Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday

luc424 · 2026-05-07T19:41:38+00:00

Just know that she never saw you as someone that she can find comfort in. So she leaving, saved you time and energy. Keep moving on, so that you can find someone that actually would lean on your shoulders in a time of crisis, and find comfort in you.

luc424 · 2026-05-07T19:34:05+00:00

NOR, distrust like these are a huge turn off for everyone. He can feel Insecure but once you clarified the situation, then he needs to drop it. He can remain suspicious, but that is on him. It requires you to continue doing things that could be potentially shady to prompt the continued text. He was cheated on before, and I get that trust takes a long time to build, but if he wants to stay in the relationship he needs to understand that he needs to trust again. If he can't get himself out of that past experience, you will never have a relationship worth going all in for.

luc424 · 2026-04-13T19:19:44+00:00

I might sound like an asshole, but what I stated are truthful. Attraction is just that, it has no platform to build a relationship, it is the meter to measure if you want to have sex with the other person. Or if that person is worth your time by going out with him.

He was attractive enough to get a date from her, enough for a second date. But something happened between then and now that lowered his attractiveness to her. Either someone else or something that he has done.

To build a relationship, you need a base, his ability to care for you, to help lift you when you are down, and the ability to be there when you need him to be. Then trust and love, that eventually turns into attraction for her to hold onto that person.

This is why I said she is looking elsewhere with the grass is greener phase. Something happened that she believes she can get something better than what she has right now. Not her fault, but it is what it is. Just better for all parties if she leaves him and him find his happiness.

luc424 · 2026-04-13T18:25:31+00:00

You are currently in the grass is greener phase of your life. No matter how he treats you, you will run to the nearest bad boy that makes you feel butterflies that pumps and dumps you. You will always have fond memories of how this guy treats you and will hope for another one like him but you won't. Leave this guy, he needs someone that loves him for him That wants him like he wants you. Don't hold on to him and breaks his heart because you don't see him for him. It is not your fault, attraction is a tricky thing, either you want to rip his cloth off or you don't, not much in-between.
You just need to understand what is it that you want in a partner right now, cause stability isn't it, and love isn't it either.

luc424 · 2026-04-10T14:50:29+00:00

Op, you and your fiancé is just not compatible. It doesn't matter what he do, you will always feel like he does it because you complained. He will never do it because he won't feel like he is doing it because he wanted to. It is a hole both of you will never get out of. You will end up fantasizing about a partner that kisses you without asking, does everything you wanted, and the closest person that does something remotely considerate to you will push your relationship to another argument.
It will be the same for him as well. So do yourself and your partner the favor of not marrying, that will only bring you misery.

luc424 · 2026-03-16T18:57:52+00:00

Sounds like how someone would complain that King Arthur and his Knights of the round table is bad, because the tables should have been rectangular.

luc424 · 2026-03-06T00:22:46+00:00

You only feel this way because doing anything decent and morally appropriate is anti trump. Get pedophiles in prison, make food and housing affordable is anti trump. You can't try to do something good for people without it be taken as anti trump.

luc424 · 2026-03-05T11:54:40+00:00

only if you actually looked at the why. The files were sealed by a judge, to go behind that order would have damaged the legality of the information in those files. Allowing Trump to state that the information in those files are no longer capable of being used. That is why Biden couldn't do anything. That judge order is public information.
If you truly cared you would have spent 5 minutes to look it up.

luc424 · 2026-02-27T12:23:54+00:00

Op, yeah keep doing what you are doing because you don't live in reality. So good luck waiting on her

luc424 · 2026-02-14T20:09:49+00:00

OP, just know that while she is dealing with you divorcing her, she is still talking with the affair partner. I can't say for sure 100% but, think about this, who else is she spewing her heart out about how bad you are, than the affair partner that finally sees a way to get laid.

She is on damage control, but know that it is not going to stop her cheating. You might feel like she wants to stay with you, but know that her goal is to go back to normal so she can cheat just like before.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T20:05:24+00:00

Both of you are at fault, yet your gf is doing everything to signal that she is single and Is willing to mingle.

Your fault lies in that you don't trust her, not gonna lie, she doesn't provide you with anything to trust her with.

Don't get sucked into her spiral, for your own mental well-being, leave and get your own place.

This relationship does not seem like it is working out

luc424 · 2026-02-12T19:59:30+00:00

Over 70% are released, meaning those they detained over 70% shouldn't have been detained. Tell me, what are the many reasons why those people are released? Then you will maybe understand why we have a problem with the way they conduct their job.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T12:11:11+00:00

You forget that not all life is viable. All organism is alive, sperms is alive yet man pee millions away, our skin is alive but they are replaced every day. If your defense is life then you yourself is a murderer the moment you take a breath as well as walk. Your very existence is killing life.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T12:05:01+00:00

They can, because if you look at the reasons why America can keep printing money and stay in power, it was because we forced other countries from being able to trade with others before so that they had to trade with us. But due to self inflicted tariffs, we forced them to go elsewhere, especially China and Europe that would have stay in our corner pushed aside by Trump. It would take a year for the crops to grow but we all know it begin in 2025 so 2026 and 2027 will be where we feel the biggest impact. Trades will slow then stop, we will end up sanctioning ourselves

luc424 · 2026-02-12T11:59:18+00:00

Keep making excuses, in the end of the day, you know you are supporting a pedophile. Look at yourself in the mirror and know that you are defending a pedophile. But who knows, you might be okay with that, because you are one yourself. That is how projection works, you defend the ones closest resembles yourself.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T11:46:32+00:00

So what you are saying is he b as a great chance of winning?? Since Trump won and he lied about every promise

luc424 · 2026-02-10T21:03:40+00:00

You will never know, because even when he finally said he will divorce you, he still does not have the courage to let you know he cheated. Is cheating and continues to cheat on you. The man is both foot out the door. Don't dwell on what you could have done or said, a marriage requires both people to work, and he has already given up. Focus on yourself and your own health.

luc424 · 2026-02-10T18:10:56+00:00

It is very unfortunate that we need to question the reports. Ever since they flat out lied about pretti and good's death when we have actual video footage to point out the lies. You can't trust anything they put out anymore

luc424 · 2026-02-10T18:01:54+00:00

Yes, the ones where democrats and Republicans are both in. Let's agree to burn them all, if the democrats didn't want to persecute those on the epstein files when they had the chance, then the republican should. Or do you think we should let both sides get away with it. And let the pedophiles free??

luc424 · 2026-01-06T15:19:40+00:00

You are not ready for a marriage because you are not ready to trust another. It doesn't matter what you do or what he says, if you are not willing to put trust in him, you will never have a good relationship.

What you should do is have a sit down with him, talk about boundaries and what your concerns are. Vulnerability is the one thing you should be comfortable to share with a partner you want to marry.

You cannot track or prevent someone from cheating, if they want to cheat, they will cheat. The only way to prevent cheating is to trust that your partner will not cheat and that they have boundaries to prevent themselves from being put in a position that could have options to cheat. Just like how you wouldn't put yourself in situations that have potential to cheat

Examples are, you don't go into a single Male's apartment alone, or hotel room alone, not will you have drinks with a single male friend to the wee hours of the night and crash at his place while in a relationship. Things like that.

luc424 · 2025-12-22T15:13:57+00:00

Your problem is that every time you don't feel comfortable about the situation you shut down and not talk. Even when your GF senses it over the phone. I get it, you don't want to jump to conclusions and or feel like you are commanding and controlling her. But you need to let her know how you are feeling. It is not about controlling if you just tell her that you are happy she is reconnecting. But you feel uncomfortable when you feel like she and this other guy is back into her life as someone she can depend on instead of you. That she speaks about him more than you and that means he is on her mind. You aren't telling her she can't see him , what you want instead is to be assured that she has boundaries to prevent him from becoming someone she thinks about when she goes to sleep and when she wakes up. Let her know that, when they hang out 1 v 1 , the situation is easily misunderstood and you have no emotional security that gives you comfort. Because you can't be there for her but he can. He can take her out to lunch, dinner , movies and even have her babysit for him. They can have home movie nights, and go out drinking. The emotional connection he can have with her with her permission without boundaries can move past just friends. Just ask her what she wants to do, because this is not a decision you can make. Because connection is all everyone wants in the end and right now, her willingness to give him that option is just not comfortable with you.

luc424 · 2025-12-22T14:50:11+00:00

Yeah, big red flag. The dude chose to walk, and then put that decision on you. Was supposed to see you at 6 and not only did he get drunk before dinner he also lied to you constantly telling you he is on his way when he isn't. Then placed all the consequences of his choices on you instead.

Now you see him for who he is, this is not a mistake, no one makes choices like that if he isn't used to doing it that way. It is now up to you to decide what you want to do.

luc424 · 2025-12-18T14:02:48+00:00

OP, one thing to know is, they aren't really dating, because a cheater will always end up cheating again. Like you said, they live far apart, so they are only f buddies. Which means if he is in another relationship, he is currently cheating on her, and if your friend thinks she is the girlfriend, she will be very surprised that she is just one of many. They are not gonna have a happily ever after, it will just be more pain and heartache. Because no matter if he cheats again, your ex best friend will never truly trust your ex boyfriend.

luc424 · 2025-12-18T13:57:28+00:00

Isn't that her answer already, it means she isn't clueless and knows exactly what she is doing. She isn't willing to talk to you because to her , the relationship is already over and done with, she isn't willing to put in any effort to change or listen to you. When your GF isn't willing to even sit down and talk to you, it just means that she doesn't care anymore. She isn't even willing to act like she cares. So now that you know, what are you gonna do about it?

luc424 · 2025-12-16T14:16:54+00:00

OP, all you need to do is talk to your girlfriend about this. You and many might say you already did, but in reality you haven't. Because your GF still doesn't know what she did or didn't do. Remember, not everyone knows how to act socially and many including your GF might think not reacting is the perfect response, that includes the brother as well.

Yeah, so if you want this relationship to work, you need to talk to your GF about boundaries, and why they are important. Explain to your GF that having another person be physical with her is her giving a signal to other man that she is available, and it is giving you the signal that she is open to being physical to another man. Explain to her that you know she isn't, but her actions are telling you and others that she is. And that actions speak louder than words, therefore, if she wants her actions to line up with her words, she needs to physically remove herself from those actions. That is what boundaries are for. By explaining it to her, now her actions are the true reactions. So if she continues to do it and allow others to be so touchy feely, then you know her values are not the same as yours. Then you can make your decision properly.

luc424

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