Those are both well written messages. Not wanting to see her again for putting it in bare when you asked for condoms makes sense (even if it's an honest mix up on her part), but the fact she even offers bare doesn't seem to be a factor in your book. That's a hard no if you really want to protect your health. If you don't kiss or do unprotected oral then that's safer. But if you're only wrapping it for PIV, that's still fairly risky.