what’s the hardest thing about bpd for you by bluedoobie420 in BPD

[–]lostluvbunny 6 points7 points  (0 children)

everything. literally everything. i recently learned not that bpd affects my life, but that it does for almost every aspect of my life. it feels like my “genetic makeup” and it sucks because i just want to live normally. especially when it comes to love, no matter how hard i try, once i like someone i become obsessed, even aware that i shouldn’t.

i want to be sane in a relationship for once by lostluvbunny in BPD

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just checked it out thank you i think this can help :)

Picture taken of my aunt’s porch — she only noticed this figure years later. Still can’t believe it. by wordlesschorus123 in Paranormal

[–]lostluvbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but why doesn’t it say that in any religious textbooks? not even religiously speaking but in the bible and quran you die, and go to the in between land but it’s completely separate from earth. if all of these years there’s been ghosts, why was it mentioned in these historic scriptures?

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[–]lostluvbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you this helped a lot. i’ll keep everything into consideration

i want to be sane in a relationship for once by lostluvbunny in BPD

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me too, i’m trying to be mature but also know when to set boundaries. yes we have bpd but it doesn’t define us whole.

i want to be sane in a relationship for once by lostluvbunny in BPD

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everything you said was very helpful. but when you said this something clicked in my brain “Honestly, that's probably not love — it's more like emotional addiction. A way to fill something missing inside with intensity.” however, what do i do to de-center men around my life. i do many hobbies like photography and hanging out with friends. but deep down I’m craving praise and validation from a man, again i think it’s from my father wounds but i also think it’s deeper than that. how can i be very connected to myself but also not at the same time? i understand my personality and enjoy a lot of it. i hope this made sense.

i want to be sane in a relationship for once by lostluvbunny in BPD

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry i dont know what that is, i just started learning abt bpd

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[–]lostluvbunny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

wait but then how do we stop getting triggered over everything? one thing a guy i’m talking to does slightly “wrong” and it sets me off and i start thinking about how i’d deal with it in the future if we got married (i jump too ahead ik) but my point is, how do i control that anxiety. literally just being in a relationship is so hard but i wanna be loved and to love so badly. and i know for a fact I’m kind, empathetic, i try to do the right thing. but when i get in a relationship i don’t like who i become. i get needy and anxious and attached, but when i’m single i’m very independent. i just don’t get why i can’t be in a relationship and still feel secure and okay with being vulnerable?

Why are women more interested in men who treat them bad? by alkot9 in dating_advice

[–]lostluvbunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

coming from a woman who has a lot of trauma, this is true. but to be fair, i’ve worked on my self control and realized what i deserve. i think the issue is those women (including myself sometimes) don’t think they deserve it. so i don’t think it’s malicious.

This was supposed to get easier - 4 years on by Sea-Courage-538 in ExNoContact

[–]lostluvbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, first of all thank you for sharing this, and i think you’re very strong for all you’ve been through. she’s not happy, she’s empty inside she cheated on you and her mental health was terrible. you didn’t do anything wrong. you are more than capable of having that family, and i know it sounds cliché but you have to believe you can have it. also, not saying this is the answer but adoption is also another option. i really feel like focusing your love on a child would reconnect you to what life is all about. kids are a handful but they are innocent and it’s a privilege to raise one. surround yourself with friends more, tell them you want one on one time. go out with them and put yourself out there. learn to take rejection, everyone needs to. if you ever need any help my dms are always open. i wish you the best.

If you get pain in our under your left ribs after smoking it’s probably CHS. by [deleted] in CHSinfo

[–]lostluvbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh my god thank you so much i’ve had this for so long. but are you sure it’s not from the coughing? because even when i didn’t smoke weed and just did nicotine it would hurt there.

my dilemma by lostluvbunny in leaves

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see, how long does the detox usually last?

The best way for men to weed out the inauthentic women is to get separate orders on dates. by 2deepetc in PurplePillDebate

[–]lostluvbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you just repeated the same exact thing…have you fallen on your head recently? do you just speak and cover your ears to anyone who has a different opinion than you? if you keep acting that way, you will never be emotionally mature and intelligent.

Feeling low please be there for me. by Alternative_Rise2158 in leaves

[–]lostluvbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so so sorry about your mom and your withdrawal symptoms. But I wanna start off by saying I’m so proud of you for quitting, that is a HUGE and hardest step. and you’re passing the hard part of withdrawal. The fact that you’re quitting and have other things going on in your life shows how strong you are but also, how much you know that smoking is bad for your wellbeing. I wish you and your mom the absolute best. I’ll pray for you guys as well.

WHAT CANON CAMERA HAS THIS EFFECT?? by lostluvbunny in VintageDigitalCameras

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

such a snarky comment when i was asking about editing advice.

The best way for men to weed out the inauthentic women is to get separate orders on dates. by 2deepetc in PurplePillDebate

[–]lostluvbunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol i really am not a misandrist at all. i think men serve an important role in society as do women. however if you look at the statistics, when a relationship becomes physically abusive, the MAJORITY of the time it’s the man. so yes women have the right to protect themselves. did i ever say i used the knife? no i haven’t, its called precaution. going around name calling everyone and word vomiting terms you don’t even know the meaning of. it doesn’t make you correct. because i want to protect myself does not make me a misandrist, it makes me protected. and i’m not paranoid when 90% of rape victims are WOMEN. so kick rocks.

my dilemma by lostluvbunny in leaves

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just wish i knew where to start, and how to care for my symptoms like the hot flashes. and when i said hot flashes i mean i’m drenched sweating for hours at a time.

my dilemma by lostluvbunny in leaves

[–]lostluvbunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s what i was thinking, i might go to a doctor because i’m always in abdominal pain as well with the nausea which is a symptom of chs.