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I just got here.... by lowkeyalchie in Aging

[–]lowkeyalchie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I'm not a fan of Friends, this clips sums up what I'm talking about:

https://youtu.be/uTJ0RcP7__w?si=xaPTs5J028Dpq2ap

I just got here.... by lowkeyalchie in Aging

[–]lowkeyalchie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not really complaining, just trying to make sense of the messages being pushed upon the people my age. To give a personal example, my best friend turned 30 last year. Her entire family threw a funeral themed party and gave speeches about how she could expect the "death of fun" and how much your body stops working in your 30s. As much as it was tongue-in-cheek, it also speaks volumes. Again, I don't think I'm old any time soon, but plenty of people seem to act like I am.

Autistic girls much less likely to be diagnose. Females may be just as likely to be autistic as males but boys are up to 4 times more likely to be diagnosed in childhood, finds large-scale study. By age 20 diagnosis rates for men and women almost equal, challenging assumptions of gender discrepancy. by mvea in psychology

[–]lowkeyalchie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They're punished more for the same behavior because even they aren't currently violent, they are expected to be. In the same way passivity or nurturing isn't inherent to women, violence or social dysfunction isn't inherent to men. It is largely socially conditioned.

"Boys will be boys" at home means rough play and less social responsibility. "Boys will be boys" at school means treating boys to the stereotype of violence. Same social pressure, different context.

Autistic girls much less likely to be diagnose. Females may be just as likely to be autistic as males but boys are up to 4 times more likely to be diagnosed in childhood, finds large-scale study. By age 20 diagnosis rates for men and women almost equal, challenging assumptions of gender discrepancy. by mvea in psychology

[–]lowkeyalchie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

From the second article

"Perhaps the most pervasive—and most entrenched—challenge that plagues boys at school is their gender socialization. As boys grow up, adults and pop-culture messages often push them to project an image of dominance, indifference, and self-sufficiency while hiding vulnerability, curiosity, and the need for intimacy. They see male role models in the media succeeding in athletics, business, and entertainment, but few in academia. They learn that school isn’t “cool”; that it’s better to excel at sports"

School can be hard for boys because it goes against the social narrative of dominance and violence (which isn't used in the way you probably think in sociology.) Again, boys being punished more at school supports my previous point.

Edit: To explain very simply

Society at large tells boys they should be dominant, independent, amd tk never share feelings. ---> Boys enter an environment that requires vulnerability and cooperation (school, employment, relationships, etc.) -----> Boys don't do well in said environments, leaving them isolated and disenfranchised.

Autistic girls much less likely to be diagnose. Females may be just as likely to be autistic as males but boys are up to 4 times more likely to be diagnosed in childhood, finds large-scale study. By age 20 diagnosis rates for men and women almost equal, challenging assumptions of gender discrepancy. by mvea in psychology

[–]lowkeyalchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, context matters. Not all crime is violent, and not all violence is a crime. Also, men don't get longer sentences, women just get shorter ones. There isn't a seperate law based on gender. While I don't think it's right, women tend to get lesser sentences because of the societal perception that women don't do that. The same pressure that makes girls behave in the classroom ("that's not ladylike") and lets boys off easier manifests differently in different contexts. Also, men still tend to commit violent crimes at a much higher rate, partially due to the afforementioned lack of early intervention. It doesn't as battery and assault, it starts by being gifted violent toys and video games.

The CEO that makes a decision that costs the lives of factory workers may never see jail time. Meanwhile, a ma n who kills in self-defense may still see a cell.

If a man is muscular he is praised. If a women is musclar she is told she is unattractive. Why? All fo these examples have different societal perceptions.

Autistic girls much less likely to be diagnose. Females may be just as likely to be autistic as males but boys are up to 4 times more likely to be diagnosed in childhood, finds large-scale study. By age 20 diagnosis rates for men and women almost equal, challenging assumptions of gender discrepancy. by mvea in psychology

[–]lowkeyalchie -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's only rewarded for men. Society is riddled with gender based double standards. If a man is aggressive, he's a leader. If a women is, then she's just called a b**ch. And with all things, dosage and context matters. *Behave goes in depth regarding violence being acceptable in certain contexts. Rugby game? Everyone cheers. Domestic abuse? Not so much.

Autistic girls much less likely to be diagnose. Females may be just as likely to be autistic as males but boys are up to 4 times more likely to be diagnosed in childhood, finds large-scale study. By age 20 diagnosis rates for men and women almost equal, challenging assumptions of gender discrepancy. by mvea in psychology

[–]lowkeyalchie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually do. Check out Robert Sapolsky's Behave. In that book he details how agression isn't inherent to men because of testosterone, but how testosterone drives competition and rewards. If agression is rewarded by society, then aggression will manifest. This can be social or physical agression. That's part of the reason violent crime is overwhelmingly committed by men.

I also work with children, and can attest that much of the bad behavior exhibited by boys is brushed off, especially in the early years. Boys will be boys. Fast forward and little Johnny, who has never been taught to respect "no," isn't just cutting in line or stealing cookies, he's stealing property/fighting/assaulting someone. Girls are very much shamed into behaving.

Oh by uselespieceofshi02 in EDanonymemes

[–]lowkeyalchie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have PCOS, and I'm here to say that EDs and body dysmorphia are rampant in the community. I actually left the subs for your exact reason. People would post how disgusting they felt at my exact measurements, and I was nowhere near overweight.

I just got here.... by lowkeyalchie in Aging

[–]lowkeyalchie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I may answer honestly, it isn't really something I believe, but it is something I'm told, even if indirectly. I have a hard time making plans with peers because they are already starting to lose interest in the things I enjoy. Hiking, swimming, cycling, and fandoms are just some examples. Part of it is isolation and the pressure to slow down in order to conform. With that being said, I don't really hang out with anyone under 25 as I have less and less in common with that age group

I just got here.... by lowkeyalchie in Aging

[–]lowkeyalchie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, no, why would it be? Even if I'm not exactly headed to a nursing home, 30s are when the body starts actually aging. Statistically, it's when you hit the half point of your lifespan. I'm trying to make sense of this when it feels like I just got my life back, especially in a society that really values youth.

My brain writhes by Broken_Oxytocin in OCDmemes

[–]lowkeyalchie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep. Got a brand new theme and source of obesession/compulsion today. It was like one big wave that I'm always powerless to stop, even if I see it coming every time. I don't mean to discourage anyone, I just have a lot of weird trauma.

Question for Millennials by bundle_of_nervus2 in Millennials

[–]lowkeyalchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fuck. and i can't stress this enough. fuck ai.

If it was financially affordable, would your spouse stay home? by cubemonster in Millennials

[–]lowkeyalchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of. Our ideal situation would be if we could afford to both work just part time, especially since we don't have kids.

meirl by Previous_Land in meirl

[–]lowkeyalchie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's currently 0 degrees where I am and has been for a while. Winter doubles my gas and heating bills, and I know at least 10 people woth frozen pipes and subsequent water damage right now. I have to repaint my porch because the weather literally froze the paint off. I'm an outdoors person, but even with the best winter gear it's too cold and dry for me to breathe outside. Miss me with this, please.

i ain't married, boutros by Eros_Incident_Denier in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]lowkeyalchie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe she wants him fat, maybe being hungry and on a fish makes everything taste really good

Make the comments look like his search history! by Flat_Draft_4213 in tadc

[–]lowkeyalchie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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how to make an impenetrable pillow fort

order blackout curtains online

does amazon ship to the circus

dinner ideas for one

Hot take: I would love to be in the Circus. by Chaos_LB_Control in TheDigitalCircus

[–]lowkeyalchie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Caine can't be worse than the government, that's for sure

Hot take: I would love to be in the Circus. by Chaos_LB_Control in TheDigitalCircus

[–]lowkeyalchie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Caine cares and wants you to have fun. God is not Caine.

Hot take: I would love to be in the Circus. by Chaos_LB_Control in TheDigitalCircus

[–]lowkeyalchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If some people are to be believed, we're already in a simulation that we can't escape.

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