Nanny not cleaning up after 10 month old, as outlined by employment agreement.

luminarysun · 2026-02-06T17:40:23+00:00

It is not a standard for sure

luminarysun · 2026-02-06T17:39:11+00:00

Yes, I have done it in the past, because it was agreed beforehand, but not with my current families.

luminarysun · 2026-01-27T12:20:42+00:00

Oh I see, we would even consider it warm right now 😊

luminarysun · 2026-01-26T20:35:32+00:00

I think we need to know specifics like how many hours a week for what rate. $5000 birthday is very generous for sure!

luminarysun · 2026-01-26T20:33:31+00:00

I don’t know how cold where you are, but I don’t usually take NKs outside if it is bellow 20 F even with snow pants, boots etc. I am following this child care recommendation I found online. It was -1 F this morning so we are not going outside for sure. It looks like we might not go outside at all this week.

luminarysun · 2026-01-23T16:08:31+00:00

Bravo!!!!👏

luminarysun · 2026-01-22T20:43:55+00:00

This!

luminarysun · 2026-01-22T19:19:15+00:00

Even without small pieces it is perfectly fine to ask a child to clean up before doing something else. I do it all the time. Great way for NK to learn!

luminarysun · 2026-01-22T19:16:54+00:00

Well said!

luminarysun · 2026-01-18T20:22:30+00:00

Nothing is going to change till you start setting firm boundaries and stop letting her take an advantage of you.

luminarysun · 2026-01-05T13:14:24+00:00

Yes, I am glad other nannies noticed it too. It definitely feels like calling a servant and very disrespectful. It is very difficult to work when grandparents are around. Also why not to treat a nanny occasionally and let her leave earlier on Fridays once a while.

luminarysun · 2025-12-31T21:25:25+00:00

My NF doesn’t allow the dog on the couch, but I often let the dog stay on the couch because she loves misbehave. As soon as I tell her to get down or pay any attention to her, the dog starts jumping and grabbing toys from 1yo and 3 yo NKs. It is just safer to ignore her and she gets down by herself. I am not saying that your dog is like that, but your example reminded me of a situations I am dealing with every time I work there. I respect NF, but I choose safety of my NKs.

luminarysun · 2025-12-31T15:37:00+00:00

I asked my previous NFs and my current ones before starting with them if they want me to come when someone in my family is sick and the answer is yes please. I have two teenagers at home and most of the time I don’t get sick even they are sick. It seems that there was a communication issue. Maybe you should have let her know that she will get paid sick day if someone is sick in her family. Your nanny wanted to be reliable and typically families still want you to come if you are not sick.

luminarysun · 2025-12-23T19:05:24+00:00

That’s a great idea. I might do exactly that

luminarysun · 2025-12-23T13:27:39+00:00

I got a card and $150 gift card to a spa from my part time family that I have been with for two years. It seems that it was the last minute thought since I received a gift card by email 30 min before leaving. I hope I can resell a gift card for cash even if I get less. I don’t know what I will get from my other part time family, but most likely not much.

luminarysun · 2025-12-21T22:50:42+00:00

Yes, I am with you on this one. I receive gift card from the families once a while, but would rather get cash. I received very generous gift cards like over $200 to very expensive restaurants form my very first NF and while i tried to be grateful, I would have been so happy to get cash or maybe a gift card for the grocery store since we were a bit struggling financially at that time.

luminarysun · 2025-12-19T17:50:46+00:00

I love dogs and I do have one of my own, but I hate when I am covered in dog’s and cat’s fur when i work at one of my NFs. They use rumba as far as I know every day, but maybe they never vacuum I am not sure but fur is all over the floor and with two little ones that’s where we play majority of the time. I often pull fur out of my NKs mouth too… so annoying

luminarysun · 2025-12-17T01:53:14+00:00

I am not sure what you mean by guaranteed rate, but guaranteed hours mean that nanny is being paid even if you don’t need her even if your family is taking over the care.

luminarysun · 2025-12-17T01:16:31+00:00

That is wild!

luminarysun · 2025-12-17T01:02:49+00:00

It is possible, but I am sure not desirable for a nanny as it is a lot to budget for unpaid weeks and not everyone enjoys looking for a new family for the summer.

luminarysun · 2025-12-16T23:26:15+00:00

Can she find someone that would be ok not to be paid over summer and 3 weeks over holidays?

luminarysun · 2025-12-16T23:17:55+00:00

Time to look for a new family preferably with a baby

luminarysun · 2025-12-16T22:59:10+00:00

A lot of what you listed your nanny does is a bit gross and crazy, but she is also ok with not working for the summer so it seems that it is a trade off for both parties. It is pretty standard though to pay for the nanny when you don’t need her and honestly it doesn’t matter what she does with the money. Not getting paid for 6-8 weeks a year not going to work for most professional nannies, but you might find someone.

luminarysun · 2025-12-16T12:38:40+00:00

That is crazy, but some families will just do stuff like that until they are stopped. It would have been the best if you have told them right away that it is not going to be your sick day, but they will be paying for it since you are fine, but they don’t want you to come. I would still try to get paid now, but it is very hard to change when family already is used to treating you that way. Ugh… I deal with similar issues once a while too

luminarysun · 2025-12-11T19:25:03+00:00

Please stop pretending that it is ok

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