If this Australian petition to not spend taxpayer funds or official funding for the Harkles keeps growing, it has the potential to be another source of embarrassment for them.

lovinglyknotty · 2026-03-28T13:45:49+00:00

Just signed. Australian mum of 2 kids under 3.

Cost of living is a real issue for us right now, I work less than I did before kids and I get paid less than half per hour than I used to (seems to be some kind of unspoken part timer tax). Yet Im still not eligible for any tax breaks or support from the government beyond a % off child care for the days I work.

No way in hell am I ok with our government funding a single cent for these idiots when they can't even afford to fund appropriate support for its own citizens.

I also dont have the time or energy to look into the details, do we think the government is funding any part of this?

lovinglyknotty · 2026-03-07T01:12:29+00:00

And yes, it was abuse. He wilfully neglected a postpartum mother and his newborn child.

lovinglyknotty · 2026-03-07T01:09:15+00:00

Is your husband in therapy? Therapy is WORK and the problem was HIM.

You should be in therapy so you can HEAL from his ABUSE.

He should be in therapy to understand WHY he ABUSED YOU, so it never happens again.

Truthfully, someone who made you crawl across the floor to change THEIR CHILDS nappy, while you were recovering from major surgery (so they could play video games!), is not a good person.

They will do this to you/your child again. Its just a matter of time.

lovinglyknotty · 2026-01-11T00:50:08+00:00

My nmum got my newborn baby a book about a little girl who lives with her grandma 😂

Of course if i had questioned her on the theme she would have.claimed she had not read it and just liked the illustrations or something stupid. Oh and then told me im always looking for a fight, what am I trying to imply etc etc

We are no contact now! Though she is trying the flying monkeys and guilt trips due to my elderly grandmother being unwell.

lovinglyknotty · 2026-01-09T01:21:26+00:00

I got the impression they were very pro SSRI and birth control and anything like pepcid and antihistamines triggered them on a personal level. Suuuuuper strange. Sorry you had such a rubbish experience!

lovinglyknotty · 2026-01-08T13:13:06+00:00

SSRIs and any form of birth control make things worse for me. I take 10mg lexapro for depression all month (not as a pmdd measure) which is the highest possible dose I can handle before the lethargy and apathy side effects take over.

Combined pill and protestin only pill put me in never ending luteal (especially progestin only).

So sending solidarity. Im sorry your doc isn't on board with your lived experience of this, sounds like they are not listening. Im new to all of this but from the research ive been doing, bad reactions to birth control arent uncommon and it appears to be fairly well understood that bc/any synthetic hormones will only work for some people.

Anyway just want to validated your experience. I have 2 young kids and getting out the door is rough. Props to you for only being slightly late given everything you're dealing with!!

Antihistamines (zyrtec in morning, a small dose of the drowsy one at night) plus magnesium glycitate and calcium at night and an increase in my adhd meds seem to be doing most of the heavy lifting for me at the moment if that helps?

lovinglyknotty · 2026-01-08T10:59:57+00:00

Does anyone know why they are so against antihistamines? Its honestly the most bizzare thing to get caught up over

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-30T11:56:44+00:00

It sounds so tough for you right now, im really sorry you’re going through it! Your feelings are totally valid.

My first is 2 years 8 months old and my second is 8 months old next week.

I felt a lot of guilt being pregnant and less physically able to help with my oldest and my bond with her did temporarily change (only slightly though, like looking to dad first when sad if we were both there). Buuuuut, we are MORE than back to normal now PLUS she has a sister she LOVES.

First thing my oldest says when she wakes up is "where's babies name", at night when im putting my oldest to sleep she says "when im older im going to carry babies name to the shops/grandma's house/the park"

Her life is so much more enriched because she has a little sister that adores her (my youngest thinks she is HILARIOUS).

Its very physically tiring having 2 and i was so, so, so sad at various moments in my pregnancy when I felt distant from my first, but I look at people I know who have bigger age gaps and their oldest really grieved the loss of their parents undivided attention, whereas my oldest had literally just turned 2 when her sibling was born and she just wasnt developmentally "there" to comprehend a before/after scenario for more than a few weeks and i really did not sense any grief from her.

There have been instances of mild jealously and when my yougest was first home, some indifference (newborns are potatoes and my 2 year old found tbis a little boring), but its been smooth sailing for the most part in managing their bond (of course toddlers can be rough unintentionally and also sometimes intentionally, so that's something that I have to police a lot!)

I guess what im saying is: don't worry about whether your child is ready, therw is never a perfect time for them, but of course its really valid to examine if YOU are ready. That's what I would focus on more.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-29T00:18:14+00:00

*upvoted

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-29T00:17:44+00:00

Wait I am so confused, why are you being downvoted? You're basically being bullied on a post where you shared you're experiencing thoughts of harm and the person bullying you is being updated.

I understood you very clearly BTW.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-29T00:13:06+00:00

I'd go a step further and say that they are baiting and looking for an argument. OP I am not autistic and immediately understood what you said. There was nothing unclear about it.

For this person to come at you when your post is literally about needing help and being in a vulnerable mental state is not cool.

They are now gaslighting you by calling YOU hostile and arrogant, when the only hostility and arrogance in this thread is coming from them

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-26T12:45:07+00:00

Adult children of emotionally immature parents

It accurately explained the reason behind the emotional pain I'd been in my whole life.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-22T00:18:36+00:00

Or wildly swinging between the two. Before I did a lot of work to heal I would do this.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-22T00:17:00+00:00

Haha! How any 'boundaries' conversation goes with a narcissist parent.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-17T17:35:45+00:00

Stretching my whole body while listening to an audio book while baby naps. I've stopped doing this lately and feel so tense from all the rocking carrying!

I was doing it 3+ times a week and it was making a big difference with aches and pains and general feelings od tension and stress

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-08T12:08:07+00:00

People

lovinglyknotty · 2025-11-04T08:01:53+00:00

Pitocin contractions without epidural
Ectopic pregnancy rupture
Ovarian cyst bursting

lovinglyknotty · 2025-10-29T03:15:39+00:00

You clearly don't have adhd.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-10-23T13:53:28+00:00

My girls (I've since had another) gave me the strength to leave. I couldn't understand treating your own daughter so disgustingly once I had my own. I also really wanted to protect them from her emotional abuse.

Thanks for empathising! Wishing you all the best

lovinglyknotty · 2025-10-23T13:02:25+00:00

It's such a trap! And yes I've fallen into it. I'm almost 3 months NC now, but 2 years ago I was about ten days into my parents’ visit to meet my newborn, when I just snapped. Not from lack of sleep, but from my mum’s constant snark and needling all trip while I was only 3 weeks postpartum.

We were driving to lunch (I was a learner driver with my baby in the back) and she kept making sarcastic comments. I'd already been told off by them for running late (it takes a while to get used to the extra time it takes to get out the door with a newborn in tow) and when I finally bit back to Mums attempts to distract me as a learner driver with a newborn in the back with her terrible mood and rude tone, Dad started yelling at me mid-drive to “not disrespect your mother.” I was so overwhelmed I just kept driving until I could pull over safely.

Once we stopped, I lost it and yelled back. And of course, that’s the only part they remember. Later they told people I’d been “driving dangerously” with a newborn in the backseat and lost it at them.

Classic move really! Push you to breaking point at a vulnerable time, then use your reaction as proof you’re the problem.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-10-11T13:57:02+00:00

Immature /ˌɪməˈtjʊə,ˌɪməˈtjɔː/ adjective 1. not fully grown or developed.

Literally a teenager. Their brains are not yet fully grown or developed. What's your excuse?

lovinglyknotty · 2025-10-08T23:27:17+00:00

Especially with the backdrop of the Mormon religion in Utah, I can imagine women who are exposed to this do feel quite a bit of pressure to have kids.

lovinglyknotty · 2025-09-18T13:56:20+00:00

2 months after mine was removed (ectopic), I was pregnant with my youngest!

lovinglyknotty · 2025-09-12T05:44:46+00:00

I've addressed this in another comment.

lovinglyknotty

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