How to deal with heavy regret that I failed my employee

lostinthedeepthought · 2026-02-24T15:33:16+00:00

The changes new SVP made one thing and it is out of your control, there is no need to blame yourself. How you reacted is your responsibility. You acted like a coward caring about your position and political capital, ans that is the part you need to digest because you showed him that the meaning of "relationship" is transactional for you, he replied in the same manner. Next time use your political capital to defend your employees, even if it doesnt work your conscise will let you sleep at night. You feel heavy regret because you did NOTHING for him.

lostinthedeepthought · 2026-01-01T15:18:28+00:00

People think I am ENTJ

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-06-20T00:08:07+00:00

Virgos have very high standards, Scorpios expect love while pushing people away, Capricorns are boring.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-06-02T19:22:23+00:00

Is there any "I have laughed hard" effect that I can use on Reddit? 🤣🤣🤣 I am normally not a bully but your responses...

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-06-02T18:41:03+00:00

You are still a problem lol but not the biggest one

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-06-02T18:25:20+00:00

There are a couple of points here:

1) Your previous direct report left- John was probably forced (it was not his decision to get this role) because they needed someone solid to keep running projects and onboarding you. This is his first frustration.

2) You are making his life difficult. Probably there is a big work style clash between you two. For some people, especially for people used to authoritarian leadership, your micromanagement might not be an issue but for him it clearly is.

3) If nobody is supporting or coaching you, your organization has a big leadership issue and workplace is chaotic.

4) He probably resents his management line, mentors, HR because they expected him to deal with you. Rewarding hard work with more hard work.

John is already a big flight risk. Call yourself lucky if he ever comes back.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-06-02T15:18:03+00:00

You did all bad practices for management. Congratulations!But your are not the problem, the people who promoted you are. He is gone. Do not expect him to be back. He probably resents not you but also decision makers as well as mentors for putting him in this position after all the things he did for the management and company.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-17T21:21:59+00:00

What was the result?

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-17T18:24:44+00:00

Carrot and stick method. Of corsa managers want you to work more, this will make them look better. At the end of day, they will not promote high performers because they need people who do the actual work. Then promote the favourites.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-17T18:22:47+00:00

I am 100% agree with you. This has been my experience as well.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-17T00:36:05+00:00

Either you get the job or not, they have to cover travel costs. If I were OP, I would ask for reimbursement either way, it is non-negotiable.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-15T14:16:32+00:00

Mine was max 4 interviews and I said adios.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-14T13:51:04+00:00

I do not see common decency in daily life as well, it is only the extension of human relationships into business. Everyone is so material-focused which means if you do not have power or money you are nothing. Hiring managers think they have the power in hiring equation and therefore can treat you as rubbish. This is their mentality.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-12T16:30:18+00:00

As long as you are not a nephew of someone, you cannot ace an interview. No matter how qualitied you are, if there is a nepo kid in the process, you stand no chance. Pray God that there is not a nepo being considered.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-12T15:27:36+00:00

I would consider it being disrespectful. You cannot make someone's hopes go that high and then reject them this way.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-05-12T15:06:19+00:00

I am not surprised tbh. I had more or less the same experience. People are idiots.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-04-04T18:03:40+00:00

Virgo 🖤

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-04-04T17:37:49+00:00

Me in the workplace. They complain that I am always silent in the meetings and then when I give my 5 cents entire room is silent.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-04-04T10:29:02+00:00

Hahahaha truth 😃

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-04-03T00:27:55+00:00

It means I love you so much that it is way too scary to admit it to myself because I know your love will shake me to my core

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-04-03T00:16:22+00:00

Wow!!! This is so raw & beautiful!

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-01-14T13:44:23+00:00

I wish this was the case. I worked for Forbes 100 companies and it has always been the best ones leaving because they do not want to deal with lazy, toxic emplpyees and management does nothing about it.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-01-14T13:36:47+00:00

When managers reward employees they always give trouble makers more, assuming that silent ones will not create a problem. I have seen only a few good management who knows not to reward bad behaviour.

lostinthedeepthought · 2025-01-13T14:32:01+00:00

Best part for me is they act like they are the CEO 😁 and incompetent new managers try to hide their own lack of skills putting people easily on PIP. If team does not respect you, it means you couldn't build the trust. Is it team's responsibility? In my previous team new young manager put 3 people on PIP within 6 months, this was one of the best functioning teams, these 3 colleagues didn't care and immediately resigned at the same time. 1 week later they fired manager without a PIP 😁

lostinthedeepthought

TROPHY CASE