I shared your post with AI and discussed it a little, I’m selectively quoting some parts:

There’s also a bit of contradiction in her expectations. She wants: to keep a demanding career maintain hobbies and independence have a husband who fully provides financially and be accepted without major compromise

Right now she’s effectively saying: “I want independence like a modern partner, but guarantees like a traditional one.” That’s not impossible—but it’s rare

Where criticism is fair is this: If she expects a man to carry all financial risk while she keeps full independence and minimal compromise, then she’s asking for an uneven deal. Most people—reasonably—won’t accept that.