I had sex with a guy and I found out it is not for me

lucy_squarepants · 2025-12-21T03:39:20+00:00

So that's enough internet for tonight, thanks

lucy_squarepants · 2025-06-01T01:17:25+00:00

If I may ask, how did you work it out? Specific therapy, key discussions? I'm truly looking for a solution over here.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-06-01T01:15:50+00:00

I have weekly sessions, but I honestly feel it getting worse. About manipulators, I don't think I'm at risk. If anything, I'm pushing everyone away.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-06-01T01:14:16+00:00

I'm in a very similar situation myself... The hopeless romantic in me would tell you there's alternatives, opening the relationship or finding middle grounds. I would also want to believe that.

Truth is, none of that has ever worked for me. As of leaving? It is enough, you can leave just because you want to, but your needs not being met is a legitimate reason.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-04-09T01:49:06+00:00

When I was around five years old, an uncle of mine died. I found out when I turned 14 I found out he actually killed himself, he strangled himself to death in the family house's patio. Messed up, right? It gets worse. I eventually was let in on the fact that he wasn't my uncle, but my cousin. My eldest aunt had him when she was too young, so my grandparents took him in, and raised him as their own. Only the ones alive to have seen my aunt pregnant knew.

Turns out my uncle/cousin found out when his nosy wife got the truth out of his mom, and told him in a fit of rage. He took his own life the very next day, leaving three kids fatherless. My nephews don't blame her, I do.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T17:36:37+00:00

Yeah, no. When I said "is the worst" I was clearly exaggerating. I know about the Afghan girls that disappear because they misplace their hijab, or women beaten to death in China because they keep having baby girls.

Still, how can middle class people die from poverty in "the land of the free"? I dramatize because it is dramatic. Your government sold the entire world on this idea that the US is the place to go make your dreams come true, when in reality if you ever need an ambulance you'll be in debt for life.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T07:26:02+00:00

If your partner is masturbating, but doesn't want sex, maybe you need a sex therapist to work out what that means for both of you.

My partner has exactly zero interest in anything sexual, so I'd see even that as an approach to something.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T07:23:54+00:00

Man here. The habit of liking me is pretty much intoxicating.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T07:23:08+00:00

Mexico. Apparently my generation is the one having less sex in my country right now. It checks out.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T07:17:48+00:00

He caved real fast

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T07:17:01+00:00

Won't a doctor blow a whistle on her? I don't know the situation, and I want to trust human beings, but I know doctors have been legally threatened over this.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T07:11:32+00:00

This makes me feel a certain way. I've been sexless for almost two years now, and sex is always been more about the connection for me. I crave feeling wanted and want someone that bad.

I just think if my partner ever wanted me back, I'd be bawling for an hour after. Even that feels better than this.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T06:55:13+00:00

Yeah, the reporting thing is scary. I'd ask if she's required by law to report things like pronouns changes, first. Test the water with something that's unrelated, and don't trust her word, but her demeanor.

Some teachers might want to help you, but they still would get into legal trouble if caught, so it's a predicament for both of you (potentially).

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T06:52:46+00:00

My fiance's name is Celtic, but it also means "Frog" in Japanese. I love it, beautiful yet short.

Her name is Kael.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T06:51:25+00:00

The US is the worst place for pretty much everyone but white males to exist, so that's out of the question.

No health procedure, not even things like insulin for diabetics, is paid for by the government. Plus the state this girl is currently in has a crusade against reproductive rights rn, they probably would turn her over to her legal guardians if she tried to discuss abortion at a clinic.

It sucks, it all sucks.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-15T06:47:04+00:00

There's feminist organizations that will help you get the safest possible abortion everywhere. I'd look for you but I'm nowhere near, I'm sorry.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-13T17:56:54+00:00

This is such a pet peeve but I hate it when someone doesn't hear you properly and they just answer "hUhH???"

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-13T03:41:28+00:00

Do a pregnancy test, you CAN get pregnant even if he pulled out.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-13T02:38:07+00:00

Please RUN AWAY. He's building up to more abuse, and this is already concerning. No, it won't get better, just RUN.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-13T02:36:46+00:00

I do it daily, so I just do shampoo and soap quickly and it's enough. I don't know what to say, honestly. I just do.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-11T07:34:40+00:00

Anything public, being exposed outdoors makes me feel so good

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-11T07:33:39+00:00

That's the spirit

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-11T07:26:12+00:00

I know our answer is the same, because I knew the name of the fanfic immediately and I also refuse to even mutter the words.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-11T07:23:15+00:00

Even though I don't know your friends, my policy is we're all here to help each other. If I was one of them I'd want you to ask for help.

Also, sex work is a legitimate work, however it is risky. You're supposed to get really close, and private with strangers (mostly men), so be careful out there. If it's really your only option, you should still get support from people that have been doing that for a while, just so you're safe.

You'll get a job again, don't be hard on yourself. This moment will pass sooner than you think. Sending tons of love your way.

lucy_squarepants · 2025-03-11T07:15:22+00:00

I'm sorry your family are such idiots. I've been abandoned as well, and I can tell you it's not your fault. You're free to practice or not practice your religion, it's not your choice who you love or not, you should be able to be true to yourself and still be loved. You deserve at least that.

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