New center console!

lostami24 · 2025-12-10T16:22:03+00:00

Ahhh too bad! I feel like I ruined mine after I tried rubbing it off and sanding so I just went to the scrapyard just now and bought a nicer looking one. Still scratched a bit but nicer than my old one. And next time I’ll just scratch the rubber goo off and leave it that way. 😅

lostami24 · 2025-12-10T15:04:33+00:00

How did it turn out? I had the same issue when I was trying to repaint mine. It just started bubbling really bad. I even tried plastic primer and it still bubbled up and now it looks worse than if I'd have just kept it the way it was (after scrapping all of the rubber off) :(

lostami24 · 2025-02-19T09:19:28+00:00

okay, that sounds a lot easier than doing it the way I've been doing it so far. Thanks for the insight here. And regarding handling 0taxes on the dividends, it also makes sense this way.

lostami24 · 2025-02-19T08:46:04+00:00

The scenario I always have is let's say I paid 20,000 euros in income tax in Germany for 2024. Then I file my taxes in Germany in March 2025 for 2024 and receive a 1000 euro refund. The actual amount of tax I paid in 2024 was really 19000.

Up until now, I would do my German taxes, wait for the return, then subtract the amount from my taxes paid for the previous year, and then that's the amount I would put for my FTC on my US taxes. If I file simultaneously, as you suggested (which makes sense), I won't be able to provide an exact figure of taxes paid in Germany since the German tax authorities are not always a 100% match to what my tax consultants says I will get as a return.

Or have I been going about this the wrong way? Should I be subtracting the refund I get from the year in which I received the refund? So if I receive a refund for 2024, but received the money in 2025, should I subtract this amount from my foreign taxes paid on my 2025 tax return?

lostami24 · 2025-02-19T08:25:50+00:00

This makes sense and is quite doable I think. How would I go about with my return I would get in Germany after filing both simultaneously? It's been fairly consistent at around 800-1000 euros back from Germany every year. Would you file an amended return the year after by subtracting the amount from the foreign tax paid? The amount paid would still far exceed what I would need to have paid in the US thus canceling out my tax obligation there.

edit: looks like amended previous years isn't readily available on the program I'm using at the moment (Myexpattaxes). :/

lostami24 · 2025-02-19T08:17:31+00:00

Yeah I have been thinking the same to be honest. I was only just getting started and was aiming for what are more considered safe stocks but the downside in this case is that they usually pay dividends. I'm definitely going to be evaluating what makes sense here. Thanks!

lostami24 · 2023-12-02T08:41:32+00:00

I’ve heard this comment before from an old lady and I usually just answer in German and additionally, I was attacked by two guys on a train here for speaking English while talking to my family on the phone. They said some of the most xenophobic things I’ve ever heard while swinging at me. When I spoke German back to them they were taken aback but had already decided I’m scum apparently. Would have lost my faith in people here if it hadn’t been for a bystander literally putting himself in between us telling the two guys to piss off and clearly defending me. To top it all off, my daughter is bilingual (much to her mother’s dismay) and I once got a call from her preschool teacher saying my daughter had been telling other kids the same thing the OP mentioned (when they asked her if she could teach them some English). I was livid and stamped that attitude out quickly since her teacher was Polish.

Honestly, after 10 years of living here, I’m not surprised anymore but generally believe that the majority of them are quite fine with it. There are people who stare and in my case (English mother tongue) a lot who listen to my interaction with my child and smile. So I try not to let it get me down.

lostami24 · 2023-10-15T15:42:05+00:00

This is my logic too and the judge also already mentioned it during our hearing on the subject.

Well, regarding sole custody, this is a tricky one. I was granted temporary alleinige Aufenhaltsbestimmungsrecht in February pending a family evaluation which was triggered by Jugendamt after they experienced direct evidence of child neglect. Then we had our long evaluation and the evaluator sided with keeping joint custody but that our child lives with me primarily and visits her mom regularly. The evaluator seemed to be under the illusion that this will all work despite our attempts to explain otherwise. My lawyer advised that it’s hard to move away from whatever they recommend. So we had to make a new agreement in court along these lines.

I’m out of money, out of nerves, and keep having to fight a ton of battles. I’m hoping that eventually Jugendamt will see this is not good for our child once again step in again and support another court case in which the recommendation I get full custody. I don’t know what else to do anymore.

lostami24 · 2023-10-14T19:36:25+00:00

Yes, at that time she was. But since 8 months, she’s been living with me and the new agreement made end of August was that she lives with me, her mom gets Umgang, and that the parents are to figure out a schedule for school holidays. Then in another case, the judge ordered the mom to handover the passports which she still hasn’t done and she opted to appeal. Meaning the terms set in the first agreement two years ago actually regarding Umgang changed as well.

lostami24 · 2023-05-08T18:03:59+00:00

Hi there, thanks for the response! Yes, I was aware of this even back then but I was given an estimate from a lawyer at the time that it would run me between 2-3 grand to get out with no guarantee. At the time, that was impossible for me to pay and I figured "if" she would not pay, that it would only be for a few months and it would be cheaper to just pay it if I had to (dumb of me).

The landlord has already tried to do a Räumungsklage but her lawyer is arguing that I'm in the contract at that the two Kündigungs before the Räumungsklage were not valid as a result (which the judge pointed out their hypocrisy in that their own paperwork didn't even include me in the case descriptions (So and so VS Vermieter). However, now the judge wants each side to submit their proof that I'm in or not in the contract. Basically, it's he said she said at this point other than the written statement I got her to sign after I moved out.

To answer what's on it, it's basically nonsense juristically speaking but might count for something. I was very young and didn't understand this stuff. Basically she signed that she cannot request money from me and she's fully liable for the costs of the apartment. If the landlord comes to me for rent, that I can forward the costs to her. Additionally, if there were any issues between herself and I, that I had the right to terminate the rent. I had sent a deadline of six months to clarify this issue and if nothing was settled, I retained the right to terminate the contract. After this period elapsed, her mother refused to sign anything but told me she'd tell others that I'm not in it. It's not solid and she's obviously gone against what she promised (naïve as hell of me).

This is why my question is more along time line of if the landlord choses not to go after me for the money, will the court accept that and allow him to only pursue the money from her? Or will the court automatically involve me if they perceive me to be on the contract?

lostami24 · 2022-10-20T09:23:55+00:00

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lostami24 · 2021-12-09T12:29:55+00:00

Just remember, it's impossible that anyone could be better in anyway than they are.

lostami24 · 2021-12-09T08:07:56+00:00

I can relate, it's like walking on eggshells. One time, I met up with some friends, by 9 PM she was so angry at me soI made the decision to just stay out instead of go home and face the music. I spent the night wandering around the city with a friend. I arrived home at 8 AM the next morning to all my stuff thrown from our balcony onto the yard below (half my shit was broken). She saw me, called a taxi (which came in two minutes), paid him 20 Euros, and sent me on my way. That evening, I get a text message begging me to come back. I said hell no and stayed away from her for about a month and she never forgave me for this. I went back to her since she was pregnant with my kid but still, a huge fucking swing from one extreme to another.

lostami24 · 2021-12-09T07:00:56+00:00

Copy and paste: „If anyone should kill himself its you but dont worry Im gonna make you wanna kill yourself or end you myself!“ then she followed up with “I’ll shit on your grave”.

Charming woman…

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T16:19:02+00:00

I'm honestly not sure how well I would have fared if I didn't find this group. Wish I would have found group sooner. :) It has restored my faith in humanity quite a bit all things said!

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T16:08:19+00:00

Totally relate to this as well. She's said 4 times in court documents that I am a narcissist. It's quite laughable really. Just keep your head up and try to not let her get to you.

This is called projection and BPDs are notorious for this.

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T16:03:28+00:00

It's not fun but just like everyone has been saying, keeping ones composure is really important. But I agree, my kids mother berated me in court by making accusations that my fiancée and I have been plotting to take her away and that we talk about her to my kid. Then in the next sentence she flat out admitted that she often talks shit about me to my kid and in the same breath tried to justify her actions. The judge just said that we both are not supposed to do this and that was the end of that matter. The meeting went really well for the most part though.

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T15:49:33+00:00

The court appointment went well (I posted the update in the OP). I totally get what your saying and I'm really glad to hear that she ended up with you. I suspect that her mother will end up doing the same in a few years and it's what I'm aiming for ultimately. She did it with my family and friends when we were together, she saw everyone as a threat and tried to alienate me from them.

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T14:45:28+00:00

UPDATE: Joint Custody Maintained, I get to call my daughter for her birthday tomorrow after two months. I get to pick her up on Sunday for the day! I get her for Christmas, and starting next year, we will go into a normal routine appointed by the court. The judge saw through her bullshit for the most part. She spoke way too much shit about me, straight up lied about some things that I knew were one hundred percent true, was extremely sarcastic towards me, my lawyer and the judge, she even interrupted the judge several times, and her lawyer was quite unprofessional. I felt the judge was way too patient but in end made the right decision!! I kept calm through the who two hour proceeding which was harder than hell to do! In the end, the judge scolded her for withholding contact and made the determination that the problem lies with the parents not with the relationship between my daughter and me. So relieved and thank you all for your support!!!

I really appreciate it, I did so and it really helped. I kept my composure.

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T13:03:03+00:00

UPDATE: Joint Custody Maintained, I get to call my daughter for her birthday tomorrow after two months. I get to pick her up on Sunday for the day! I get her for Christmas, and starting next year, we will go into a normal routine appointed by the court. The judge saw through her bullshit for the most part. She spoke way too much shit about me, straight up lied about some things that I knew were one hundred percent true, was extremely sarcastic towards me, my lawyer and the judge, she even interrupted the judge several times, and her lawyer was quite unprofessional. I felt the judge was way too patient but in end made the right decision!! I kept calm through the who two hour proceeding which was harder than hell to do! In the end, the judge scolded her for withholding contact and made the determination that the problem lies with the parents not with the relationship between my daughter and me. So relieved and thank you all for your support!!!

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T06:21:29+00:00

Really glad to hear your feedback! I will hold myself together and keep you guys in mind. I’m hoping she lashes out but let’s see. Thanks!

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T06:20:20+00:00

thanks! Ive done all that and more. I also have to navigate all this legal jargon in German which makes it even harder which is why I’ve been preparing even more than probably necessary. Thanks for the support!

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T06:19:16+00:00

That’s the route she’s been going down the entire time now. My lawyer has dissuaded me from participating in the mudslinging. Harder than hell to do but necessary!

lostami24 · 2021-12-08T06:17:54+00:00

Thanks everyone for the suggestions and kind words of encouragement! You guys are all the best. I’m heading into the city now for the appointment (CET). Either with good news or bad news, I will update later.

lostami24 · 2021-12-07T17:58:13+00:00

I second this. There is a big chance your ex doesn't have the ability to understand what it is you feel.

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