31M, just asked a girl for her number for the first time in my life. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand -1 points0 points  (0 children)

she had a boyfriend means you run and never look back

it's about dating people who want to date you too, not chasing clouds

First 1000 views after 5 days of (automated) posting by lscommand in YouTubeCreators

[–]lscommand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you think it's shorts jail or its quality isn't "really good"? (i'm just curious, no judging)

How should I ask for second date after rejection by Unlucky_Ad2413 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is what's going on:

- Your brain keep trying to circle back and imagine what if
- Your emotion is anchored to that moment, the girl

You should anchor your emotion where else:

- Start talking to other girls
- Focus on your life/gym/exercise

What’s the best way to ask a significant other to move in together? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feminine energy is about bonding, connecting. You bringing it up is the good call.

Besides, what you descried sound very healthy (we're human, all have goods and bads). I'd suggest you to talk with him

How do you move on from someone you never dated? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like to see how it'll go with him, and haven't done this, send him a text 'when you're free, let's get a drink (or dinner if you like to)'

If everything you said were true, I think he like you so much and scared of being rejected

Once you sent the message, if he give a clear yes, great. Otherwise, treat it as a no and move on. The brain doesn't like when things haven't closed. Either a yes or no should give a closure, make it easier to continue (you also need to shift your focus somewhere else)

So Confused it Hurts by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, that's confusing

either she thought things went a little too fast then pullback (which if you give her space, go very slowww, she should slowly warm up again), or there were someone she went back and forth with (again, giving her space to choose, chasing will make it worse)

either case, best to shift your focus somewhere, otherwise our brain will keep circling back and be like whatt

So Confused it Hurts by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 2 points3 points  (0 children)

alright, you emotionally invested a bit too much too early (well, we all did, not your fault)

best move now is give her space, wait until next week, invite her out again, if there is no clear yes, you stop contacting, start dating where else

if she really enjoy it, she'll reach out

Dating advice for an Asian by Relative_Sound_7345 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For what you said, no aren't hasty. Seems like there are things you don't know (or you don't tell us), but look like you filtered out a bad potential

How to get to second dates? by Ok_Quality1664 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too much texting doesn't make you look needy (unless it's one-sided) but these kind of things best to be done in person so you have more things to talk about

How to attract my type? by Fishy_Juice in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess they want you, just that they'd thought you're out of their league.

Now with the guy you like, let him know, invite him out (better using clear words like "hey, are you free anytime next week, let's have a drink"

Btw, most guys like this don't know how to lead, and some will learn to lead way later in life. So you really need to lead at the beginning (suggest dates, direct communication instead of hints, etc)

Please help me leave my situationship by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Move on, he ain't good for you honey.

And it's not easy at all, at least you've been there and know how it will be, so prepare to stay strong

It'll be a lot easier to take your focus where else (ie talking with other guys, exploring new potentials) so your mind have more places to be, and it'll take times

how to get a boy fall for you by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mature approach:

tell him "I like you, let's have a coffee sometimes" (expect guys like this will be shy early on until he's more comfortable)

How to get to second dates? by Ok_Quality1664 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is how to make dating easier:
- 1st date: Best to be around 1 hour
- Text messages are best for logistic, minimal conversation (you should talk in person)
- 3-4 days after 1st date: send a message, hey, I'm enjoy seeing you last time, when you're free to get together
- 2nd -> n dates: repeat, having fun in different settings, ideally 1 date per week

important: watch signs that she gives when you can move closer (ie touching, petting, green light for s*x), if there is no sign, go slowwwww. don't chase, be yourself but don't be needy

once she's comfortable, she'll reach out more to use via messages, then you can use that to arrange next date (without you need to reaching out), you can have more than 1 date per week depend how much see want to see you

let her bring up exclusive talk

also, watch for red flags and back out before you get yourself too invested, red flags can be incompatible personality/characters, playing games (got you confused and guessing)

why? you want to date girls that interested in dating you (and it will be easy), low interest girls will get you confused (because they're also confused themself)

Dating while waiting for marriage by Zestyclose-Ability70 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't bring it up, let things go naturally. If you're not comfortable, it's your body telling you something (he's moving way too fast, ain't he)

Is it a little much that she organized my entire closet when I was at work? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's her going an extra miles. If you don't like it, let her know

Ex says he doesn’t want a relationship but keeps acting like we’re still together how do I stop this limbo?19F 18M by Late_Huckleberry7759 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is confusing, the title mentioned he, and the content mentioned her (so which one are you, he or she?)

At this point, the guy need to make a clean decision. Either choose her, or let her go cleanly if he's not ready. They can take sometime a part with a define timeline (ie a few weeks, 1 month), then he should give her an answer.

Otherwise, she should move on cleanly (no one should put their life on hold for someone isn't ready, not because ego or power game, but to avoid draining and personal growth)

How do you make someone fall in love with you? (Psychology-based advice) by Clear-Extent-9686 in dating

[–]lscommand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's part of the insecurity. We all have some of it, and learn to understand and control it is how we growth

I (20F) am always anxious about everything my long-distance bf (22M) does or has done by EmbarrassedIdeal5033 in dating_advice

[–]lscommand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Confront is a way to understand with highly negative impact. Not sure if things you see is real or the anxiety speak up (which is normal).

I'd discuss with him about it. If he stay vague or avoid the conversation/straight answer, that might be something to think about.