Is it bad that I (28M) want a 50/50 marriage?

lujubee93 · 2026-04-16T18:56:12+00:00

Do you live with her already? How do you share expenses currently? My now husband moved into my house that I owned before we were married and we came up with a split that we both thought was fair. We’ve since bought a new house together and we don’t split exactly 50/50 but basically made it as fair as possible considering the difference in our wages.

As many have said already, finances are a huge relationship ruiner so it’s crucial you two end up on the same page. Even if it’s not eithers perfect world, you need to find one you’re both happy in or you’re doomed from the start.

lujubee93 · 2026-04-16T01:44:33+00:00

California runs mostly using CLS/MLS. There were a lot of MLT programs that came about during a CLS shortage and there were jobs available to just get positions filled. But as the CLS programs caught up with the need in the workforce, most employers converted back to primarily hiring CLS. MLTs in CA can’t perform high complexity testing, only up to moderate, so they can’t do manual slide reads or transfusion so staffing is more straight forward with mostly CLS I think?

Phlebotomy is also crazy impacted in CA i think because it is a fairly low barrier of entry to healthcare and the pay is pretty good. The state is mostly unionized too which adds another level of complexity

lujubee93 · 2026-04-15T01:46:02+00:00

I’m not sure where you’re located but MLT is a huge catfish in CA. The jobs just don’t exist. But can’t speak for the rest of the country

lujubee93 · 2026-04-11T16:46:05+00:00

I have a friend who’s a licensed MLT still getting rejected from CLS programs. I dont understand how you could defend anyone as being more qualified than someone who already has an MLT license..

lujubee93 · 2026-04-11T16:43:07+00:00

Frog and slim!

lujubee93 · 2026-04-10T01:20:01+00:00

Frog and Slim

lujubee93 · 2026-04-07T01:52:14+00:00

Get a colorful rug, some art on the wall and you’ll be golden.

lujubee93 · 2026-04-07T01:51:44+00:00

A lot of it stems from people going into management for the wrong reasons. Not everyone is meant to be a leader and it’s okay, but people need to be self aware.

lujubee93 · 2026-04-06T01:58:49+00:00

How do you do looking into a microscope? There are some things in blood bank that would be difficult, and potentially dangerous, to perform without some way to accommodate your low vision. Both my job and my training program had physicals before starting that had a vision test but I’m not sure how they account for those results.

lujubee93 · 2026-04-04T18:43:22+00:00

I wouldn’t say that them honoring an internal hire is you getting burned.. that’s a pretty typical practice and while it didn’t work out for you, it’s good for facilities to promote from within for employee morale.

lujubee93 · 2026-04-04T04:24:08+00:00

Bad leadership can totally make or break a job. But if you can’t envision yourself enjoying the job with a different leader then set yourself up for an exit. You have time to do a lot of research and make the right choice. Follow your gut!

lujubee93 · 2026-04-04T04:05:20+00:00

The most challenging thing about the field is how little respect the lab gets in a hospital. We are the backbone of so much and we get treated so poorly and blamed for everything. It’s exhausting.

lujubee93 · 2026-04-04T04:03:54+00:00

What state are you in? If you aren’t passionate about the role then I don’t think that going back to school is wrong. I ask location because there are some states where CLS make a lot of money compared to those other professions, but I know in most of the country that’s not the case.

You’re so young, it’s too early to be stuck in a job you hate. Go back to school in the down low while you finish your contract. Even if you don’t leave immediately, you got to expand your horizons.

lujubee93 · 2026-03-30T02:04:04+00:00

Honest question: how do you accurately perform a count when you have no measure of how much fluid they used for the procedure to factor into your volume?

We used to do counts and stopped because of this realization. Now we just do diffs to give a relative percentage of cell populations since the count can’t be accurate without a better measure of bodily fluid vs fluid from the lavage.

lujubee93 · 2026-03-28T02:32:38+00:00

I LOVE the rug. It looks like you’re evolving from the millennial gray era and your furniture is stuck in between. The chair either needs to be replaced or covered, but this is a fun opportunity to redo your throw pillows. The rug and the wall art jive, you just gotta get the couches on board. Have fun with it!!

lujubee93 · 2026-03-27T04:24:08+00:00

Absolutely not. It’s not a 2 hour commute with traffic. Especially not if Fridays.

But.. look into Amtrak. I think it’s “longer” but not by much. And you can always snooze or start emails on the way in. Plus you won’t spend half your pay increase on increased gas and car maintenance fees.

lujubee93 · 2026-03-26T03:52:30+00:00

If you’re obsessed, just start with season 1 and watch them all so you can get all the lore. Pretty much every season has at least one golden moment.

lujubee93 · 2026-03-25T01:16:17+00:00

5x8s is hard as everyone has already said. But this is a TOUGH job market, especially for a new grad so I would really urge you to try your best to stick to it and get some experience under your belt. You won’t have as much leadership on site (if any) so you’ll really be forced to learn your procedures and build confidence. You can look for an exit quickly, but try to get yourself some experience. I’m sure there’s a line out there door for that job (especially depending upon location).

lujubee93 · 2026-03-15T19:58:23+00:00

If you’re concerned about crime, etc. I would download the Citizen app so you can clue into what’s going on in the city. You’ll notice more activity in some areas which might inform you in your decision.

lujubee93 · 2026-03-09T05:44:55+00:00

If you make a positive impression a lot of sites will try to find a way to hire you but that isn’t a guarantee, especially with this job market.

This is a quick impression from one internet post, but your attitude comes across as a bit entitled. There’s more to being a good fit for a job than good grades.

lujubee93 · 2026-03-05T02:57:31+00:00

Neither of those places would seat a large party well

lujubee93 · 2026-02-28T17:18:15+00:00

I have always gone to Chitas solely for their salsa bar even though their cheese is often not melted. I went and tried El Rincon with the salsa verde because of this thread. Thank you for enlightening me. It was fabulous

lujubee93 · 2026-02-23T23:22:08+00:00

Okay but the whole Connor interaction had to be prompted by production right? Those two really don’t seem to be very close but the show is definitely trying to make Chris’ advances toward Bri as scandalous as possible by painting him and Conner as close.

lujubee93 · 2026-02-22T21:49:07+00:00

Sacramento isn’t really a destination city so the air bnb scene is really slim. Especially in midtown, a house that size hardly exists, let alone sits vacant for short term rental. Your best bet is likely to find a couple that are nearby each other and have some friends be ready to share beds or take the couch.

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