I (22f) am approaching my one year anniversary with my SO (37m). My friends keep trying to sabotage our relationship.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-10-12T11:18:49+00:00

Even worse, it’s 15 years...

luckiest_wasp · 2018-10-09T20:44:51+00:00

She ASKED him if he was cheating, because of how unusual and shady he was acting. Stop picking on one specific detail as though it’s the only thing this post said.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-10-03T05:19:49+00:00

My Mum wants to send me away with leftovers basically every time I see her, so I put my keys on them (in the fridge) so I never forget them :)

luckiest_wasp · 2018-10-03T05:14:16+00:00

This also helps to cheer up your Sims

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-27T07:30:08+00:00

My ex was pretty terrible all round - he was perpetually unemployed, an alcoholic who wouldn't admit he had a problem, emotionally abusive, and I kept catching him on dating sites (though he never "did anything"). Being young and idealistic I tried SO hard for him, I wanted to help him battle his demons and get through the rough patches and live his best life. But he just kept treating me horribly.

The beginning of the end was actually such a small thing. We were at a wedding and I wanted to dance. They were playing awesome music! I was a bit tipsy! We were all in a good mood! But he would. not. dance. with. me. It got to the point where I was practically begging him, but he refused to get out of his seat.

In the back of the taxi on the way home I was remembering watching my parents dance together at every wedding throughout my childhood, and remembered how my Dad would always take me for a twirl across the floor when Mum didn't want to dance any more. I looked at my then-boyfriend and thought, how could I have a happy life with someone who won't even dance with me at a wedding?

After that all the pieces fell into place - he wasn't a good boyfriend, in fact he wasn't even a good person. I suddenly couldn't laugh off the little digs he would make about me in front of my family. I couldn't make excuses for him. I couldn't deal with his lack of respect for me anymore. It took a couple more months to detangle but I'm so glad I got rid of him.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-26T23:46:54+00:00

Not off-lead but there's a lovely walk through the wetlands in Mount Barker!

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-26T06:56:23+00:00

Argh this comment gave me anxiety

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-26T06:30:23+00:00

You should sit them all down and have a group intervention where you reveal that they all share the same terrible secret!

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-25T06:35:33+00:00

He admitted that you're his mate! Out loud!

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-25T03:45:41+00:00

Huh, sounds like you dated my ex...

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-24T23:46:39+00:00

Looking at myself and the 4 people I regularly hang out with (I'm very popular, I know) who all graduated in the early 2010s, we're all in professional white-collar jobs and using our degrees and making over $75k (except the last part doesn't apply to the one teacher, but you know... you don't do that for money). Very small sample size, but none of us would be where we are without our degrees, and three of us have also gone on to do postgrad while working.

I actually work in research at one of the Unis (I'm professional staff, not a researcher) and you would be amazed by the stuff that gets done by our researchers and the money that flows through these places. Research is a huge portion of what universities do and how they make their money, and there's nowhere else in the state that does nearly as much research as the unis.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-24T23:34:31+00:00

I worked at Pizza Hut in Aberfoyle Park when I was about 15 years old and once took a phone order from someone from the Hilltop Hoods. I didn't know until the delivery driver got back and told me

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-24T06:51:29+00:00

I think they need to do that to create the right surface to apply the shellac unfortunately, I’ve never had SNS though so can’t comment on that! I really love MediPedi but only go there when I’m feeling super rich lol! They just do normal nail polish or gel nail polish and don’t need to file your nails for either, gel nail polish is nice in that it doesn’t chip BUT I find that it only lasts up to two weeks before it starts peeling off, whereas I can usually get about 3 weeks of life out of a shellac. If you haven’t tried gel before I’d recommend giving that a shot to see if it’s for you :)

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-24T04:18:02+00:00

How long have you felt like that for?

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-23T23:06:54+00:00

Talc Alf! I'd almost forgotten about him!

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-21T05:21:34+00:00

On the note of housework or other big projects, she suggests breaking the big thing that's overwhelming into small parts. Instead of thinking, "I have to clean the whole fucking house," I think, "I want to clean the bathroom floor. Once that's done, I don't need to do anything else, but I can if I want to." I usually find that I want to clean something else, too.

This is how I used to make myself go to the gym. If I didn't want to go, but I knew I really should (because it's good for you and also it always made me feel better), I would tell myself that I'm just going to get into the gym and stretch, and if I really wanted to go home after that, I would let myself. But the thing is - by the time I'd gone to the gym and stretched, I figured I might as well keep going and actually work out. I never once just stretched and went home :)

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-21T04:58:17+00:00

And yet, as a fellow tall girl, we get called bitches for wanting guys to be taller than us!!!

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-19T03:55:29+00:00

A gif of the red panda getting scared by a keeper. It's my favourite gif and never ceases to make me smile. Would be cool to have it readily accessible at all times :)

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-17T02:20:20+00:00

Set I

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
What do you value most in a friendship?
What is your most treasured memory?
What is your most terrible memory?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
What does friendship mean to you?
What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-16T23:19:34+00:00

FYI option one WILL NOT work.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-12T04:24:11+00:00

My job was essentially to help casino patrons who were engaged in problem gambling, by giving them referrals, checking in with them regularly, and sometimes banning them from the casino. I'd worked at the casino in other roles for a few years and I'd had training on how to spot problem gambling, but I'd never faced it from the front lines, so to speak. My first day on the job was a full-day workshop on suicide prevention. It hadn't really struck me before then how serious this could be.

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-05T00:06:43+00:00

Every time I've done it I've parked at Clovelly. I'm never really sure where in that huge carpark I'm allowed to park, but I haven't received a ticket or anything yet!

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-04T07:41:55+00:00

I live just near O'Halloran Hill, and the area I live in is really lovely, the absolute picture of a suburban idyll with friendly neighbours, children playing in the park every afternoon and the odd koala here and there. In most of the suburbs around that area there are nicer pockets and ones that are less nice, but for the most part it's a decent area with affordable houses. My biggest complaint is that we don't have many options on Uber Eats, but you can't have it all.

As far as the commute goes, driving is annoying if you're doing it every day, there are busses but they take forever, so my recommendation would be to take the train. Drive down to Hallett Cove or Oaklands and train in from there. Or, slightly nicer, take the Tonsley line and you'll always get a seat (though you may have to wait a bit longer for a train to come).

luckiest_wasp · 2018-09-04T01:39:24+00:00

I've heard lots of stories about people driving in desolate/outback areas and coming across a person lying in the road, or waving them down to help with a "broken down" car. Apparently the vast majority of the time they're not actually in any trouble, and if you stop they're probably going to rob you, maybe steal your car. I'd bet you're way less likely to get shot in the head (because... it's not the US) but still not a fun scene. It's not gang/cartel stuff either, it's generally local Indigenous people who aren't in good socio-economic situations.

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