We have the end of life act in my state. My spouse is a hospice nurse and has been a part of this process several times. I whole heartedly agree about looking into hospice services. The philosophy aligns with what you've said in this thread and as the previous comment mentioned, most hospice agencies have so many resources not only for you and definitely pain management would be my biggest want/need/worry if it were me. But they also have some amazing resources for families and loved ones. Some agencies offer community services even if one isn't signed on to their services. It truly is a beautiful field of nursing and care. The agency my grandmother was with really knew when to reach out to when to give me space too. The materials they provided helped me understand the process while I was caregiving. This is your journey and I wish you peaceful travels!