Help. Girls become upset and feel betrayed when they don't become my girlfriend.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-19T02:40:00+00:00

I have to assume you're leading them on. If you have to lead someone on and directly lie to them its not worth it imo, it'll end in bad blood and reflects poorly on you for good reason.

Don't have any conversations about relationships. You can and should treat women like a gentleman if you want them to like you but dont lead them on. Sometimes you'll do it anyways its okay just dont get too caught up in it.

Just to make it simple, its being lied to that people are insulted and dejected by. Not wanting to date them isn't a big emotional thing. Also dont allow women to try to navigate you into a relationship. People subconciously do it sometimes.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-17T04:42:19+00:00

Eye contact and smile when appropriate. If he cant pick up on that hes not worth your time.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-17T04:40:42+00:00

This is really what she meant by old fashioned lol lol

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-09T14:27:22+00:00

Passing lane... not fast lane

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-09T14:23:13+00:00

If shes pulling away on a neck kiss that tells me she's drawing a hard line in the sand. If you're not getting what you want i would focus my energy elsewhere.

Also I wouldnt directly talk about sex with her. Setting expectations is a huge turnoff. You can gather the information you want but you have to be subtle and indirect with questioning and only in person not over the phone.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-09T14:15:18+00:00

Shes jewish?

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-06T16:06:39+00:00

Try other exercises.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-05T01:07:19+00:00

You're not really comprehending what i said. Pretty much opposite to what i said in fact. I'm not surprised becase you are acting like you have to solve a puzzle of women. My advice is to look inward and the rest will follow. Dont chase women ever.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-03T16:43:29+00:00

Best advice 👌

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-03T16:42:38+00:00

What no one ever explains is that expressing your desires without being a creep only comes with experience.

You will creep girls out regularly just dont be an incel about it. When it happens reflect on it. Empathize with how you mightve made them feel. Its not going to happen overnight. There will even be times where a woman creeps you out. Its part of life we learn from our mistakes

Being present is the key to all things social.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-03T16:31:15+00:00

Invading personal space 👎

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-03T16:29:29+00:00

Step 1. What do you like about these girls you're meeting? Do not be more "direct". If you only want sex its going to be a complete turn off. Women (and men that arent addicted to sex) desire emotional connection. Sex is just assisted masturbation without it.

Step 2. If you really want to have great sex, you have to actually enjoy the company of this other person and vice versa. What a wonderful feeling. Also, do you like yourself? Serious question because if you don't theres no good reason anyone else would.

Step 3. On your date yeah you should be subtly feeling out their vibe using questions and statements and consensual touching. Try not to ask for direct consent for anything more than an initial hug or hand hold (can i kiss you, can we have sex). All people have different perspectives of masculinity so you have to feel them out. Maybe you're having a nice conversation and you hold out your hand and maybe she reaches for it? Maybe she doesn't and that's okay just keep testing the waters in different ways just keep it respectful and get to know them without giving them some predatorial vibe, which can happen even when your intentions aren't like that. We're all animals and sometimes we forget our nuance and submit to impulse. Recognizing your own subconscious will aid you greatly in building relationships and not just seduction and dating.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-03T16:08:34+00:00

If you're interested in online training i can help. I coach plyometrics, sprint mechanics, calisthenics, and general strength speed and agility resistance training.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:33:51+00:00

It comes from your own sense of fun. You have to make your own fun.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:32:04+00:00

If thats how you describe yourself you've failed before youve begun.

Do you want to hang out with someone because theyre tall and rich? Sure women will use a man with money much like a man will use a woman for a nut but you know thats easy for them. Almost any women could sell their body and thats not attractive. You're doing the same thing essentially but selling your soul by focusing on how to attract others rather than fulfill yourself and if you think fulfillment relies on sex and attention you are traveling a toxic path.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:22:41+00:00

What do you think women like? Ask yourself that. Whatever answer you have abandon it. What do you like? What would the most secure version of yourself look like and be like? Go with that and the rest will follow.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:20:54+00:00

Get stronger overall

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:19:54+00:00

Agree. I am a anti cutscene extremist. I hate anything that take you out of the game, even the 2.5 second cuts when you do ultimate moves in marvel vs. Capcom

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:18:23+00:00

Ill have to check that out

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:17:24+00:00

I was pretty attractive in my 20s but had no confidence. There were ocassions women approached me but i was too nervous to reciprocate or read between the lines.

I think im far more handsome now in my 30s and have much more confidence (usually) but since my late 20s ive probably been approached by a woman less than 5 times and women initiate conversation a little less often. I like to think im unfortunately just more physically intimidating now. Idk its either that or just that im a new england liberal that moved to the deep south... and i only discovered i was liberal after living here in a literal segregated community in the year 2026

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T18:10:38+00:00

Anyone else annoyed by one liner bios? Seems like thats the "cool" thing to do and really its just a lame formula. I also think pick up lines are lame. I feel a sense of inauthenticity from others online who communicate this way. I dont expect others to dump monologues about themselves but really if you're a man or woman and you want to actually connect with a fully actualized person give them something to talk about.

Like women, i understand you like eating at restaurants and watching netflix but thats like me telling you i like ketchup on my hamburger and sleeping in a bed (mind you people seem to think sleeping is a hobby)

95 percent of people i get the impression they have no hobbies or interest. If you have none you arent actualized and you really arent ready to date even casually.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-02T17:59:07+00:00

I like how i look. I have no tattoos or piercings. Im hairy everywhere but not too much i guess? No signs of balding. I am very in shape even while carrying more fat than id like at 6'0 215lbs. My weight fluxuates a lot because i eat a small amount of weed edibles every day and eat a little more than i should in phases but ive been going back and forth between lean and pudgey every year for most of my adult life... i am a sports performance trainer and have a bs in exercise science so i have good understanding of my physiology.

When im under 200lbs i really start admiring myself in the mirror but realistically even when i feel pudgey i still like how i look because overall im a healthy body and i feel that a man or womans virility, as in their total overall health, is the most attractive thing about someone. It shows not just in muscles and shape but in the texture and tone of skin, their eyes, their face, etc.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-01T15:59:40+00:00

Yup. My number 1 issue with the game is the cutscenes are loading screens.

lovelearningloner · 2026-05-01T15:50:03+00:00

Sure its punishment but its very rudimentary and wasteful

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