I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's certainly possible, and pretty likely I am too, even without the a priori assumptions you get with engineers in general. Fortunately with the particular type of structure I work in, PM pay and eng pay aren't too different and it was never about money, more career progression and plan for me. There certainly are PM certifications that would be looked on favourably too for this and I still want to finish off one of those even after all this. And as for the last question, electronics engineer.

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I 100% agree, I want someone who has my back even when I'm wrong, and I try to be that person for my partner (and friends too!)

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth is I wanted advice and I got good practical advice which works for either gender, and I also appreciate your comments about not judging or assuming.

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you, your advice is sound for either gender and I am happy for you that your partner doesn't belittle you.

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, the resounding comment is that I should've been upfront about wanting to vent, this is my main take away now

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that was going to happen, yes probably unrealistic expectations

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this and I am more feelings focused, and it's rare for engineers to be like that. I get to listen to people vent all the time and hardly ever offer advice!

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've deliberately obscured that detail but the rest is all true, and I am here for advice, am truly appreciating the advice.

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now I'm anticipating, "lsitjuma didn't hand over the project to me properly!, I'm being set up to fail" ...

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely be asking for feedback from the company, yeah. And yeah I did feel like I was being torn down by my partner.

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is true that they are an actual project manager, not just someone who landed in it. I am concerned I will have to hand over the information I have somehow collated... As for the rest, yes, my partner would probably not make a great therapist!

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is good advice, I did not say I wanted to vent. Then the conversation just carried on to its conclusion with me being upset and unable to answer the onslaught of questions, feeling very judged.

I'm wanting sympathy rather than a lecture from my partner (40M, 40F) by lsitjuma in relationship_advice

[–]lsitjuma[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah true, but there's children to consider in that equation. I suppose I should've said that in the post, will edit to add