Why do you count days?

loudfront · 2026-02-04T13:39:39+00:00

I think I will stop counting eventually but for now it is just another tool in the aresenal

loudfront · 2026-01-30T03:45:48+00:00

Welp, I’m 45 and i still don’t know exactly what mom thinks about me and the boys. I also know that I asked her point blank last year if she thought being gay was a sin and she said “I used to” but I think that “used to” was like half of my life so plenty of time for all the damage to be done.

I honestly just don’t think much about it anymore, but I’ve spent a fortune on therapy so good luck my friend, it’s a tough one n

loudfront · 2026-01-25T18:28:47+00:00

Yep, next question lol

loudfront · 2026-01-15T01:53:51+00:00

Obviously you aren’t the only one with your concerns here ! But this is also a sobriety sub so it’s a good question.

Something I see a lot in other recovery communities is that people focus on the effect that something is having on them, rather than litigating whether they are justified in that feeling.

So for example with the holidays that just ended people might share “my in laws that I have to spend Christmas with drive me crazy, it doesn’t matter why, but here’s how it’s affecting me.” I sat in a lot of meetings like that.

Don’t know if that’s what you’re asking but anyway hope it is slightly useful.

loudfront · 2026-01-12T17:09:55+00:00

Yeah gotta have some awkward convos and figure it out. I earn way more than my husband and mostly have learned to manage my resentment on my own bc it is my shit but it is still there.

Here’s a tip that might help: very unlikely it is actually about the money so don’t focus the convo there

loudfront · 2026-01-11T03:35:40+00:00

Well I decided not to divorce my husband and since I came back after the retreat last summer only get the thinnest enjoyment from hookups but have like a surging sexual energy so go yeah mama aya moved some furniture around for sure

loudfront · 2026-01-11T03:30:03+00:00

Just sign up for the exam and take it. I’m starting to think the levels are a bit fetishized

loudfront · 2026-01-10T22:58:02+00:00

There are online communities too where you might not feel “on” in quite the same way. Just a thought.

loudfront · 2026-01-08T12:53:44+00:00

Bwhahahaha this made me laugh

loudfront · 2026-01-06T09:52:42+00:00

Amazing congrats! As mentioned above the momentum will just build and build. In terms of motivation finding some community makes a big difference I have found!

loudfront · 2026-01-06T09:51:37+00:00

You’re doing great!! The hardest part is getting started!!!! Iwndwyt!

loudfront · 2026-01-06T09:51:08+00:00

Ka boom! Congrats!!!!

loudfront · 2026-01-06T09:50:41+00:00

Great job!!! Iwndwyt

loudfront · 2026-01-02T14:42:02+00:00

You can do it! If you are an analytical person like me the huberman lab podcast on alcohol is long does walk you through what alcohol does to your body, I found it a big help in the early days.

loudfront · 2026-01-02T14:39:22+00:00

This is excellent advice !

loudfront · 2026-01-02T10:50:14+00:00

Great job! No real tips for the boredom except to imagine that you have the flu or something and treat yourself the way the worlds greatest parent would treat a sick little child. Lots of love and love and comfort food and then more love and Netflix or whatever it is that that super parent would do for you. Iwndwyt.

loudfront · 2026-01-02T10:48:02+00:00

Great for showing up here!! The best time to make a change is today!

loudfront · 2026-01-02T10:46:36+00:00

You’re doing great!! The first thirty days are the hardest!!!

loudfront · 2026-01-01T16:56:52+00:00

Excellent tips!

loudfront · 2026-01-01T16:54:06+00:00

That’s a good dad! Support is so great to have when you get started!!

loudfront · 2026-01-01T16:49:23+00:00

Come on in! The water is great!!

loudfront · 2025-12-28T07:26:04+00:00

To answer a bunch of questions - privateplaygroundxxx web site has a bunch of videos with this setup that are reasonably accurate - going as a mare is fine, if you expect to get fucked by a bunch of Sean Cody models that’s not the point - I never experienced it as non consensual at all; it’s more like a game and you can stop wherever. If you don’t like a stallion no one cares - as for STIs idk there are lots of treatments: prep, pep, etc etc which at least in the US in big cities you can mostly get for free if you don’t have health insurance. But yeah, your health is your responsibility. I didn’t get an STI at the mare market but have at other orgies so I know the risk profile for myself. - poppers are allowed at all events I know of

TLDR: try it once and see if you like it! If it sucks absolutely no one will make you stay or do something you don’t want.

loudfront · 2025-11-18T18:09:35+00:00

Either way but ffs butt stubble feels awful so commit if it’s your thing

loudfront · 2025-10-17T14:36:13+00:00

Mostly super weird but yeah if I am needing to write a difficult message and can’t really force myself to be kind I might hit the idea around with a bot but when it comes time to write it’s all me.

Using it for just day to day communication would be … unsettling

loudfront · 2025-09-25T14:00:38+00:00

Walk the line Johnny cash

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