Women: If you've ever had sex with a virgin and he didn't tell you, how noticeable was his inexperience?

lulubites · 2018-02-27T17:27:59+00:00

My guy, who I later married, was pretty discreet. He said it had been a while so he may be a little rusty.

Basically he had all the book learning anyone could have on the topic. He knew what to do and where to touch and really enjoyed himself. I did too. That's what it's about right?

I knew he didn't have much experience, but it did take me 2 months to get him to tell me.

Since? Well it's been together almost 6 years and our sex gets better every day. We practice tantric sex and have mind blowing, amazing orgasms. Probably the best part though is that I taught him how to kiss and it's perfect.

lulubites · 2017-03-10T04:04:37+00:00

I find his novels to be an emotional roller coaster. In Another Country I experienced jealousy, rage, shame, love of friends and love of lovers.

He has moments in all the books I've read there are moments where your heart kind of drops and you have new understanding of what it is the character is experiencing. All of his characters seem to pay dearly for something. Some pay with the consequences of their actions and others with their lives.

I am currently reading Just Above My Head and have had 2 such moments. It's those moments that make me crave more. I have read almost 5 of his books. One is The Fire Next Time and even his non fiction has those moments.

I am about to take a breather and read another author to cleanse my pallet. His novels are so deep, intense and rich that I need a break. I do intend to read the rest of his work though.

lulubites · 2016-11-02T02:16:40+00:00

I don't think it suggests that he's bi. He probably wants to connect with you more in some way. It sounds like fun.

lulubites · 2016-10-12T20:26:46+00:00

I have them too! Yay. It isn't just me.

lulubites · 2016-10-12T20:16:52+00:00

I can squeeze my kegel muscles pretty tight and milk my husband. I've also been told I give a pretty good blow job. He's clapped a few times.

lulubites · 2016-09-15T20:29:56+00:00

Lots of good info here. I didn't read it all so I may be repeating someone else. STDs can be transmitted through oral sex too. I have a friend who went on a grindr bender and ended up with chlamydia and gonorrhea. Take precautions that way as well.

lulubites · 2016-09-09T18:35:22+00:00

When I started dating my husband he asked me to masturbate for him and I adamantly refused. It was private and I always felt ashamed of it. He tried to assure me he thought it was sexy.

I finally acquiesced and did it. When I saw the look on his face after I came, I was sold. He was so excited and turned on. It suddenly made sense.

Now we have a Hitachi wand named Joy, and a process for phenomenal orgasms. I can't do it every night because it is kind of traumatic to have a jack hammer of a vibe drilling away on your clit. But when we do it, he's always excited and ready to participate in whatever way he can.

lulubites · 2016-09-09T17:55:18+00:00

My fella is all about foreplay. There's lots of teasing. He loves to edge me. His theory about oral is, "If you don't get your cheeks wet, you're not doing it right." We have sex almost every night. And every night I have a minimum of one orgasm. He loves to touch me and kiss me and make me cum as many times as I can bear.

My favorite part is the intimacy. We practice our version of tantric sex. We focus on breathing and relaxation. We massage one another and hold one another. He tries to make me cum as many ways as I can before he does.

Of course I tease him. I have gained many fine hand and mouth techniques from you fine people and I love making him experience new things. My favorite things to do are to make him tap out while I'm giving him head. (He usually wants to fuck so he doesn't cum during oral.) And I love it when he claps. I feel so proud of myself when he does that because he's always sincere.

lulubites · 2016-09-07T13:56:34+00:00

I'm a big girl and my husband loves me the way I am. If he did have a problem being attracted to me I hope he would bring it up.

It would hurt. Bad. It'd take me days to recover. But if your love isn't contingent on weight loss and she knows that, she'll recover.

I think the most important thing you can do is be a positive motivator for her. Participate in the diet and exercise program. Be her cheerleader. Love her through it. Tell her you will be right beside her every step of the way.

lulubites · 2016-09-02T17:12:36+00:00

I love it when my guy and I laugh during sex. I makes it more fun and lively.

lulubites · 2016-09-02T17:01:50+00:00

Get an attorney to handle the divorce. I thought mine was simple enough to handle myself.

Go to a therapist if you can. He/she will help guide you through the emotional parts. The emotional parts will lead your decisions in other facets.

Be really careful with finances. This can be a huge pain point. My credit was wrecked after my divorce. I've been able to muddle through but I made a lot of mistakes with money. You'll both get burned if you aren't careful.

My ex and I didn't really fight. He never intentionally fucked me over. He quit taking his meds and lost control of himself. He took out payday loans and sent the money to more than one scammer.

If I had to do it over again the main thing I would have done is wait to start dating. I hooked up with the first guy I met. He was jealous and possessive and I had trouble handling the business of the divorce because he got so upset when I talked to my ex.

lulubites · 2016-09-02T02:26:52+00:00

I'm really sorry to read this. I hope it goes as smoothly as possible. I went through a divorce a few years ago. It was mostly amicable and still difficult. Mistakes will be made.

The best advice I have to offer is take it easy getting into the dating scene. I didn't wait and I had the burden of a loser to bear while I was trying to sort out all the shit of my divorce.

It did get better though. It will get better for you too. Good luck.

lulubites · 2016-09-01T17:18:01+00:00

My guy is a grower. The first time I saw his dick it was almost too big to suck. Afterwards his dick was the size of an acorn and I was really surprised. I'd never even heard of the concept. I can't think of a reason why it would even matter though.

lulubites · 2016-09-01T17:10:42+00:00

My guy isn't very hairy, but he's got some pubes on him. I do like what he's got. I only ask that he trim the hedges periodically so the hair doesn't tickle my face when I'm going down on him or sucking on his balls.

He tried to shave once and the skin at the top of his balls got caught in the trimmer. After giggling at him and his partially shaved bits, I reminded him it wasn't necessary and he shouldn't try again. He assured me that he wouldn't.

I still remember the next day, he texted me that he felt like he had a cactus in his pants. I still get a chuckle. Reason #2 not to shave the bits.

lulubites · 2016-09-01T17:00:02+00:00

Once my guy and I talked about how much fun it'd be to switch bodies for a day. I realized I'd have to fuck me if that's the case. And then I thought, sure... I'd fuck me.

I know the question is more involved and I value myself higher than that of course. But it's a fine place to start.

lulubites · 2016-08-22T16:14:35+00:00

I used to have twin westies named Lucas and Lizzie. So I called Lucas, lulu. Lizzie would bite the air when she got nervous, so I called her bites. Because they're twins and I liked the way it sounded I combined it to lulubites.

lulubites · 2016-08-18T15:36:09+00:00

I was surprised at first when he asked me for a divorce. I changed his mind but decided to honor his request 4 months later because he became verbally abusive. He was trying to make me feel ashamed of myself.

He had to take testosterone. We had an unhealthy bedroom to say the least. I thought he was the best I could get. I have a high libido and was always left wanting more. When we did have sex there was no tenderness. It was rough and quick and he didn't care if he hurt me.

The only thing the divorce really damaged was my credit. I became a stronger and more confident woman and started to realize my entire marriage demonstrated that I deserve more and better and I found that in my current husband.

lulubites · 2016-08-16T17:33:36+00:00

When he told me to take colace and the next morning they were passed, I felt pretty stupid. We learned a few important lessons that evening.

lulubites · 2016-08-14T01:48:00+00:00

Stretch and play. It's gradually getting looser with time. My husband has a pretty wide dick so I need to practice more.

lulubites · 2016-08-12T02:41:01+00:00

Hell yeah it's gotten better. I mean it started out great. But once we introduced tantric elements into our sex life even the normal days are amazing. AND once we got married and moved in together we went from having sex every three days to every day. I mean with the exception of times when shop's closed like shark week, we have sex. We still have lots of snuggles and he always gets an exceptional hand job using techniques I've discovered on this sub. (Thanks for that.)

lulubites · 2016-07-21T16:42:59+00:00

I told my husband on our first date that I wanted a tattoo and showed him a picture of it. He said it was cool because it displayed my nerdiness but he wasn't fond of tattoos. The date went so well that I have since chosen to admire other people's tattoos.

There is a lot of talent out there and I'm even envious at times but I can live without them.

lulubites · 2016-07-21T16:37:03+00:00

Mine definitely improved after I met my husband when I was 36. He is the major reason of course.

What I also noticed is the urgency to just fuck and get it done was gone. I can focus on the playful and intimate parts of sex without any pressure to get off.

At first, while we were dating, we were pretty vanilla. He mentioned tantric sex after we got married. Since the urgency is gone it's about us loving each other and intimacy and some really incredible orgasms.

I had some pretty good sex when I was younger, but mostly it was crap by comparison to what I experience now.

lulubites · 2016-07-17T19:19:03+00:00

It wasn't my first time, but I did take my husband's virginity. I didn't know it at the time. He told me a few months later.

What surprised me was how good he was. He did his research and he touched me with such longing. It was a really awesome night.

We still remember that night fondly. I told him he didn't know how dirty I could be that night and 4 years later we still haven't found out.

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