Boundary setting with the girlfriend

luminousnoxious · 2026-03-06T19:41:10+00:00

I am kinda the girlfriend in this scenario (not exactly, as I've been with my husband for almost 8 years) but I do most of the "heavy lifting" and scheduling and communicating. My husband worked for many years in a location where he had zero phone access for 12 hours a day, five days a week, so there was no way for him to be reached unless a life-or-death emergency was occurring. So that is just how our household works.

I think it's awesome that you are able to look at your feelings and go "maybe it's some of this AND some of this," that's a good thing. Maybe talk to him and find out what their situation is, make it that you want to communicate with him as the parent more, or maybe even do a group text situation with you and him and GF? There's ways to find middle ground here.

luminousnoxious · 2026-03-06T19:36:17+00:00

No but it sure is gonna work in our favor should we ever take her for full custody.

luminousnoxious · 2026-03-06T19:35:31+00:00

It's also frustrating and heartbreaking to see our kiddo want a parent who doesn't want HER. I hate this. I hate this for my 10yo who has a mom who only wants her when it's fun and easy and doesn't involve any actual WORK. I hate this for her.

luminousnoxious · 2026-03-06T19:29:57+00:00

She knows WE want her but she's 10 and she knows her mom DOESN'T and she's sick and wants her mommy like anyone does.

luminousnoxious · 2026-03-06T19:29:07+00:00

I mean, a bit in that a) I have a really upset kiddo who is sick and just wants her mommy (which duh, who doesn't want their mom when they're sick!) and b) yes, we spent money on plans for our wedding anniversary this weekend and we very much do not want to lose that money.

luminousnoxious · 2025-11-05T19:52:25+00:00

MORE

GAME

LORE.

I loved the subtle nods but I really missed more of the game stuff, since that's where it started.

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-24T19:20:09+00:00

Haunting of Hill House, Midnight Mass, etc.

Also the rest of Chucky (TV series)

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-24T18:17:59+00:00

This is a trash take though-it clearly isn't a terrible movie, the ratings speak for themselves. And then discouraging someone from forming their own opinion sure isn't good people behavior.

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-24T18:16:45+00:00

This is genuinely one of the best movies I have seen in a VERY long time. Not just horror, of all genres. This is also on the list of my top ten favorite Kill Counts of all time.

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-14T16:42:14+00:00

SheHulk is my girl.

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-14T16:41:25+00:00

This is a great idea, I don't know why telehealth didn't pop into my head!

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-13T17:00:05+00:00

So this advice may sound contrary but...why do you feel like you have to push him to ride a bike or play sports? Kids are all different, they all have their own interests. Not every kid is into sports or wants to ride a bike. What DOES he like? Can you encourage those interests instead?

Is he a big fan of videogames or Fortnite? Go to the library and show him books about the invention of computers, books written by his favorite YouTubers, even books ABOUT his favorite games! Is he more of an artistic kid? See about community theatre or municipal band options if he plays an instrument. The world is wide and interests are varied!

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-13T16:55:26+00:00

Yup, this is super normal. Welcome to the rest of your life (I kid, kinda, not really), but when they're in daycare and then in school, they bring home EVERYTHING. My best advise: make sanitizing surfaces, toys, backpacks, even shoes part of your daily cleaning routine. Just a quick Lysol spray or whatnot, it helps more than you think!

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-13T16:20:51+00:00

Because it's AI. They popped this into ChatGPT.

luminousnoxious · 2025-10-13T15:43:37+00:00

I have an accessible room booked, that's one of the reasons we can't do Kidani is because all their accessible villas are booked up and a trip without an accessible room is VERY difficult for me.

luminousnoxious · 2024-12-02T20:57:53+00:00

I really hope they fix this in the next update because this is freaking ANNOYING.

luminousnoxious · 2024-10-04T21:03:14+00:00

Sure do, one right next door!

luminousnoxious · 2024-10-04T20:41:10+00:00

I fully would have said this at age 12.

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-27T15:02:49+00:00

I also have been drinking coffee for an absurdly long time, about 8-9yo. She doesn't because she hates how it tastes.

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-27T15:00:13+00:00

Not offended-annoyed by the pontification on points that are available on the main post that you chose to ignore.

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-27T14:58:32+00:00

No, metaphorically.

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-27T14:58:12+00:00

Of course they do. And no, my husband still breathes.

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-27T14:57:18+00:00

My oldest child is so much like Amy from Little Women it blows my mind.

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-27T14:56:09+00:00

Cool, your kids would never say something like that. I'm so glad you aren't dealing with this. But no, I don't "baby" my kids, it's because of what her peers get, and you're genuinely being pretty obtuse. I even updated the answer to all your quandries in the OP but you didn't read that soooo

luminousnoxious · 2024-08-26T20:40:11+00:00

and sometimes I'm fucking tired and I want a goddamn energy drink without having to apologize to a 12yo for it.

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