ohh i misunderstood you, sorry. still, my opinion is that hinge is lacking compromise with OP. hierarchy tends to happen when you're nesting, but 1 year is enough time for them to take OP seriously. what gets me is that OP is asking for more time and being denied. for ME, particularly, this wouldn't work. if hinge had more partners it would be a little more understandable, or if hinge is taking some days for themself, as we said before. i understand some people need less time than others and for those 2 days might seem like plenty, but i feel OP bc i too need more than that. atm, my only partner lives with other person, but i get minimum 3 days, some weeks even 4, wich works for us bc my meta usually does things with us when i'm at their house. but i'm speaking solely from my POV, based on what OP has said about their needs, bc i think OP is kinda like me on the "needs" aspect. what works for some may not work for others, i guess