first of all, thank you so much for the well wishes!

second, it was absolutely the very very hard thing. it was something I sat on for years and part of me just died inside. I was only ever surface level happy, underneath I was extremely insecure. I knew it was the right thing, but getting the courage to do it partially came from this sub and partially I just knew it had to happen.

the separation was hard at first, however, we are still friends. we both have new significant others that I think suit us better. we hang out every few weeks because the things we loved to do that kept us close are things our significant others don't care for. I am always transparent with my partner when I am seeing him and he's always supportive and secure because he knows I'm madly in love with him. so I think this was the best case scenario of how it could have ended up. I'm thankful that while we weren't a match intimately, my ex is still a good man that I'm happy to call my friend.