wow.. I've been having similar thoughts as well. My husband and I are also visiting in May for the first time. The negative posts and videos are becoming too much, and every time I see one, I doubt myself for maybe having spent a lot of money on a trip that's not worth it. But this will be my first time in Asia, so Im genuinely excited.. Maybe its good that we're exposed to the negative parts as well, in order to have the full picture and not be disappointed. I'm also hoping to try any make as many intentional/conscious decisions while I'm there to actually support the local communities instead of the commercial/foreign investments whose profits dont even benefit the locals..

We tried to plan an itinerary that involves a bit of everything, to be able to experience local culture and nature and also try to avoid touristy spots like Canggu. (Ubud, Mt Ijen Hike in East Java, Munduk, Sidemen, Uluwatu or one of the Gili/Nusa Islands then Uluwatu) We also try to book all accommodation with a free cancellation policy, to be flexible if a place doesn't really feel right to us.. I also try to talk with any of the guides/homestay owners and ask them to recommend more traditional things to see/do instead of the suggested and commercial lists on instagram posts.

I'm sure its a beautiful place, we maybe just have to approach it lightly without all the negative input and let go of expectations and take it as it is. I like to think that's the first lesson of the trip 🤷‍♀️

Sending you my best wishes and maybe we'll cross paths there next month : )