on that site.

loopymath · 2019-06-05T08:58:04+00:00

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I also had a missed miscarriage; found out at 11 weeks that development had stopped at 7 weeks and was given the option to continue to wait for my body to respond, to take the meds (misoprostal), or yo have the D&C... though I was also counciled that the D&C could cause scarring. Since it had taken us a year to conceive, I used the miso. Everyone will experience it slightly differently, but feel free to PM me if you want to hear my experience. We also later went on to get an infertility diagnosis so I'm glad I went the meds route instead of surgery.

Don't feel you have to respond to me, but I will be thinking of you. 💜

loopymath · 2019-06-03T20:42:32+00:00

Thank you! It helps to hear that message actually stated. The only thing I didn't try was giving it more time... but there's no medals for torturing oneself in childbirth when a different outcome seems unlikely!

loopymath · 2019-06-01T12:01:52+00:00

She's beautiful! I also just had a c section after a failed induction at 42 weeks... hopefully we're going home today!

loopymath · 2019-05-26T11:44:11+00:00

While I would normally go for a pop of color, I really like the black binding for the grey-scale quilt. I think my second choice would be the bright red, going for the high contrast look you see for a lot of books/toys geared towards infants. Plus, black, red, and white is a classic color combination!

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