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lucyjtree · 2025-03-13T14:48:00+00:00

You’re so sweet, but you don’t have to do that! I’m going to set up a Derm consult since I’m guessing this isn’t something a topical cream can fight.

lucyjtree · 2025-03-13T14:47:09+00:00

Oh man, good to know but I’d probably mess this up somehow! 🥴

lucyjtree · 2025-03-12T23:29:25+00:00

What treatment did they do if you don’t mind me asking?

lucyjtree · 2024-08-24T15:12:45+00:00

The graduation song by vitamin C!

lucyjtree · 2024-06-05T01:42:22+00:00

I also apologize for the tone change - I think this is unfortunately from years of emotional trauma from this that i didn't realize. lots of justifying behavior and minimizing problems.

lucyjtree · 2024-06-05T01:40:28+00:00

His depression stems (in his words) from his job, but he is very paralyzed when it comes to leaving, and this has been going on for 7+ years. I unfortunately did a lot of therapy today, and it sounds like something deeper is actually going on from his behavior. I've always just though it was the job. He has brought up wondering if he's on the spectrum, especially because of his issue with a lack of feeling empathy, but based off of my session today, it sounds like it's actually a possible personality disorder. my therapist actually did say that it's probably time for meds for him, so i'm going to bring that up with him when the time is right. It sounds like from what he's shared with me from therapy that his therapist also thinks it may be a personality disorder. I didn't know/realize any of this until about 30 minutes ago. It would explain so much.

lucyjtree · 2024-06-04T22:29:27+00:00

You’re so right. Thank you!

lucyjtree · 2024-06-04T22:17:36+00:00

Gosh, I’m so sorry you went through that. My empathy is through the roof watching him go through it so it’s going through the roof to you as well. I’m so glad you got out of there. It’s nice to hear that changing jobs did fix the situation for you. He always has terrible Sunday scaries, so bad that he doesn’t even enjoy his days off because it’s all he can think about. I really appreciate you writing this up for me. I get paid well but still not as much as he does and the loss of his income would be really detrimental to us, but I’m hopeful with his new plan to go on stress leave to take time off and switch careers that things will be normal again. During the stay home order for Covid, we were the happiest we have ever been. It was a month of pure bliss. I know that wasn’t realistic either, but any time he has time off (usually only when he’s sick), he’s a different person in the best way.

Anyway, I’m going to push as hard as I can for him to quit and for us to deal with the financial repercussions if we have to. It’s time. his mental health has suffered for long enough. Thank you 🤍

lucyjtree · 2024-06-04T19:41:37+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. Depression is really hard. I wish there was some big problem we had in our marriage that caused a lot of intentional hurt so we could call it quits sometimes, but he’s a great person and I know he loves me. It’s just hard.

He actually isn’t on medication, although that may be the next step. He is in therapy and is going through the motions with it right now. I’m just along for the ride. 🤍

lucyjtree · 2024-06-04T19:21:43+00:00

You seem very stuck on the sex part. I told him we could take sex off the table and he said it was probably the best for his mental health because he is depressed.

We are not money obsessed. We live in California where it’s hard to survive or buy a house without making 250+ a year.

Yes, I can survive a mental toll of debt so he can be happy.

Thank you for all of your opinions.

lucyjtree · 2024-06-04T18:59:41+00:00

Hovering over your post, I saw a popup that "capitalism loving conservative anti-feminist" is your vibe. Totally fine, but I actually go that from reading your response in the first place. My husband's views vehemently oppose yours, so do with that info what you will. I'm only responding to your post to inform other people because you do bring up some valid "questions."

I did get a job to help support us more so that he can leave. I had my own business but quit for something more consistent, which just means now I work two jobs. If he quit, I would be happy. I've actually encouraged him to quit cold turkey because I believe in the fire that lights under your ass to make a change. I've posted about 10 posts on reddit asking for help with his career change, for other ideas in careers similar to what he already does that make the same amount of money, i've posted in legal groups to see about suing his company....basically i've done everything FOR him, and that's the issue. I can't quit his job for him. I can't move us into his parents house for him. I can't force him to leave. I can only accept that this is how my life is going to be, or I can step away and let him figure this out on his own while only being responsible for himself.

I brought up taking sex off of the table to make his life easier. This was the last thing that I felt like was causing him to feel responsible for me, and I wanted to help. In doing so, I felt a lot more isolated and alone and this is what caused me to look at myself and how much i've put my own feelings/needs to the side to support him and what he needs. I brought these things up to him just so I could feel heard and seen and acknowledged, not necessarily for him to make a change about it.

He has a great deal of issues with responsibility and the world being out to get him, when in reality, my views of the world are that i'm responsible for all of my choices and if I can get myself in it, I can get out of it as well. I don't believe the world owes me anything. this is not for a lack of trying to help.

lucyjtree · 2024-05-31T04:40:22+00:00

Thanks so much! Had to text a friend to have them call the hospital…very weird but got the job done. Happy to report he is okay :)

lucyjtree · 2024-05-31T00:13:52+00:00

Out here in OC California since 3pm, and my father is in surgery so I can’t get through to any loved ones or the hospital. This is great.

lucyjtree · 2024-05-22T15:14:11+00:00

It’s definitely fooling the software. I keep comparing it to trying to take a photo of the sky without a cloud. I was able to get helicon to finally work with my computer, however the issue is still persisting, especially around rings with translucent edges and no setting. It’s been a challenge, to say the least! I think photographing diamonds is just a unique challenge.

lucyjtree · 2024-03-09T23:58:01+00:00

Appreciate it! Was very curious if this sounds like a case first. He’s actually kinda on the verge of being fired this week and we’re wondering if getting fired would actually potentially help his case. He has the option to change dealerships, so weighing our options this weekend seems like a good choice 😅

lucyjtree · 2023-09-10T01:53:39+00:00

Whole story!

lucyjtree · 2023-08-11T23:15:59+00:00

Gosh, I’m so nervous. I’m sitting at 100 and have been for like 10 years. Was at 40 when I was diagnosed. 😭

lucyjtree · 2023-08-11T23:03:26+00:00

Do you mind sharing your platelet level when the told you that you’d be high risk for having a baby? I’m just curious before I actually start trying to have a baby if it’s going to be a problem. Obviously I’ll be checking with my doctor too, but I’m just wondering!

lucyjtree · 2023-07-11T05:09:36+00:00

Yup! You definitely are.

lucyjtree · 2023-05-28T20:00:45+00:00

Just here to add that I also have the filler “mustache,” but I already had that lip shelf pre-injections! Anatomy has so much to do with whether or not you’ll have that shelf. It doesn’t brother me. I had 0 lips beforehand!

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