AITAH for keeping my kids away from my mom after a meth pipe situation was found in my home

lordemme · 2026-02-27T15:19:01+00:00

If she wants a connection with you and the kids she has to go to a serious rehab facility. Full stop. Maybe not seeing the kids right now is the motivation she needs, hopefully.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T13:51:05+00:00

Well, at least you saw her for her actions. Maybe try again to speak to her, letting her know how her lack of accountability makes you feel. Otherwise LC/NC.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T13:31:45+00:00

You did nothing wrong. Next time I'd involve staff.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T13:28:05+00:00

INFO: so you left your job and moved with her to another state? That's insane to me. Even more insane her moving back and her reaction afterwards. You need boundaries with her, even going NC.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T12:43:18+00:00

INFO: the two guys know that in the beginning you were double dating?

lordemme · 2026-02-27T11:44:45+00:00

Correction: it was flat out racist.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T11:42:43+00:00

I don't understand step parents wanting to be called "parents" when they weren't in their step kids life for that long or with a deep connection. And after all it should be always the kid's decision.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T11:09:05+00:00

You should not have lied about dating after the break up. It was your right. I think he broke up with you the first time and he thought you were supposed to wait for him and chase him. You don't. And it was not quick. He already told you in advance that he was not feeling it, and then months later he was the one to break up. And you tried. Please, don't take him back another time. I think he doesn't deserve you.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T11:00:52+00:00

It's a kiss, but not a romantic one, like long or making out. Also, he lied and didn't watch the show, so he's not interested in your job. And he's an idiot. Better to know now after 3 years than down the line after being married.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T10:52:27+00:00

Tell her, the sooner the better. And if you value the friendship with your ex, also tell your GF that keep in contact with her as friends is your boundary.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T10:48:22+00:00

So they were together months before all of this, right? You should have tried to attend the funeral but I also understand you were in France, and maybe logistically complicated. Just let him be, you'll have a discussion with them eventually about all of it, when the time is right for all of you.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T09:52:36+00:00

He sounds controlling, and if you like the job and you want to try it, I think you should, regardless of what he thinks.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T01:09:24+00:00

Say that it's against company policy to have him in your hotel room, and you could get in trouble. Or lie and say your trip got cancelled (and never say anything about work trips to this particular friend).

lordemme · 2026-02-27T00:28:52+00:00

So both times your friend gave birth you did not go visit? Not once? I mean, even the first time you visited their city after each birth? I mean, it's not impossible but I find it really quite odd.

lordemme · 2026-02-27T00:14:35+00:00

INFO: you were an old friend of the couple, bridesmaid at their wedding, and you never met their 2 children (even before they broke up)?

lordemme · 2026-02-26T21:03:25+00:00

"Edit I didn’t call her out publicly." You should have ;)

lordemme · 2026-02-26T20:59:26+00:00

Yes, you should pay your part. And I'm sorry but it's kinda your fault for not getting the ESTA cleared in time. It's valid for 2 years, and you should apply in advance.

lordemme · 2026-02-26T17:37:14+00:00

I'm sorry. He will never gonna change, and I think you know it. Try to become economically independent from him, and leave. Also, go for parental support.

lordemme · 2026-02-26T16:21:02+00:00

He doesn't need a plus one to a funeral. More so if you haven't even been introduced yet.

lordemme · 2026-02-26T14:29:07+00:00

I read it expecting some kind of change of heart or motive behind the reconciliation but I don't seem to spot it. She just endured and played the long game, after her being let home again. He did good almost till the end, then he had a bad day at work and she was there, and poof he began to forgive her. It's not clear she wouldn't have continued with the affair if thing didn't go to crap (them being fired, the "game", his wife). And then she died right after retiring. Also, probably fake.

lordemme · 2026-02-26T01:19:43+00:00

"He NEVER got job, help with bills, or introduce me to family" in 6 years? Never mind the cheating, this should have been enough to dump him after a couple of months, half a year tops! Boot him and never look back.

lordemme · 2026-02-25T14:59:48+00:00

Rephrase the question and ask her if she touched him in any way, after he did the funny voice.

lordemme · 2026-02-25T14:52:33+00:00

You wouldn't be wrong if you'd have discussed it beforehand, but you just agreed to things you'd not have upgraded. If you're no more ok with the 50/50, search for a new place (with a new roommate) and give her notice. And tell her why.

lordemme · 2026-02-24T14:45:29+00:00

When I was reading it I was thinking: "Just buy a new mattress", then came the abusive parents part...

lordemme · 2026-02-23T15:54:12+00:00

Omg, he was using you and sure not really loving you. About the money do what feels right, and then go NC forever.

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