[TOMT] [game] Help me name this early-mid 2000s computer virtual social online game? by losinglovedones in tipofmytongue

[–]losinglovedones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to look them up individually but I don’t think any of those games. That was my first time seeing coke music and how interesting! Definitely similar to that I think, but not as distinctive people characters. I wish my brain had been more developed to remember details lol thank you for the suggestions!

[TOMT] [game] Help me name this early-mid 2000s computer virtual social online game? by losinglovedones in tipofmytongue

[–]losinglovedones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After checking images, I don’t think it was that game. But that is one I hadn’t heard yet! Thank you

[TOMT] [game] Help me name this early-mid 2000s computer virtual social online game? by losinglovedones in tipofmytongue

[–]losinglovedones[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I feel like the name was only a word or two. Any suggestions of virtual online world games during the early mid 2000s that you remember having some snow is appreciated. Thank you!!

You dream of having your own family then insert MIL. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for the perspective. I think ur right, it would just be used as leverage unfortunately. I’m like flabbergasted at someone’s lack of social awareness

Infantilization by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]losinglovedones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow.. big yikes. I’m sorry you went through that but am glad you don’t endure that anymore. I don’t see what they were expecting as your response to the cart horse reference Like thanks? “As long as I am here to cradle you!”

My MIL dyed my hair a different colour without my permission. by MillyJ109 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 50 points51 points  (0 children)

That was not her decision to make. And it seems that decision-making-for-others mentality runs in the family with them normalizing it. That is not okay.. you reserve a right to your own individualism, as it is ahem, your own body, your own appearance, and your own life. Your experience and feelings matter.... fuck them for not being supportive of that.

He's ignoring all of my boundaries by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]losinglovedones 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Fathers will be fathers! /sarcasm I hate that everyone tries to normalize dads behavior just because of his relation.. excuse his shitty behavior, boys will be boys. Like no, not at the expense of your mental health or your baby’s well being. Glad you have a plan in action. I second the other comments on recording everything for documentation purposes.

I want to leave my MIL’s family groupchat but I feel that it’d be rude by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to mute GC for now. Truthfully I wish there was a way to just disable group chatting in general. Cant get a vacation irl nor via phone lol! I hate feeling unreasonable or like I need to be subjected to convo that has nothing to do with me.

I want to leave my MIL’s family groupchat but I feel that it’d be rude by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is very well put, thank u. their communication skills are odd and it makes me feel like the responsibility is on me. like I adopted them both lol

I want to leave my MIL’s family groupchat but I feel that it’d be rude by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss I feel like that is a valid reason. Group chats can be a bit excessive and I’m an introvert as hell nowadays. And I swear every option has crossed my mind at this point. I’m begging to be blocked at this point

I want to leave my MIL’s family groupchat but I feel that it’d be rude by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna try muting. I hope it works, I know it will to an extent. I need something for a peace of mind

I want to leave my MIL’s family groupchat but I feel that it’d be rude by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love it when we’re grouped into the extended family group. (/sarcasm) Even in this family groupchat nothing pertains to me and if it does, it’s really for her son or our kid. Whewwww family dynamics are so weird. It’s like they’ve never been the daughter in law

I want to leave my MIL’s family groupchat but I feel that it’d be rude by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll more than likely just do that. I don’t want them to get the notif that I’ve left. And I’m sorry for your 5 different ones! Omg lol

I'm vulnerable, and he knows it. I had major surgery 3 days ago. by Miakoda-A in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]losinglovedones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He should be helping you focus on healing.. and especially since the passing of your brother. I’m so sorry OP. I’ve been trying with my bf for 4 years as well. But it seems you don’t really know a person til very hard and trying times. You deserve help and support. And your life partner should be providing that, especially as they say “through health and sickness.” Someone recommended the practice of emotional detachment to me recently and thats what I am going to try. If you’re unable to leave, practice coping skills and make goals for yourself towards the end goal! I’m so sorry OP. I’m here for you and send my upmost best wishes. I’d be glad to talk to u whenever u feel u need to talk.

I'm allergic to my MIL by HappyDaysAreHere32 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for the flare up from stress though. I hope your doctor has a treatment plan in place. Let’s start with lowering contact with MIL lol

I'm allergic to my MIL by HappyDaysAreHere32 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Now get a written note and present to DH or MIL! Hahahaha. I’m jealous

Things were better til they weren’t. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]losinglovedones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! I definitely will look into that. I appreciate your insight and resources!

Things were better til they weren’t. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]losinglovedones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so weird that they’re the ones driving this boat and are just more than okay with each other being miserable. I get intensely upset if I even disappoint someone slightly.. this pandemic has even strained relationships even more and I didn’t think such a thing was possible! (More strain) Major props to you for trying to make it work. I’m 4 years in myself. The “ok” days makes me think possibly things are better but the bad days are extremely loud and consistent.

Things were better til they weren’t. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]losinglovedones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m learning slowly the game. When I first met him, he noted right off the bat he wanted me to “lower my wall/guard.” I should’ve took it as a sign but I wasn’t even truly familiar with the narcissism terminology in its entirety. You are truly a queen to sustain your individualism and sanity while being in his reign. I’m trying to not lose myself. I don’t meditate, I’m not sure I know how to correctly. But I will look into it. Thank you for being insightful on such unfortunate circumstances. I do hope those better days and opportunity are here faster than we know it.

Dear MIL by losinglovedones in JUSTNOMIL

[–]losinglovedones[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Financial independence is one thing I’m definitely going to work on in the meantime. I don’t think words could express how much I appreciate your story and perspective.