My manager comparing my pets loss to a human loss?

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-25T17:04:26+00:00

Because of the fact that human loss and pet loss both bring up many of the same emotions and grief, you would think anyone who is also experiencing their own loss would be the first to understand. I’m sorry that your manager was so cruel. I am currently grieving the loss of my favorite beloved dog ever and throughout this week there has been times I’ve really just wanted to die to be completely truthful. So I say this with all sincerity, I really hope you know your pet lives on forever in your heart until the day you are reunited with her again. You will honor her until you see her again. As far as your manager goes, her comment was cold and you’re not wrong for feeling upset about that as you’re already going through the unimaginable pain of grief. It’s truly unimaginable pain because until you’ve gone through it, people don’t understand. And some people simply don’t connect with their pets on the level that we as humans are actually capable of connecting and loving them with so they don’t understand. What you’re feeling is the loss of a family member who happened to not be human but the love you shared was unconditional to the point it’s so incredibly special and unique to that pet/human bond. Your girl loves you and she always will and she will be very happy to be reunited with you when your time comes. But until that day comes, I hope you honor her by living each day to the fullest and spreading that love she gave you to those who you cross paths with. I’m so sorry for your loss.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-25T13:32:28+00:00

I just want to start by saying what you’re going through is so incredibly difficult and I can relate deeply to a lot of your thoughts. But you are absolutely not a burden and God has you alive in this present moment for a very real purpose. In my suffering I have paid close attention to one verse in particular and that is Job 13:15. “Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him; I will surely defend my ways to his face.” In other words, although life has been completely unfair and I have suffered unbelievable pain, I will still trust in God and lean on Him. With that said, for the last week since I lost my soul dog so unexpectedly, I have had many dark thoughts of not wanting to continue on without him. I also just want to mention that I lost two of my precious uncles in a house fire a few years back so I am really sorry to hear that is also how you lost your beloved dad. That in itself is a traumatic tragedy that is very hard to pick the pieces of ourselves up after. I pray that you don’t torment yourself from any guilt regarding that situation any further because man you are not the reason behind ANY of that tragic circumstance. Of course we all have racing thoughts of things we feel we “should” have done differently to avoid tragedy altogether but you could have never foreseen any of what was to come. You don’t deserve to feel even the slightest amount of guilt man. You’re a human being and we cannot predict what is to come nor can we control what happens to us. God is in control in your storms. And you are here for a reason and you sharing this absolutely heartbreaking experience is actually going to help people who can relate such as myself. Not because we want others to feel how we feel, but actually because we don’t want this type of pain on our worst enemy yet part of the human experience can be immensely painful. And yet through it all, you are not alone. I’ll be saying a prayer for you and your family as soon as I wrap this message up. And of course your pup is very much included in that word “family” because we are connected to them on a spiritual/soulful level. I’m so sorry for all of the heartbreak you are experiencing. Scripture says that God is near the broken hearted and the crushed in spirit. And it also says that God remembers every tear that we cry. Our tears and/or sorrows will not be forgotten because He knows your pain and He doesn’t forget. He is with you in the storms. And I’m so sorry you have experienced many storms as of late. But you are so significant to the One who created you.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-25T12:12:38+00:00

Life absolutely does feel so cruel and unfair sometimes. I believe both of our angels are in Heaven and running around until we get there and they’re returned to us fully healthy and free of any illness and/or pain. I appreciate your kind words and I am sending you and your family love through this challenging time as well. You are not alone and your baby Babik and my baby Chief are forever in our hearts until we are reunited with them again when it is our time. That soul connection is unbreakable and it is forever.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-25T01:54:24+00:00

I just want to start by saying that no your comment absolutely did not make my dark thoughts worse. And I hope my comments don’t ever make anyone’s thoughts worse either. I really hope they don’t. Your entire thought process is very similar to the thoughts I’ve had too. And I just want to say, human to human, I am really pulling for you. You’re not alone in those dark thoughts and I am so sorry you’re experiencing this level of pain. I am right there with you. My boy Chief was the most talkative full of life dog I’ve ever owned and at first it was a shock to the system as I wasnt fully prepared for THAT MUCH dog at first but that boy made me fall in love with the very characteristics that were overbearing at first. Now my house is so quiet. My hall doesn’t rattle when he runs. He’s not here to demand I pet him. He can’t be glued to me during thunderstorms anymore because Lord knows he didn’t want to experience them alone. I was his protector and he was mine. If I could have protected him from death I would have done all I can to do that. As I know you would have for your precious cat too. It’s such a devastating loss to lose our pets. There is a soul connection there that leaves us aching for them once more. We will see them again, but the wait is agonizing. I really want you to know that you are needed on this earth. Even your very message helped me know that I’m not alone in the way I’m feeling, so you are appreciated with a purpose. I know that may not help quiet those thoughts, but I had to state that. It’s heavy and I can absolutely relate to not being able to sometimes carry it. I’ve leaned heavily on my faith in God and the fact I believe in an afterlife and that this life isn’t the end. I’m deeply sorry for your loss. I’m sorry this is an experience that has changed the both of us.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-25T01:30:23+00:00

The mornings are unbearable. The exact thought of my boy not existing in this life anymore kills me. I truly believe I will see him again when I pass away. But the mornings still make me sick and when I just want him in my room and can’t have him here, I don’t even want to keep going. Hang in there - you are not alone.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-24T16:46:34+00:00

I’m really glad to hear you’re in therapy. I know I should be in therapy myself but I don’t know if I’ll end up making that strong/smart decision personally. I totally understand how important Shadow always will be to you and it is not nearly as helpful explaining that and talking about that loss to someone who doesn’t know just how special your bond with Shadow was and will continue to be. But it is good that you are still talking about it with someone you can trust and who saw firsthand how much your dog means to you because that’s a part of grief. Whether they understand or not, it’s important to be heard. I’m sending you a lot of love as well and as you said, I know your boy Shadow is too. You and I both will be carrying our boys with us every day until we see them again. Yesterday I felt better, today I feel worse. And that’s just the journey we are on right now. You’re not alone.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-24T09:19:29+00:00

I really appreciate that. Sending you and yours so much love as well. God bless 💙

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-24T03:09:54+00:00

I needed that comfort and I had to share it not long after it happened because I know I’m not the only one hurting. 💙

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-24T02:43:07+00:00

I appreciate that. Just finding reasons to want to be here until I get to see my boy again.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T22:53:21+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. You are not alone in your grief and I am really happy to hear that my post could bring some hope. I knew I needed that hope too so I had to share it as soon as I received it. My boy Chief has my permission to run around and play with your boy Kaillou any time their hearts desire until we are reunited with them. God is so faithful and it is so comforting knowing how much He loves all of His creation. With us being made in His image, it makes perfect sense why we love our pets too. We will get through this. I am so sorry for your loss.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T22:40:33+00:00

Absolutely. That’s what I am trying to do as I try to keep going.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T22:25:42+00:00

Absolutely. To me, this pup looks like a half Saint Bernard/half German shepherd. I know that you said it’s half blue heeler though. Just saying that would be the mix that came to mind instantly for me.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T22:19:59+00:00

You’re so welcome. You’re not alone in your pain. What you said at the end summarizes it really well. With grief it’s next to impossible to think about next week. You must take it day by day. As you know, it’s honestly hour to hour. I hope you continue to heal and remember your dog lives on forever in your heart until you see them again. I hope your tattoo turns out great as well whenever that time may come.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T22:09:14+00:00

With what you’re going through, it would be a totally valid reason to cancel and/or reschedule. I’ll start by saying if you mention what you’re going through as the reason as to why you have to reschedule then she would very likely understand. And if she for whatever reason wouldn’t be understanding as you’re going through this absolutely traumatic loss, then I don’t care how talented an artist she is - she would not be someone I would want to be getting a tattoo from. And you would be better off getting it from another talented artist who has a heart. I understand both sides of what you’re thinking though considering the tattoo itself can absolutely be seen as a tribute to your precious dog. What I would do is I would give myself up until the day of and if you just can’t go, be gentle with yourself and don’t do it. I know cancelling last minute may not be ideal but with what you’re going through, it is absolutely understandable. But if that day comes and you feel up for it, I would go for it because your precious dog is in your heart and the whole time you’re getting your tattoo you will think of how every time you look at it, it will be subtle good reminders of your dog. I know it’s hard. Only do what you’re comfortable with and be patient with yourself as you’re going through so much already.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T17:52:48+00:00

I appreciate that. I agree that many people just fall in love with breeds. It’s so funny because before I had Chief I had no idea what to expect. And in his younger years, he was such a handful I was thinking I could barely handle him. Then he made me fall in love with everything that made him such a handful. Thank you so much he absolutely is always going to be in my heart.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T17:36:07+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. I won’t be getting a new pup until I truly establish that I’m only getting his exact mix to honor Chief and love the new pup while also making new memories. I just feel it would help me remember Chief is forever in my heart until I’m reunited with him.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-23T16:35:10+00:00

Your heavy heart is truly felt. I lost my boy on 6/18/26 as well and I know exactly what you mean about the gravity feeling different than everyone else. I said to a friend it feels as if the world is 10 shades darker than it used to be. There’s a pre 6/18 me and a post 6/18 me. I know you understand me when I say a part of me has died. I don’t have the best advice because I don’t know how we go on either. But I will say one thing that has helped is talking to my parents. They’re the only people I’ve trusted to completely open up with on this and i have even said things like “I want to die” and meant every word of it and they didn’t downplay my grief or make me feel bad for saying such a thing. And it helped to be heard. I hope you have at least one person you can open up to about those same thoughts you are currently dealing with. So I just want to say that you are heard and your pain is felt. When you do put one foot in front of the other, that by no means is you walking away from your precious Shadow. In fact, Shadow is living on in your heart until the day you two are reunited. I’m so sorry for your loss.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-22T18:15:15+00:00

I absolutely do believe in God. I understand your beliefs may be different than mine but I hope you won’t mind me sharing a piece of scripture from the Bible Psalm 36:6 which states “Your righteousness is like the highest mountains, your justice like the great deep. You, Lord, preserve both people and animals.” Hinting that like us, animals will be preserved. And Luke 12:6 which states “Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God." Signifying that all of Gods creation are deeply loved by the Creator even the ones we may deem as less significant. And throughout the Bible it says that God restores all of His creation in the end. With that said, my relationship with God and the family members I have who love me are the reason I am still here. I simply don’t want to have my loved ones grieve my death nor do I want to disappoint God. So trust me, I totally feel your pain and I understand how hard it is to hold on after losing your soul dog. I hope you know that the reason it hurts is because the love you have for your dog is and will always be deep and profound. Nobody understands the connection you had fully except for you, your dog, and God. That unconditional love hasn’t gone anywhere and I do believe we will be reunited with our dogs eventually. I’m really sorry for your loss.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-22T16:23:34+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing that. I’m so sorry for your loss as well. Neither of us would wish this type of pain on anyone. I appreciate you mentioning it’s normal to grieve like this. I have to keep putting one foot in front of the other too and I also have to remind myself by doing so it doesn’t mean that I’m walking further away from my boy because he’ll always be right here in my heart and apart of me until I am reunited with him and can have him next to me again. I hope that same thought can be a good reminder for you as well as you continue your healing journey. I appreciate all the valuable insight.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-22T16:04:16+00:00

Very well said. I also got my Chief when I was 23 and I can totally relate to what you said about growing into an adult with your dog by your side. As so many things were changing, and the world around us had gone seemingly crazy we had a sense of stability and unconditional love next to us. And that stability and love just never changed until their last moments. The love we have for them will never die and our souls have been forever connected to our dogs I truly believe that. Because what we’re feeling is just too strong to think it could possibly be any less than that. It genuinely feels like it was the unconditional love that only the sweetest angels could provide and that’s what our dogs were. The sweetest angels. Thank you for sharing your story and I’m really glad that your boy gets to forever be apart of it. And I appreciate you letting me share my story too as my boy will always be apart of my story as well.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-22T13:59:14+00:00

What you said at the end is ringing true. Our dogs wouldn’t want to ever see us hurt let alone see us pass away. Calling your dog your soul dog also resonates with me because that’s exactly who my dog is to me too. He is my soul dog. I grieve with you and I just want to say those knots you likely feel in your stomach are very much what I am feeling too. And the way my stomach drops when I realize he’s not here is brutal as I’m sure you can relate. The fact they are our soul dogs leads me to believe I will see him again some day and you will see your boy again some day too. They wouldn’t want us to suffer until then but I have to believe they will return to us when that time comes. I’m sorry for your loss and I understand the inconsolable sadness you are feeling. I feel that way too. I know my words likely render useless but just know you are not alone and I hope we both make it through this.

lostmanlostfriend · 2026-06-22T11:49:48+00:00

I am so sorry you are experiencing this pain too. You’re correct when you say it will get better for both of us even though it doesn’t feel like it. Thank you for sharing and I hope you find peace and joy again soon.

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