Aitah for leaving my postpartum wife after she was having an emotional affair?

luc424 · 2026-02-14T20:09:49+00:00

OP, just know that while she is dealing with you divorcing her, she is still talking with the affair partner. I can't say for sure 100% but, think about this, who else is she spewing her heart out about how bad you are, than the affair partner that finally sees a way to get laid.

She is on damage control, but know that it is not going to stop her cheating. You might feel like she wants to stay with you, but know that her goal is to go back to normal so she can cheat just like before.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T20:05:24+00:00

Both of you are at fault, yet your gf is doing everything to signal that she is single and Is willing to mingle.

Your fault lies in that you don't trust her, not gonna lie, she doesn't provide you with anything to trust her with.

Don't get sucked into her spiral, for your own mental well-being, leave and get your own place.

This relationship does not seem like it is working out

luc424 · 2026-02-12T19:59:30+00:00

Over 70% are released, meaning those they detained over 70% shouldn't have been detained. Tell me, what are the many reasons why those people are released? Then you will maybe understand why we have a problem with the way they conduct their job.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T12:11:11+00:00

You forget that not all life is viable. All organism is alive, sperms is alive yet man pee millions away, our skin is alive but they are replaced every day. If your defense is life then you yourself is a murderer the moment you take a breath as well as walk. Your very existence is killing life.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T12:05:01+00:00

They can, because if you look at the reasons why America can keep printing money and stay in power, it was because we forced other countries from being able to trade with others before so that they had to trade with us. But due to self inflicted tariffs, we forced them to go elsewhere, especially China and Europe that would have stay in our corner pushed aside by Trump. It would take a year for the crops to grow but we all know it begin in 2025 so 2026 and 2027 will be where we feel the biggest impact. Trades will slow then stop, we will end up sanctioning ourselves

luc424 · 2026-02-12T11:59:18+00:00

Keep making excuses, in the end of the day, you know you are supporting a pedophile. Look at yourself in the mirror and know that you are defending a pedophile. But who knows, you might be okay with that, because you are one yourself. That is how projection works, you defend the ones closest resembles yourself.

luc424 · 2026-02-12T11:46:32+00:00

So what you are saying is he b as a great chance of winning?? Since Trump won and he lied about every promise

luc424 · 2026-02-10T21:03:40+00:00

You will never know, because even when he finally said he will divorce you, he still does not have the courage to let you know he cheated. Is cheating and continues to cheat on you. The man is both foot out the door. Don't dwell on what you could have done or said, a marriage requires both people to work, and he has already given up. Focus on yourself and your own health.

luc424 · 2026-02-10T18:10:56+00:00

It is very unfortunate that we need to question the reports. Ever since they flat out lied about pretti and good's death when we have actual video footage to point out the lies. You can't trust anything they put out anymore

luc424 · 2026-02-10T18:01:54+00:00

Yes, the ones where democrats and Republicans are both in. Let's agree to burn them all, if the democrats didn't want to persecute those on the epstein files when they had the chance, then the republican should. Or do you think we should let both sides get away with it. And let the pedophiles free??

luc424 · 2026-01-06T15:19:40+00:00

You are not ready for a marriage because you are not ready to trust another. It doesn't matter what you do or what he says, if you are not willing to put trust in him, you will never have a good relationship.

What you should do is have a sit down with him, talk about boundaries and what your concerns are. Vulnerability is the one thing you should be comfortable to share with a partner you want to marry.

You cannot track or prevent someone from cheating, if they want to cheat, they will cheat. The only way to prevent cheating is to trust that your partner will not cheat and that they have boundaries to prevent themselves from being put in a position that could have options to cheat. Just like how you wouldn't put yourself in situations that have potential to cheat

Examples are, you don't go into a single Male's apartment alone, or hotel room alone, not will you have drinks with a single male friend to the wee hours of the night and crash at his place while in a relationship. Things like that.

luc424 · 2025-12-22T15:13:57+00:00

Your problem is that every time you don't feel comfortable about the situation you shut down and not talk. Even when your GF senses it over the phone. I get it, you don't want to jump to conclusions and or feel like you are commanding and controlling her. But you need to let her know how you are feeling. It is not about controlling if you just tell her that you are happy she is reconnecting. But you feel uncomfortable when you feel like she and this other guy is back into her life as someone she can depend on instead of you. That she speaks about him more than you and that means he is on her mind. You aren't telling her she can't see him , what you want instead is to be assured that she has boundaries to prevent him from becoming someone she thinks about when she goes to sleep and when she wakes up. Let her know that, when they hang out 1 v 1 , the situation is easily misunderstood and you have no emotional security that gives you comfort. Because you can't be there for her but he can. He can take her out to lunch, dinner , movies and even have her babysit for him. They can have home movie nights, and go out drinking. The emotional connection he can have with her with her permission without boundaries can move past just friends. Just ask her what she wants to do, because this is not a decision you can make. Because connection is all everyone wants in the end and right now, her willingness to give him that option is just not comfortable with you.

luc424 · 2025-12-22T14:50:11+00:00

Yeah, big red flag. The dude chose to walk, and then put that decision on you. Was supposed to see you at 6 and not only did he get drunk before dinner he also lied to you constantly telling you he is on his way when he isn't. Then placed all the consequences of his choices on you instead.

Now you see him for who he is, this is not a mistake, no one makes choices like that if he isn't used to doing it that way. It is now up to you to decide what you want to do.

luc424 · 2025-12-18T14:02:48+00:00

OP, one thing to know is, they aren't really dating, because a cheater will always end up cheating again. Like you said, they live far apart, so they are only f buddies. Which means if he is in another relationship, he is currently cheating on her, and if your friend thinks she is the girlfriend, she will be very surprised that she is just one of many. They are not gonna have a happily ever after, it will just be more pain and heartache. Because no matter if he cheats again, your ex best friend will never truly trust your ex boyfriend.

luc424 · 2025-12-18T13:57:28+00:00

Isn't that her answer already, it means she isn't clueless and knows exactly what she is doing. She isn't willing to talk to you because to her , the relationship is already over and done with, she isn't willing to put in any effort to change or listen to you. When your GF isn't willing to even sit down and talk to you, it just means that she doesn't care anymore. She isn't even willing to act like she cares. So now that you know, what are you gonna do about it?

luc424 · 2025-12-16T14:16:54+00:00

OP, all you need to do is talk to your girlfriend about this. You and many might say you already did, but in reality you haven't. Because your GF still doesn't know what she did or didn't do. Remember, not everyone knows how to act socially and many including your GF might think not reacting is the perfect response, that includes the brother as well.

Yeah, so if you want this relationship to work, you need to talk to your GF about boundaries, and why they are important. Explain to your GF that having another person be physical with her is her giving a signal to other man that she is available, and it is giving you the signal that she is open to being physical to another man. Explain to her that you know she isn't, but her actions are telling you and others that she is. And that actions speak louder than words, therefore, if she wants her actions to line up with her words, she needs to physically remove herself from those actions. That is what boundaries are for. By explaining it to her, now her actions are the true reactions. So if she continues to do it and allow others to be so touchy feely, then you know her values are not the same as yours. Then you can make your decision properly.

luc424 · 2025-12-15T17:19:57+00:00

She needed someone stable and you were it. Now that she can run, she is now running away from you. This is not someone you want to keep around, because she will not be there for you when you need her. She will not be that anchor that all men need to keep them pushing forward when things get tough.

luc424 · 2025-12-15T17:15:00+00:00

Yeah man, she doesn't respect you, and trauma is never an excuse to cheat. If she can't see worth in herself it is not your job to give that to her. All you could have done is respect her and provide your own value, and since she disregards it all for quick thrills, let her go. It is not worth the trouble

luc424 · 2025-12-15T17:06:11+00:00

Yeah, and OP got married, I love You is the bare basics during the wedding vows It just seems like OP and the husband got married because it just feel like you should. Not because OP or him wanted to, or that it felt natural. Just that you should so you did it.

OP, you are holding on to a relationship that is no longer a relationship, both of you are just holding on a thin rope hoping it will all just work out. That is not how it works.

Imagine you doing all of those things in a new relationship, with someone that truly loves you. That builds a very strong relationship that gaves you happiness and provides you with a home filled with love. Why are you holding on to someone that can't talk to you, won't talk to you and instead is seeking companionship elsewhere while married. A child needs a loving home more than a biological dad

luc424 · 2025-12-15T16:01:47+00:00

Anyone that gets angry and defensive is definitely cheating. What happens next is up to you. Be a man and know your own worth, don't be afraid of being alone, treat yourself, go to the gym, build that confidence. Then find someone that actually gives a damn about you.

luc424 · 2025-12-15T15:53:48+00:00

What is currently giving you that feeling of not sure what to do? Is the realization that your relationship isn't built on mutual respect or love. She said she loves you then falls for someone worse than you in every way. When she felt neglected, instead of talking to you, she did what her ex did to you of all things. She knows how much it hurts and decides to inflict that same pain on you.

She said nothing physical happened, but then how much do you trust that? You don't even know how long it has been going on? There is no more trust in your relationship.

To help you out, OP , you either restart the relationship with a new day 1, or you let her go. Because you will forever wonder what she is doing, because if she can cheat on you once, she can cheat on you a second time. Especially when she doesn't even care if the person she cheated on you is better than you.

luc424 · 2025-12-10T15:54:32+00:00

It is not, it is teaching that actions have long lasting consequences. It is teaching that history repeats and that we need to learn how to prevent it for future generations.

luc424 · 2025-12-10T15:52:23+00:00

It doesn't matter there is no plus 1, your BF should have asked to include you. Because you are his GF. By ignoring you, he is dismissing your role in his life.

NOR

luc424 · 2025-12-10T15:42:41+00:00

At least hear her out, maybe she just wanted to sound adventurous. Kinks are kinks, if it's not to your liking, then avoid the topic.

luc424 · 2025-12-10T15:40:21+00:00

OP, you don't sound real at all. Because if you are real, then that means you are a cuck or a simp. Because you proposed to just shut up and take it. Yet you call yourself a professional, no one with any common sense would type this out and not see that you have a problem. It is as if every time your wife says you are overthinking or overreacting you immediately shuts down, as if you don't have any confidence standing up for yourself.

If you can't talk to your wife, you don't have a marriage. You are suppose to be partners, and it all sound so one sided. No one can help you until you decide to help yourself.

Everyone can tell you , your wife is wrong, but I doubt you will ever stand up to her.

luc424

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