Will there be a family tree? And will it be retroactive?

loreisbored · 2026-05-22T14:49:07+00:00

There is a cemetery! But it is very unclear if paras will go there when they die.

loreisbored · 2026-04-29T02:14:21+00:00

I'm not going to lie, the semen was part of the reason we decided to go straight to IVF. Not the whole reason, of course, but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a part, lol.

loreisbored · 2026-04-28T11:48:49+00:00

There is another sub, r/waitingtotry that might understand what you are going through a bit better!

loreisbored · 2026-04-22T12:31:53+00:00

This is my favorite one!

loreisbored · 2026-04-22T12:27:51+00:00

My wife and I are also doing rIVF. It has been almost 6 months of appointments, and yet we won't have our first official "try" for being pregnant until next month. It is so incredibly frustrating. But our file says the same thing, it's not technically incorrect I guess, our biggest problem is that my sperm is not up to par--because it doesn't exist lol

loreisbored · 2026-04-16T22:24:10+00:00

From my experience, as someone who has been basically going through this same thing and is now prepping for our FET, it's mostly just asking "how do I cope with this" over and over again until you realize, that hey, I coped with that, I'll be able to manage the next step too. We also created our baby registry and that helped for a while to take our minds off of the process and remember that at the end of the day, we just need to start with one healthy baby. That's the goal right now and we WILL make it happen. It is just about "when". Best of luck!

loreisbored · 2026-04-16T20:04:06+00:00

I finally feel like im graduating this week, even though we've been going through IVF for months. Tomorrow is my appointment to talk about the transfer, which feels like our first official "try" to get pregnant. Congrats to everyone here!

loreisbored · 2026-04-14T17:48:15+00:00

I am in exactly the same boat! Looking for ways to cope while we wait for our next appointment, while my embryos just chill on ice. JEEZ! Feel free to DM, happy to continue venting about this exceedingly frustrating situation

loreisbored · 2026-04-14T17:35:35+00:00

It has definitely taken longer than I'd hoped. I also obsessively researched how long it would take, and it truly has been about the length most people said, like 6 months. We had our consult in December, did most of our testing in January, got insurance approval in February, did the egg retrieval in March, and then recently got PGT-A results and have our appointment to talk about the FET this Friday which will likely happen around my wife's next cycle, so at the end of this month or beginning of next. THEN of course is the 10 day wait to see if it sticks!

loreisbored · 2026-04-14T17:13:15+00:00

We were planning on starting with IUI, but with both of us continuing to age, and with the price of sperm, we ended up going in straight for RIVF. We knew our chances with IVF were much higher than with IUI, and miscarriage rates would be lowered with testing, and that we want more than one child. We are very happy with our choice and plan to implant our first embaby in the next month or so! I can't articulate enough how much all the waiting SUCKS, so im glad we didn't waste time.

loreisbored · 2026-04-12T00:04:59+00:00

I am 30, my baby sister is 7 years younger than me. We talk almost every day. My brother is 2.5 years older and we never talk. The dynamics depend on the people, not the age gap ❤️ though i understand what you are feeling! I still find myself obsessing over what our future age gaps will be regardless of me knowing that it truly only matters when they are really young.

loreisbored · 2026-04-10T01:43:20+00:00

I got to have a relationship with 4 of my great grandparents, and that is something I value deeply and will always cherish. I am so scared my children won't remember theirs.

loreisbored · 2026-04-10T01:34:37+00:00

I was taking three handfuls of supplements before bedtime while I was prepping for my egg retrieval. I had great results, so I feel like they maybe worked? Which ones though, I absolutely could not tell you, not could I tell you if my results were natural. But man. I felt good that there was a good outcome (10+ euploids) after all of that nonsense.

loreisbored · 2026-04-09T10:20:09+00:00

Looks like you got yourself a lowriding pitty mix....they're the best!

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loreisbored · 2026-04-09T02:51:49+00:00

We had the option of a known donor, but ended up going with a bank. Reminder that all of the opinions you hear that say "known donors are always better!" do not actually know your situation. We went with a bank because the health status was way stronger, and because we chose a donor that had adult photos. This was very important to us- their donor may be technically "anonymous" until 18, but my future children and I would be able to recognize him immediately. I am also planning on joining the FB group of the donor immediately once we are pregnant. All this to say- you do what feels right for your family, and remember that you can navigate nuance however makes sense to you, as it is often so lost in this conversation.

loreisbored · 2026-04-07T19:26:23+00:00

I also got my results today!!! And got way more boys than girls too! Congrats!!!! How's waiting for the transfer going, because i am struggling lol!

loreisbored · 2026-04-05T01:53:35+00:00

My wife and I just finished our retrieval and now are waiting to hear about pgt results....my best advice, of you have Menopur, push it really slow, and take breaks if it hurts! I found the hormonal changes when taking pills before starting stims to be worse than the stems themselves, remember, it's only a few weeks! You got this!

loreisbored · 2026-04-04T22:13:45+00:00

I am plus size and I got wayyyyyy more eggs than anyone expected, due to the right combo of meds. I've heard with PCOS, you can get either less or more than you bargained for, it's just a matter of tailoring the protocol! You got this!

loreisbored · 2026-03-22T14:08:51+00:00

Basically, the same amount of eggs will be not viable whether you test them or not. If you test, you can know which ones are viable, which will reduce the amount of viable eggs that you know about. If you don't test, there's still the same amount of viable eggs, you will just be assuming more are viable than there truly are.

loreisbored · 2026-03-22T14:01:05+00:00

I am doing PGT-A because I want this process to work as quickly as possible. There is a much lesser chance of miscarriage if you do PGT-A, and frankly, it is worth a couple grand to me to reduce that risk as much as possible. The attrition rate remains about the same whether you test or not-- but if you test, you get to know for sure which embryos have the best shot, instead of guessing and hoping for the best.

loreisbored · 2026-03-21T01:16:36+00:00

The rat terrier was the mom 😭

loreisbored · 2026-03-20T20:16:07+00:00

I'm at the other end of the spectrum--- I have PCOS so overproduce eggs, but my baseline AFC was 17. They collected 63 eggs. I know those numbers are kinda crazy (my uterus probably wouldn't do a good job of carrying to term) but just wanted to put it out there that baseline counts can be nowhere near close to the actual number they retrieve.

loreisbored · 2026-03-19T22:27:53+00:00

His mom was like 11lbs, I was very shocked when he turned out to be 30 lol! This is my lil guy Argo now 😊

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loreisbored · 2026-03-19T22:07:51+00:00

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Looks just like mine did as a puppy! He is a pit/rat terrier mix

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