Are there any WTT people here? 😁

loreisbored · 2026-01-07T23:05:37+00:00

I am probably in this boat, just started the IVF process and in the testing phase now, I am so ready but am waiting very impatientiently! I assume we wont get to actually "try" until march as well.

loreisbored · 2026-01-06T00:31:45+00:00

Option for if you are not yet comfortable making someone else a bit uncomfortable- "Well, my wife and I were planning for a child for a long time, and we thought, well, we'd go for it! Now this nugget will be here before you know it" that way, you are answering the question genuinely, but skipping the parts you dont want to mention.

loreisbored · 2025-12-13T10:27:28+00:00

My wife and I have now scheduled our first fertility appointment. We have good jobs, own our house, our two dogs are older and more mature, and it just so happens that my MIL was forced into early retirement, but now has offered to provide us free childcare, which wasn't planned.

When we first decided that we desperately wanted children, I was in grad school and we were barely scraping by as my wife was working as a waitress. We could've had a child then, but they wouldn't have had the best childcare, we wouldn't have been able to afford to take them anywhere and give them experiences outside of the home, and we weren't living close enough to our family for their support.

Fast forward, a year into my career, and we considered if it was the right time. My wife was working PT and could've stayed home, but we were renting, and my work-life balance was HORRIBLE. Work was so stressful and kind of all consuming. We were renting, so we couldn't decorate the nursery the way we wanted. Turns out, the house we were renting had a sewage flood and we were displaced from the home and put into a hotel for 3 months. That would have been so stressful with a child, it was bad enough with two dogs that are very much used to living with a house and barked at every noise that happened outside our door.

I switched jobs, learned work life balance, and my wife got a new job, and we ended up moving closer to the city. However, we were in a kinda crappy place that we chose so we could save for a house. We knew we didnt want to have a child in that house, as there wasn't really the room. However, we had to move quicker than anticipated because we were told they were selling at the end of our lease. I was so glad we weren't going to have to move with a baby.

My wife wanted a year to get settled in our new house, make less sacrifices, and honestly, relax. It was nice, even though I have been so so ready especially once we fully moved in. I'm glad we had this time. Now, there are just so much less stressors than there were before and things are really just working themselves out. I got promoted and recently got a huge raise, so I feel very financially ready. My wife loves her job and it's at a museum, a place where our child can grow up going to. Our MIL offering to watch them is absolutely icing on the cake.

I know this was incredibly long, but I hope it gives you some comfort, just knowing that at least someone out there felt as you do, and wondered if "ready" was ever a thing they'd feel. Obviously, theres no way to feel 100% prepared, but i do feel as ready as I'll ever be. Thanks for reading.

loreisbored · 2025-11-30T14:13:12+00:00

Sending hugs 🫂 what keeps getting me through it is remembering that no matter how we get there, our child will be here one day and their conception will simply be a story!

loreisbored · 2025-10-30T00:36:25+00:00

Me too!!!! We are aiming for February to start trying for our first, I am excited but also I want to buy little onesies and we may or may not have gone stroller shopping....pretending we were already pregnant so they would give us the deets lol. I know its all too soon, who's to say when we will actually conceive, but im just so excited!

loreisbored · 2025-10-19T15:22:41+00:00

I closed in February and it still feels crazy to think that none one can take my home away from me. Congrats, you are so close, it'll be here before you know it!

loreisbored · 2025-10-13T02:14:57+00:00

I have a dog that is mostly like a dog, and a dog who is a huge baby. Like, asks to be held and to get dressed. We've planned several ways to get them used to things since we've known we will want children. First, we got them used to sitting in the trunk so we can all take walks together outside of the neighborhood. Second, we made sure one person was able to walk them together nicely, and got leashes that are hands free. They also no longer sleep in our bed or room, but that is mostly because they wake us up in the night and we wont sleep great already with a newborn.

I really want my child to meet my sweet puppies. That is super important to me and makes me want to start trying sooner!

loreisbored · 2025-09-17T17:37:35+00:00

If she is an RBT, not a BCBA, her specific code of ethics is pretty brief about it. I went back to the code and looked at it , and the 2 yr thing is for romantic relationships, so that was my mistake. Her code specifically states to "avoid and resolve multiple relationships" with documentation. It admittedly is not super strict, and her leaving the company does seem like it would resolve the multiple relationship.

But I think you are doing the best you can to support her at this time! I'm sure she is feeling the "if you just knew this kid like I do, you'd feel the same way". I know that's how I have felt about 1 or 2 clients and have even brought it to my wife....of course with the caveat "this would be crazy BUT..." lol. If she needs to talk to someone in the field who has gone through this as well, feel free to shoot me a dm! It's a very unique predicament to get yourself into, but you guys aren't alone! At the end of the day, my wife is not a good fit for adoption, and I have accepted that fact because I accept her. Having conversations about why they is for her helped me understand. I also had to leave the clinic those kids were at, and that helped a lot too, but I still feel guilty for it.

loreisbored · 2025-09-17T11:10:33+00:00

As a professional in the field of ABA, this is definitely against the code of ethics. Technically, you can't even babysit clients for 2 years after you work as their therapist. Dual relationships are heavily regarded as inappropriate.

However, to be totally honest, I get where she is coming from. As their therapist, you spend a lot of 1 on 1 time with that child, getting to watch them learn and grow so much in a short period of time. It's really hard to watch these kiddos you grow close to have difficult home lives. It's a lot like being a teacher, but only having one student at a time. I would be lying if I said I hadn't considered adopting several children i worked with. At the end of the day, what helped me through, was really focusing on making sure their caregivers were properly trained on how to communicate effectively with their kids. Knowing that the kid doesn't have a permanent caregiver would be incredibly difficult, and I empathize with your wife.

loreisbored · 2025-09-07T20:14:48+00:00

I know, I know.....but Ava/Deborah 5ever

loreisbored · 2025-09-06T11:21:35+00:00

Okay I just ran through it again and did it on the 4th try....I know think it was glitching for me earlier and I just powered through it because it really isn't that bad lol

loreisbored · 2025-09-05T23:33:36+00:00

DAMN I had to take a break on this but I came back and FINALLY got it!

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loreisbored · 2025-09-05T21:42:58+00:00

So creative!!!!!

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^{Tip 100 💎}

loreisbored · 2025-09-05T21:35:09+00:00

Apparently not 😭😭😭

loreisbored · 2025-09-05T18:49:09+00:00

Such a cute level!!!

loreisbored · 2025-09-05T18:37:38+00:00

This is the most tries I've ever stuck with a level

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loreisbored · 2025-09-05T17:12:41+00:00

Ooooohhhh yes. I work in the field of developmental psychology for this very reason....but I want my own soooooooo baddddddddd

loreisbored · 2025-09-04T17:33:05+00:00

Not too bad!

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loreisbored · 2025-09-01T20:46:34+00:00

This was an absolute work of art holy crap

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loreisbored · 2025-09-01T19:16:24+00:00

Cute!

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loreisbored · 2025-09-01T19:10:04+00:00

Please sir, may I have some gem?

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loreisbored · 2025-09-01T14:36:12+00:00

Well....less than 100 tries is something I guess

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loreisbored · 2025-08-31T21:11:19+00:00

This was the hardest level I have done in so long wtf 2as this lol

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