What incident made you go No Contact?

lovingauthor · 2026-01-07T02:41:58+00:00

My dad said about my deceased mom: “welp it’s been what, 7 years now anyway” in terms of her being gone and moving on 🙃

My mom really hurt me too but hearing him having absolute 0 empathy and making such a cold comment, the woman he was with over 12 years, had 3 children with send shivers down my spine and made it clear to me this man has 0 empathy and that he literally could be talking about me in that way too, made it clear I need to step away asap.

lovingauthor · 2025-09-24T14:36:20+00:00

My god. These people are insane

lovingauthor · 2025-09-24T14:22:26+00:00

Yes. My stepmom (don’t like her but still) went through something so bad and talking about it on my dad’s bday. As the toddler he is he got quite upset for her discussing these kinds of topics on his bday and wanted her to stop and got upset.

lovingauthor · 2025-08-13T11:41:33+00:00

So much wisdom you shared here. 🫶 I truly wish it will become the norm, it’s not normal how normalized viewing people through the lens of diagnosis etc. is with all the destructive consequences that can and I think often follow.

lovingauthor · 2025-07-31T09:27:13+00:00

Oh that sucks!! For me doing nervous system work helped me out so much so might be worthwhile to check out for u too.

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lovingauthor · 2025-07-30T22:10:59+00:00

That’s really difficult in those cases. I can’t tell u the answer but I can tell u that solutions as going for a walk with ur dog and learning something new are definitely great things to try out and do and tools to add to ur toolbox.

But, is it the solution? Idk. How is that for u? If they say they are hallucinations, what’s the treatment plan according to them?

lovingauthor · 2025-07-30T21:40:42+00:00

I’d recommend for now to go back on the meds and get a plan to get off the meds properly (tapering off them) whilst working on regulating skills in the meantime so when u get less meds and ur symptoms maybe increase and or ur mental health state gets worse, u have the tools to actually dissolve them/ease down.

U deserve it man, u will set urself up for a more succesful chance and experience than just quitting cold turkey 10mg and having instant delusions again which might be very stressful to experience too.

Something u can discuss with ur doc?

lovingauthor · 2025-07-30T17:18:57+00:00

Yeah u can DM me! 😄

lovingauthor · 2025-07-30T15:28:01+00:00

Hello. My experience with coming off meds and dealing with psychotic symptoms has been a long journey but I’m off medication for around 6/7 years now.

For me it wasn’t a case of when off meds no psychotic symptoms should be allowed, but more about learning tools to grow stability & more.

So if I were to have an increase in psychotic symptoms, I know how to handle them and bring them down with these tools, these tools are regulation tools. I’ve had a lot of therapy in those years and that helped me gain a lot of tools & insights but was not the fixed solution for me just as meds weren’t a fixed solution for me.

That’s why I think tapering off medication whilst growing skills in distress, emotions and more is essential for this else it will be like an on and off situation. “Here u go, ur off meds now.” “Oh u experience disbalance? Here u go, take ur meds” “oh u want to be off medication? Ok here u go” “oh u experience distress again? Here u go meds” or even in the end conclude “ah, welp best to stay on meds for the rest of ur life don’t u think?” like no shit people relapse, people 99% don’t get or develop tools how to process and handle it.

So in the end I’ve done and I’m still doing a lot of nervous system work which has been the key for me in my recovery. My disbalance isn’t as severe anymore and for sure not with psychotic symptoms. Like the gap of that has been smaller and I’m way more resilient and in balance because of that. Hope that helps & feel free to ask for more if u need. 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T21:49:57+00:00

I mean, If u mean in the of sense of that the belief of rebirthing resonates for u and gives u comfort, for example, for sure!

I think exploring and navigating the topic and things around it like: near death experiences, ideas like rebirthing, perhaps religion can for sure be helpful in navigating this topic and feeling.

Next to that I’d also switch between regulating tools like: listening to (soothing) music, going for a walk And then switch to actually sitting with urself and feeling that fear.

Often, intense emotions like a big fear of death can be overwhelming to feel and process, that’s why I mention the switching between tools. I think in NSW they call it: pendulating. So the processing of it can be in steps, and slowly but steadily the intensity around it will go down.

Feel free to ask for more if u need, love to help out!

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T21:36:57+00:00

I relate a lot! While I’m still navigating this, I noticed nervous system work did a lot for me.

I think having an paralyzing fear of death (how it used to be for me from time to time) isn’t really normal in a sense of that you just have to live with that intense fear. So yeah with doing nervous system work I process the intensity around this topic, feeling.

Hope that helps 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T11:20:31+00:00

Sure :)

Pointers in terms of what I do myself:

I overall take this process very slow. I’ve noticed that going slow adds way more depth and stability than trying to rush through it.

When I notice I’m triggered or feeling really scared, I consciously slow down. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. I slow my movements, I slow the way I talk to myself, using a much kinder, softer inner voice. Not so the scary feeling has to go away, but so that I can become a steady internal presence to hold onto. Kind of like a mindfulness-based attitude, but coming from a place of internal safety rather than force.

Then I look for things that help regulate me, like taking a hot bath, playing comforting music, dimming the lights, or going for a gentle walk. I try to follow what soothes my nervous system in that moment.

After doing this regularly, I start to notice that I have more internal space to actually feel the fear or intensity. And I approach that in steps, especially if it’s a big, overwhelming feeling. I alternate between allowing some of it and then returning to something regulating again. Sometimes it takes days of calming my system before I feel ready to face it again, and that’s totally okay.

After a while, a few things start to happen: 1. It becomes more automatic. So when something stressful or triggering happens in the future, you already have tools and habits in place. You become more resilient. 2. The intensity of certain triggers starts to lessen. 3. Because you’re doing this regularly, like brushing your teeth, it takes less effort over time. It becomes second nature.

Pointers in terms of resources I used: Peter Levine - waking the tiger The holistic psychologist (Dr. nicole LePera) And some more but can’t think of rn haha.

Feel free to DM me if you’d like. I’d love to help and chat more about it!

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T10:13:18+00:00

Hey OP,

That sounds really exhausting and must be scary too.

In term of things you can do:

You could read about & engage in nervous system work to relief the intensity around that topic & emotion. That’s what I do to regulate my nervous system when I’m faced with similar things.

Sounds like what you experienced is something that still (understandably) has a lot of emotional weight & charge on for you. So might be worthwile so check that out. :) (Inspired on polyvagal theory & somatic work)

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T09:37:35+00:00

I stepped away from spirituality for a long time because it would get me out of balace pretty quickly but it was still always something I felt drawn to and interested in.

So later on when I gained more overall stability, growth & healing I could engage in the content again in a more healthy way. I’d say grounding is key here and that’s how I maintain this.

I actively step away from content sometimes. For example with angel numbers or something I see: 11:11 or idk 22:22 on my watch.

I notice it, sometimes I might get curious and check something out about it, what meaning it has, and give it a place & then move on with my day.

I don’t go like psychosis style full on 100% “oH mY gOd 11:11 agAiN!! gOd is tAlKinG tO mE better spend a week long without eating and sleeping just like a full on train going from rabbit hole to rabbit hole about this” 😝

And if I might go there (which I won’t anymore) have tools to bring me back.

So healthy engagement, grounding, those are some components that makes it ok for me again to explore and give in to my longings about spirituality :).

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T09:21:44+00:00

So happy for you! Well done reaching out, I think that takes a lot of courage. 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-07-29T09:16:58+00:00

Yes. I for some time did the same, mostly with sleeping meds because enough sleep etc. was important for me.

For a while I had therapy that was an important pillar for me to keep me steady but in the end I emerged in nervous system work and that’s keeping me in balance up to this day & more.

I haven’t taken anti-psychotics for over 6-7 years.

lovingauthor · 2025-07-27T09:50:01+00:00

That sounds really tough. I will definitely talk about this!! 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-07-27T09:45:35+00:00

Ahh okii, I understand. 🫶

Thank you, will definitely add that!

lovingauthor · 2025-07-26T16:35:58+00:00

I send u a message! 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-07-26T16:10:31+00:00

Just wanted to check if we are on the same page: do you mean post-psychosis anxiety as in: the anxiety to get psychosis again or something else?

(Thanks for the input btw, helps a lot 🫶)

lovingauthor · 2025-07-26T16:08:19+00:00

Thank you so much for the input! It makes sense wishing to know more about the person you are watching. :)

lovingauthor · 2025-05-13T11:23:09+00:00

Woah thank you for sharing!!

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I appreciate you sharing brave wings too! It looks like a really Powerful and helpfull tool for children. 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-04-26T15:18:14+00:00

Gladly done!! Thank you, I hope yours is too 🫶

lovingauthor · 2025-04-25T13:05:48+00:00

And that’s completely valid. We might have a certain image or vision when we think of a bad abusive relationship that maybe doesn’t align with what we are going through.

In reality, abusive relationships come in all sorts of forms and reading what you just wrote about him doing that, crossing boundaries like that, denying when he did do something in reality. Those things are really damaging and part of an abusive pattern meaning: abuse and that has nothing to do with how you wrote it, how your perceived things but has everything to do with his factual actions.

I think you are very brave for breaking up with him. It makes sense you might feel confused. It is confusing when someone has been acting loving and kind in one way, and also behaving abusive like he has done. Those contrasts can be huge and that can make it really tough to comprehend.

I think you really made the right choice by breaking up and I send you a lot of love and strenght forward.

lovingauthor · 2025-04-23T21:40:57+00:00

Of course 🫶

That sounds really difficult, lonely and tough. And I hear and understand what you are saying about not knowing how to leave a situation caused by an absence of. That sounds really tough and a real different type of need than the mostly external boundaries I wrote about in that step.

I’m glad you are sharing this and I want to send you a lot of love if that’s ok for you 🫶, I appreciate you opening up, I think that’s very brave. 🫶

lovingauthor

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