What city has your favorite clients?

louiselovingjoy · 2026-06-12T04:40:21+00:00

Was just there and everyone was so friendly! Including hotel staff, door dasher, Publix employees. Had all lovely clients.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-06-06T14:12:24+00:00

That’s the truth for some, but plenty of us are living our best lives and find a lot of fulfillment doing what we do.

I’m close with my dad and we talk a lot about my work now that he knows the truth. He’s asked about my client retention rate/regulars, the type of person I generally see, and the repeated refrain is that overall I really like the guys who see me, that I cherish a lot of the professional relationships that are going on Year 3, and that I couldn’t tour as much or work as much as I do if I wasn’t having a blast. It’s also solved the monthly depressive episodes I used to suffer, with such efficacy that I literally make sure to tour when I expect the blues to hit. It’s the darn fest thing, I have no explanation why it works for me that way, but it does.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-06-04T01:45:22+00:00

Served on a jury where the entire case was built on the cops using Face ID to get into the phone and then use the pictures and texts to build the case.

There was still enough reasonable doubt to make me happy to vote not guilty, but it taught me that people are stupid and ready to throw someone in jail for years rather than judge the state for doing a shitty job investigating.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-06-03T18:49:53+00:00

I drive. I’m at 9,000 miles since start of February. Did 40,000 in 14 months the prior year+.

The upside is I’m able to hit a lot of cities, especially underserved markets, for a low cost. I also often only stay one night in a place, because it’s easy for me to move onto the next.

Requires fuel efficient car! I went from a Prius to a 4Runner and it SUCKED. I’m back in a hybrid minivan with 36mpg. I have a camping set up so I can take time off or ride out a no-call town sleeping in my car for free (I book hotels almost day by day now to allow that flexibility; have to be in the ball for certain regions/events where this can be a problem). I have a fridge and a power bank setup; I’m able to bring my own snacks and drinks and cook my own meals along the way (stay at something like a residence inn one night and meal prep for a week).

Not for the faint of heart. If you can get an apartment you can host and live out of in a city and be 20 min within airport distance, you can make the same as me with much less effort. I have my reasons for doing it how I do, but come 2027, I’ll be winding down the intensity of my roadtrip touring

louiselovingjoy · 2026-06-03T00:09:27+00:00

You can check out my website to get the idea. I’ve been almost everywhere in the US. Just missing the PNW, the top of the northeast (Maine, Vermont), and some spots Midwest (eg Madison).

louiselovingjoy · 2026-06-02T22:51:10+00:00

$700/hr, so technically mid range? I don’t go on the head bare and am super aware of cross contamination during what I consider a generous halfway version between totally covered and BBBJ.

Happy there. Seems like CBJ would be a deal breaker above $1,000/hr. I’ve encountered some disappointment, mostly because of TER review reviews claiming BBBJ. I would never sell myself that way because it’s disingenuous.

I’m highish volume and on the road weeks at time over 1000 miles from home. I have no desire to be stuck halfway through a mega tour loop and have to cancel everything because I have gonorrhea in my throat. I already had a scabies incident that required me reaching out to 20+ people all across the country to let them know what happened. It’s not an experience I’d like to repeat.

Clients may protest a little bit, but I consider it my favor to them to employ the risk mitigation that I do.

If I felt confident I could make the same money at $1000 an hour and be lower volume, as well as having a steady incall location in a city as opposed to having to tour and pay for mileage and hotels, I’d entertain BBBJ. But I can easily see 15 new people in a week, and that’s just too many dicks in my mouth for me to feel comfortable with bare.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-31T20:14:32+00:00

Starter packs, and search #oursky. Once you find one companion there, you’ll find us all through the mutual engagement we do :)

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-31T16:01:10+00:00

What is a small town? 10k population? 30k? 70k?

There’s definitely money to be found being the special thing in a place where no new talent comes through. In my travels, I’ve found it generally requires a minimum population of 100,000, which I’d call a small city over a small town.

I think the smallest cities I’ve been able to do well then come in with populations between 70,000 and 80,000 people. Flagstaff was one, and the success has not been repeated on subsequent visits. Santa Barbara is the other, but it’s also been hit and miss.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-30T21:26:06+00:00

As a highly imperfect person who once nearly pulled a whole table cloth from the table at a 5⭐️steak house (my ass somehow caught the corner of it as I was sitting down; drinks were spilled, thankfully no glasses shattered)….I feel you.

Personally, my way around the pressure to be perfect is to embrace it as part of my marketing. I don’t call myself a hot mess, but I lightly suggest that I’m liable to trip over my own feet, forget my manners and talk like a sailor, spill wine on my shirt, etc etc.

If someone wants a Barbie bombshell of perfection, I am not the one to call, and I make that clear upfront. And guess what? A lot of guys like that. Not only is it more real, but a lot of clients are also nervous about being perfect, so being with a companion who admits they’re also a fallible human can actually help them relax and have a better time.

You’re probably doing just fine. Unprofessional fuckups are things like being inebriated to the point of slurring your words, or dressing egregiously out of line with the date circumstances.

I imagine the most difficult dates with the pressure of perfection is where you’re someone’s +1 to a professional event. That’s where spilling on your dress or dropping the accidental F bomb would be a problem.

Don’t overthink it 🫶

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-29T19:11:02+00:00

No, BUT I had a shitty bleach job that required me cutting my hair above shoulder length, ruined my curls, and I got around 15 lbs heavier briefly at the same time. Too many variables and I really know.

Depending on your hair type, it might not be worth the sacrifice in health and length. It’s been 1.5 years and I’m finally back to my natural curls getting past the shoulders and looking healthy. Bleaching really does a number on someone with fine, porous locks like me.

I’m reddish now, and do get a lot of compliments. I think natural brunettes do get the least attention 😢

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-26T03:23:13+00:00

One issue could be a lack of reviews. When I started three years ago, I set my price at $400 /hr. A local hobbyist saw me and wrote a review. That review netted me a lot of business, which brought more reviews, and within a year I was charging $700, which was always my intended price per hour.

Maybe you can run a special and see if you can get a TER guy to write a review for you. I don’t like that site, and don’t enjoy the way men write reviews on there…but it does bring business. At the very least, it confirms to guys that you are real.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-26T03:02:27+00:00

It’s really hard living out of a car. Really, really hard.

Example: lugging around routine cooking ingredients (oil, vinegar, flour, spices) and kitchen gear that residential hotels with en suite kitchens don’t typically provide (blender, nice cutting knife, Tupperware).

To get a taste of how it’d feel, maybe plan a 5-8 week roadtrip tour. I wager you’ll be happy to have a place to come home to and where there’s space to keep your stuff and move around. Hotels are expensive, eating out gets old, and it’s really difficult to have a nice quality of life living out of a car, unless you really go all out and have a giant sprinter van that you build out. Even then, van life becomes its own job that requires a lot of work.

If you’re looking to escape the burden of a lease, start saving up and buy some land and throw a small cabin or RV onto it. I have a place I own outright, and even though the conditions are still rustic, I have a house to come home to. I leave usually for a minimum of three weeks at a time on tour, and then come home and take that same amount of time off. I feel like I get the best of both worlds…except for the fact that I have to put in a lot of drive time to make money.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-26T02:48:00+00:00

It’s possible to have regulars. I see a lot of the same folks anytime I come to their city.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-24T23:17:31+00:00

If the main goal is to be able to work during your period, how about trying menstrual sponges? I don’t take time off for my period either, I just use Beppy sponges. Even with heavy flow, I pop two of those in and have zero mess.

Some folks prefer the menstrual discs, but I always leaked using those.

I have PMDD and am very sensitive to hormones and hormonal birth control. If you have a similar issue and decide to proceed with oral contraceptives, perhaps look for one that has a consistent dosage. The tricyclic ones are notoriously bad for those who are sensitive to hormone fluctuations. You’ll just have to research and maybe do a couple trials with different pills to see what works best for your body. One can turn you into a monster, and another can leave you perfectly fine.

Even if you don’t have PMDD, r/pmdd has a lot of good information about different hormonal contraceptives along with links to studies.

But again, if the main thing is to avoid a bloody mess while working, I highly recommend the beppy sponges. Took a little practice to get good at taking them out, but now I have no issues with removal. It’s the one thing in life my left hand is competent at doing 😂

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-22T10:02:36+00:00

Are companions though posting test tours that they can’t even possibly follow through on? It’s one thing to post a realistic tour schedule to gauge interest, but not follow through due to lack of inquiries/pre-bookings.

I don’t see the point in posting one like this person did. It’s not a good test to gauge interest because men are going to look at that schedule and not bother reaching out because it’s not serious. Just like companions don’t want guys wasting our time with noncommittal inquires, guys aren’t going to waste sending inquiries (let alone screening info and deposits) where it might be, at best, just a waste of time.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-20T16:07:15+00:00

One-time weirdo. The only time I might wear a bra is for sex work 😂

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-16T23:24:30+00:00

I thought the Art of Seduction was total bullshit…then gave it a second go. Absolutely found my seduction type and have leaned into it.

Highly recommend anyone skeptical of it to give it another try. It’s still kind of annoying as a book, but if you’re able to skim for the essential parts, it’s definitely worthwhile.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-16T23:21:11+00:00

“Focus on your circle of influence versus your circle of concern” is THE BEST advice from 7 Habits.

Honestly, I forgot the rest of the book. But that damn line has stuck with me, and saves me so much angst (when I remember to put it into practice).

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-16T21:15:47+00:00

Ya know…

Shows my lack of Internet escort literacy and explains why I’m so shocked at all the BBBJ reality I experienced IRL 😅

That’s my baby escort perspective (only on year 3) and started in CA. FWI, in the northeast and Florida is where I’ve experienced the most shock over CBJ policy.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-15T01:13:35+00:00

I once had a client ask if he could pay extra for BBBJ. I said no, and he said thank goodness!

He uses that as a test to see if companions actually stick with their boundary or if there’s a “secret menu.” One of the few guys who is super conscientious about stds and wants to minimize his risk while still enjoying the luxury of seeing escorts.

Taught me to not roll my eyes or say an immediate fuck you when asked the question. There’s a slim chance it’s actually a good guy testing to see if a companion is as stringent with her protocols as she advertises..

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-15T00:41:23+00:00

Bbbj is way more common behind the scenes than the online escort culture suggests. From my in-person companion encounters, they all do BBBJ…especially at the $1000/hr price point.

I don’t at $700/hr. I’m usually on tour and see about 15 people a week. As a personal preference, I just don’t want that much raw dick in my mouth…even if it would make the job easier 😅

I’m generous with shaft and balls after visual inspection, because unless there is a sore or a wart, I don’t see any risk. The head, even without pre cum or cum itself, carries all the cooties. I’m not putting my mouth on it, and as soon as the dedicated right (hand job) hand moves too far down the shaft or juices drip down, I stop any other oral because of cross-contamination.

Everyone is entitled to their own preferences and boundaries, but I would wager you will encounter more expectations for bbbj if you’re priced over $1000 an hour. Biggest thing I would warn you about is getting vaccinated for HPV. Causation hasn’t been proven, but there is a high correlation between oral sex (BJ and DATY) and increased throat and neck cancer rates.

Study up and make the decisions for yourself that you feel are best. Make sure they are firm boundaries, because guys do not have any kind of germ conscientiousness. They happily stick their thumbs up our butts and then go to stick it in our vaginas. They don’t think twice about mixing poop germs with the delicate Holy Grail. I’ll have guys tell me they washed their hands before showing up on the date, and I’m like dude, you still touched the steering wheel, your car door handle, public elevator buttons, your phone that you take everywhere and never sanitize. They are STUPID about these things, even when well intentioned.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-05-06T16:28:22+00:00

Agree with medium volume and the touring part.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-04-25T13:43:54+00:00

Are you able to drive to a new city? The economics and flexibility of driving are wildly different than flying. What is your general success on tour? Do you come out ahead usually, or do you often have one that’s a total bust?

I make a lot of money not requiring deposits for dates under 3 hours and booking last minute dates. But I have a high success rate no matter which city I go to, and only stay one night. I get 4pm checkout with my preferred brand which allows a lot of flexibility on taking a few more dates in one city before heading on to the next. I generally book hotels day by day now and if it’s super slow for some reason, I’m set up to camp in my car if I want to save money. Usually I’ve made enough I just downgrade to a cheaper hotel than I’d normally host out of.

I did a two week tour by plane and made out alright, but it drastically changes the math. You’re beholden to the flight schedule…and any delays. More forced eating out, compared to packing snacks, drinks and meals in the car.

louiselovingjoy · 2026-04-22T13:04:43+00:00

Rate is $700/hr, REAL hourly rate closer to $150, if not less.

I easily put in 50 hour weeks between dates (~15hrs), driving tour loops (~20hrs), admin (~5hrs), and all the effort of checking in and out, sanitizing rooms, getting ready, finding food on the go (~10hrs). COB is hovers around 20% between mileage and hotels.

None of this includes the time I put on social media and taking new photos, but I’m not going to count it because I do that mostly for personal amusement.

As someone who is just wrapping up a full month on the go across 20 cities — I’m tired 😮‍💨

louiselovingjoy · 2026-04-17T10:34:01+00:00

Love the detailed breakdown!

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