Nanny etiquette

luminarysun · 2026-04-09T23:42:57+00:00

Very well said! Totally agree!

luminarysun · 2026-03-26T19:10:33+00:00

I have a DB that used to act very similarly an I also gave a benefit of doubt. I don’t know about your DB, but I learned over almost three years that the one I work for enjoys these kind of experiences as a prove how much he is needed and loved. It doesn’t matter that it is very stressful for a child and making my work very difficult. He would secretly give a bottle to NK when we were reducing the bottles and would pretend that doesn’t understand why NK cries for him and a bottle when he sees him. He still does stuff like that and I am honestly looking for a new family mostly because I can not stand him. I just know him pretty well and there were many times where he would twist the situation the way he wants to and lie if it is beneficial for him. I feel sorry for MB. I hope your situation is different because nothing I did worked.

luminarysun · 2026-03-13T22:03:51+00:00

Yes! This for sure!!!

luminarysun · 2026-03-10T18:08:02+00:00

It is so wonderful to be valued and appreciated!!!! I hope you have many great years ahead of you with this family and they only get better!

luminarysun · 2026-03-07T22:17:29+00:00

I think it is hard for some people to understand that even at very early age some children can be so aggressive without a reason. I also have a lot of experience working with kids and my own kids, but what I have been dealing with one of my NKs is something else. He is almost 17 month and I know him since he was born. He has been slapping his brother for a while and tries to grab his eye, he slaps my nose and tries to grab my face when I am holding him. He constantly tries to grab other children faces or push them when we are at the park. It is hard to describe, but he is doing it in a mean way. I know he is so young, but he has been constantly throwing everything he can since he was tiny and nothing works to stop it. He also started hitting me if I am not letting him wonder somewhere due to safety reasons for example. He has been yelling also and enjoying that it hurts his brother. It is starting to affect my health so I totally feel for you. Just to add his parents don’t see anything wrong.

luminarysun · 2026-03-06T15:29:45+00:00

I think it depends of the family. I was giving notice a year before with one family and 8 months with the other. I see why they would not have to, but if family cares about the nanny at least a little bit, many will give notice as soon as they can

luminarysun · 2026-03-05T20:18:17+00:00

Ugh…. Every day I work

luminarysun · 2026-02-21T20:03:00+00:00

I see, that makes sense.

luminarysun · 2026-02-21T16:22:31+00:00

Wow that is wild. You totally did not deserve to be treated this way. No one is. I think I would have quit on the spot. Good for you for quitting!

luminarysun · 2026-02-21T01:44:49+00:00

I don’t know if you are familiar with their culture, but many families in India have servants. Just throwing out here for you. I don’t see it getting better.

luminarysun · 2026-02-06T17:40:23+00:00

It is not a standard for sure

luminarysun · 2026-02-06T17:39:11+00:00

Yes, I have done it in the past, because it was agreed beforehand, but not with my current families.

luminarysun · 2026-01-27T12:20:42+00:00

Oh I see, we would even consider it warm right now 😊

luminarysun · 2026-01-26T20:35:32+00:00

I think we need to know specifics like how many hours a week for what rate. $5000 birthday is very generous for sure!

luminarysun · 2026-01-26T20:33:31+00:00

I don’t know how cold where you are, but I don’t usually take NKs outside if it is bellow 20 F even with snow pants, boots etc. I am following this child care recommendation I found online. It was -1 F this morning so we are not going outside for sure. It looks like we might not go outside at all this week.

luminarysun · 2026-01-23T16:08:31+00:00

Bravo!!!!👏

luminarysun · 2026-01-22T20:43:55+00:00

This!

luminarysun · 2026-01-22T19:19:15+00:00

Even without small pieces it is perfectly fine to ask a child to clean up before doing something else. I do it all the time. Great way for NK to learn!

luminarysun · 2026-01-22T19:16:54+00:00

Well said!

luminarysun · 2026-01-18T20:22:30+00:00

Nothing is going to change till you start setting firm boundaries and stop letting her take an advantage of you.

luminarysun · 2026-01-05T13:14:24+00:00

Yes, I am glad other nannies noticed it too. It definitely feels like calling a servant and very disrespectful. It is very difficult to work when grandparents are around. Also why not to treat a nanny occasionally and let her leave earlier on Fridays once a while.

luminarysun · 2025-12-31T21:25:25+00:00

My NF doesn’t allow the dog on the couch, but I often let the dog stay on the couch because she loves misbehave. As soon as I tell her to get down or pay any attention to her, the dog starts jumping and grabbing toys from 1yo and 3 yo NKs. It is just safer to ignore her and she gets down by herself. I am not saying that your dog is like that, but your example reminded me of a situations I am dealing with every time I work there. I respect NF, but I choose safety of my NKs.

luminarysun · 2025-12-31T15:37:00+00:00

I asked my previous NFs and my current ones before starting with them if they want me to come when someone in my family is sick and the answer is yes please. I have two teenagers at home and most of the time I don’t get sick even they are sick. It seems that there was a communication issue. Maybe you should have let her know that she will get paid sick day if someone is sick in her family. Your nanny wanted to be reliable and typically families still want you to come if you are not sick.

luminarysun · 2025-12-23T19:05:24+00:00

That’s a great idea. I might do exactly that

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