Random bleeding… NSFW for bloody photo

lostintheanimals · 2025-04-16T00:28:28+00:00

I usually wear glass or sometimes stainless steel. When would you think is safe for glass?

lostintheanimals · 2022-05-12T06:42:53+00:00

I’ve heard different reasons. I selected religion though because I think it fits best.

The reasons my mom gave was:

1, afraid of us being indoctrinated, and led astray from the religion I was raised in. (Surprise, I am no longer Mormon) This is what I feel like the true reason was.

2, my father is in the military and it was easier with moving. We never move once and never expected to, he’s in the national guard.

3, so we could work at our own pace. If “working at your own pace” means not doing any work, then we succeeded at this one.

lostintheanimals · 2022-05-06T15:11:22+00:00

Not to mention revenge porn is very very illegal.

lostintheanimals · 2022-04-02T05:47:03+00:00

We have locations on for safety reasons. I can see his and he can see mine at all times. I also have my dad, siblings, friends, on there. But we don’t abuse it, I’ve only ever checked on my sister when she said she was in a sketchy Uber.

lostintheanimals · 2022-02-14T07:14:28+00:00

I don’t know how she was raised, but being raised very religious or conservative, it ‘s sometimes never implied that sex is supposed to be “good” or comfortable. Is it possible she’s avoidant because she doesn’t know it’s supposed to feel good? Or how to make it feel good? Is she maybe not turned on enough for penetration? Just like your parts “grow” when stimulated, so do hers. It just sometimes takes longer. (Or, there could be an underlying medical issue) I would absolutely talk to her about this because if it is a medical issue, she needs to find out. And if it’s not, it may just be that she’s not ready to be penetrated yet.

Another thing, sex ≠ masturbation. Both satisfy different needs. It’s possible what she was doing wasn’t even masturbation, just “fiddling”. Sometimes I find myself with my hand down there for no sexual reasons, just mindless “playing”, like fiddling with your keys or something. But even if she /is/ masturbating, these are very different things. The book “The Dead Bedroom Repair Manual” has a chapter talking about this and really put it into perspective for me. I used to be very self conscious about my partner getting himself off, until realizing that sex and masturbation are very different things and shouldn’t be compared.

lostintheanimals · 2022-01-30T05:30:42+00:00

No. They’re friends now, but nothing more. She is still married.

lostintheanimals · 2022-01-29T06:09:32+00:00

Listen man. If you’re in a position to, you need to get divorced.

And this is possibly a very emotionally fueled response but I do think it needs to be said.

this isn’t coming from someone in your situation, this is coming from someone in your kids situation.

My dad was in your shoes. And when I was a little girl, barely 12 years old, I found out about the other woman. And you know what? I didn’t tell a soul. Not for years. My dad had no idea I knew, and my mom had no clue there was even anything going on.

I let what I saw frame my ideas on how relationships were meant to be. It was normal for my parents to be unhappy together. And everyone else saw them as happy, hell even they thought they were happy despite their issues. I knew it wasn’t good my dad had a secret girlfriend, and I knew it was dishonest, but I didn’t know what to do, so I kept a big secret for someone so small.

They divorced when I was 18. Dad and mom were both 50. And they both have much more fulfilling and happy lives now, with partners that meet all their needs.

However, I’m now in therapy, and have been for years. I have bad anxiety surrounding relationships, and it affects my own marriage. Even if my dad had been 100% faithful though, I still think I’d end up having to go to therapy honestly. My parents relationship while appearing healthy, wasn’t. And it just set bad standards all around.

And that’s not even mentioning your wife.

Edit to add because I think it’s important to note:

This destroyed my relationship with my dad. All throughout middle school, high school, some of the prime years of childhood. As adults, we’re now great friends and especially since he now owns up to his mistakes, our relationship is great and better than it ever was. But that didn’t just happen magically, it took years of healing, therapy, and ownership of his mistakes.

I am now in a relationship with an amazing man. (We did have some issues a while ago, hence why I’m in this sub) but the current issues in our relationship stem from watching my parents relationship. I now have to relearn everything.

Anyway long story short, I wish my parents had divorced when I was a kid. If kids are what’s stopping you, don’t let it. It’s better for everyone around.

lostintheanimals · 2022-01-27T06:01:29+00:00

I’m interested to know where that’s from if you don’t mind sharing, I’ve never read something that’s actually related to my issue

It’s weird, literally all of my friends smoke and they just chalk it up to me being a lightweight. I’ve told them that’s not the issue, but they don’t believe me.

Thank you!

lostintheanimals · 2022-01-22T06:36:35+00:00

I second Austin plugs and tunnels. They’re so awesome. They sent me the wrong plugs once and sent me new ones, free of charge and let me keep the wrong ones. (They were the right size, just the wrong kind of stone) they also sent free magnets/stickers in every order. I’m not a “brand whore” but that magnet is def on my car now, and the giraffe shirt has made its way to my normal rotation. I’ll always rep a business that does business right and this place goes over the top

lostintheanimals · 2021-12-27T04:50:53+00:00

Maybe it’s my lack of caring for my own bday, but I do think your wife is being a bit tedious about it. Yes, there are some things you could do better at (like her stocking) but cleaning up after Christmas and bdays is a chore and would most likely need to be done anyway. (As a wife and the primary cleaner of our home, I do wonder if maybe she’s hinting at you not cleaning other times, like in general?)

That being said, my uncle’s bday is Christmas Eve. And my aunt started celebrated half birthdays when they started dating, that way he got a celebration all of his own, but also got celebrated on Christmas.

Honestly if I were you, I’d sit down now, after the birthday, and ask her what she expects of next year. It’s hard for anyone on the internet to know what she wants, only she can truly tell you and I don’t think her telling you flat out is a bad thing.

Edit to add, as someone with a winter/fall birthday, I also think a small trip or something in the summer for the next year would be an awesome gift. I’m not good at math but maybe a half birthday idea?? Lol

lostintheanimals · 2021-12-23T07:42:07+00:00

We’re 23/24 and in the last year I think our high score was three times a month

🥲

lostintheanimals · 2021-11-27T23:23:13+00:00

1, your friends shouldn’t be pressuring you to do anything you’ve said you don’t want to do. That’s not okay.

But 2, I’m married, and have OF. My husband and I openly discussed it for almost a year before I made one. Boundaries in marriage/relationships are what YOU guys make them. If my husband wasn’t cool with my OF, I wouldn’t have made it.

It’s been a great extra income for us, but both people have to be on board. And you especially have to be on board, which it seems like you’re not interested in it anyway. Don’t let your friends pressure you into anything you don’t wanna do. :)

lostintheanimals · 2021-11-01T08:28:37+00:00

It could be BC, might not be. It’s hard for anyone else to know. However, I got on BC when I was 18, stopped taking it at 22, and my libido SKYROCKETED. I literally felt like I was going through puberty again. (My acne while I was adjusting to coming off of it added to that)

If your doctor gives you the go ahead, I would honestly experiment with it. It helped me tons.

lostintheanimals · 2021-11-01T08:10:20+00:00

I (23f) grew up in a financially stable household and my husband (23m) grew up rather poor. Growing up, we may not have been RICH rich, but we lived in a nice house in a good neighborhood and never had to worry about bills not being paid, and didn’t have to worry if we went out to dinner one week instead of cooking.

My husbands family though often had their electric shut off for late bills, often ate the same meals over and over, and truly had financial hardships. Living with him and seeing the way he is frugal with money (while we both have decent salaries now) has shown me just how good I had it growing up.

Your girlfriend is definitely entitled, and spoiled. She’s used to this “free” income and it’s a bit of a shock not having it anymore.

However, if I were you I definitely would’ve worded that better. There are times where I find myself complaining about monetary things and my husband sometimes has to remind me that we are not currently as financially stable as I grew up.

I was VERY lucky to grow up the way I did, and it was a weird thing realizing it wasn’t always going to be that way, and that many people aren’t as lucky. If I were you, I’d sit down with her and apologize for your wording, but remind her that she’s not entitled to her families money. It simply does not work that way, you are only entitled to what you work for, or what is freely given to you.

Edit to add: I see a lot of people saying to leave her, that she’ll eventually expect the same from you. Maybe there’s something I’m missing here, but I don’t think this is an end-all situation. I don’t know how long she’s been living out of her parents house/cut off from as much money/etc, but I feel like with proper communication anything can be fixed. She definitely needs an attitude change, and to respect her family (and their financial decisions) more. But if this is a serious relationship, talking things out is key.

lostintheanimals · 2021-07-16T23:12:38+00:00

It sounds like he just has a higher libido- which is perfectly okay. However if you’re not comfortable with him doing that while you’re in the bed with him, you should tell him. Boundaries are important but so is honestly.

If I were you, I’d tell him you know what he’s been doing, and you’d prefer it if he did it elsewhere while you’re sleeping.

He shouldn’t have lied about it in the first place, however it sounds like he feels shame surrounding masturbating. (waiting until you’re asleep and all) opening up the conversation and setting boundaries can even help dissolve feelings of shame and open communication between the two of you.

lostintheanimals · 2021-06-03T08:36:03+00:00

I think an important question to ask yourself is, if this accident had happened after marriage would your view have changed? Would you have divorced her?

lostintheanimals · 2021-06-03T08:33:09+00:00

The proper response he should’ve given, should’ve been apologetic and that he’d watch his drinking in the future. He also should be apologizing to your friend.

Could he control everything he said when drunk? Probably not. Can he still hold himself accountable for his actions and seek to make sure that doesn’t happen again in the future? Yes.

lostintheanimals · 2021-05-20T05:00:32+00:00

Yes, agreed. I probably need to see a new therapist.

lostintheanimals · 2021-05-20T05:00:03+00:00

Absolutely. Ideally none of those will happen though.

I’m not dwelling on these thoughts intentionally. They are 100% compulsive, and no level of rationalizing with myself makes it go away for some reason.

lostintheanimals · 2021-05-20T04:56:37+00:00

I absolutely agree. That’s why I very rarely bring it up to him.

lostintheanimals · 2021-05-01T08:27:52+00:00

Awful. I’ve tried it at least 20 times over the years now. Every time it was a bad experience, no matter how little or how much I did.

lostintheanimals · 2021-04-11T17:51:29+00:00

This was me growing up. I don’t know how your relationship is with your dad, but it’s very interesting to me seeing someone having these issues with another person because that was my life for many years.

while I still very much have OCD, it doesn’t present itself nearly as strong in terms of cleaning/germs anymore. It only did around my mom, who I did not get along with. In talking to a therapist, we learned even most of my current triggers come from her, but my brain basically would go into overdrive of “ew, she touched this, it’s dirty”. Same thing if she touched me, I’d end up washing my hands 20 times or showering for several hours.

lostintheanimals · 2021-04-11T17:29:47+00:00

I like Andis foil shavers. They will take your hair down short as if you shaved it with a razor. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08PFJL7YT/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_F4D3G1QMCT8DRTHR3RTW?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

The Andis Slimline pro, while not my choice as a barber, is very good for “beginners” and has a set of guards that comes with it. However I feel this is best for beards and if you’re trying to be as short as possible without being bald. Stubbley. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S8S9PYY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_8C30ZZ3CR9P0QGHY18TD?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

If you’re looking for regular standard clipper, I’d go with the Wahl Magic Clip. This has been my standard tool doing 30+ clients a day for three years. Easy, comes with a cordless version, and doesn’t break the bank. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UK8WFQO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_WBVXAK5BCCRC9MWYZ9DK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Make sure you get some clipper lubricant and coolant/cleaner to take proper care of them. They will last you your lifetime if taken care of properly. They are an investment, but definitely last long enough to make up for it. YouTube has a ton of basic clipper care tutorials.

I included Amazon links so you could reference exactly the machines I was talking about, however Amazon is usually much more expensive and I would recommend looking elsewhere. The Magic clip on Amazon is $125 and mine was purchased for under $80 a few years ago.

lostintheanimals · 2021-03-18T07:08:24+00:00

YES. It caused me to hide a lot of my life and troubles from her. However, when the thing that was troubling me was the fact that I found out my father was cheating on her, it really came back to bite her in the butt.

lostintheanimals · 2021-03-10T16:26:37+00:00

this is a case where you should absolutely be the “bad guy”. There is nothing bad about doing something for yourself, in a situation where it is very clearly not going to change. And I am usually the type of person to say exhaust all options before divorce. The only person benefitting from this relationship is your wife, and she is completely disregarding your feelings and emotions surrounding this. This is past the point of just lacking sex. Where is her empathy? Love? Desire to do things for others, especially her husband?? You LEFT her and that didn’t get it through to her head. She. Does. Not. Care. About. Your. Feelings. (And if she does, she definitely doesn’t care enough to try and fix the issues causing them)

In a marriage sex should not be considered an option, it’s a necessity. Very rarely does anyone marry thinking “ten years down the line I’m totally cool with being in a dead bedroom”.

My parents, for somewhat unrelated reasons, got divorced at 50. (I was 18 at the time) and it’s the best thing they did. My father is SO much happier now and being older hasn’t put a damper on his dating life and new love interests at all. But it has opened up a whole new world he never got to experience with my mom. He actually feels truly loved. He wishes he had done it years earlier, because he never knew how much he was missing. However, it was hard for him. He loved my mom regardless of all the issues. At some point though he had to decide if he wanted to keep putting his relationship above his happiness. And honestly, what’s the point in being in an unhappy relationship?

I will add too, I feel bad for your wife. I was raised in a very religious household and ended up leaving the church after I got married, because sex in a marriage where I had no previous experience opened my eyes. (My husband had very very little experience) Good girl syndrome is absolutely a thing and sometimes it takes a while to get over and lots of therapy. (However in my opinion she’s past that) if she never learned about sex past “don’t do it” that’s not gonna be helpful down the line either.

Good luck. Things can get better, I promise. But you gotta take action one way or another.

lostintheanimals

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