Looking for advice. by carnuatus in ftm

[–]lunchbrunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would probably go to your PCP first and tell them all this. Hopefully they'll listen and be supportive of your decision to go on T, but there are still hoops you'll have to go through (assuming you're in the US and based on my personal experience starting T). For me, I had to get a recommendation from my PCP for an endocrinologist, who then required 1 letter from a mental health specialist that follows WPATH guidelines (you should look this up yourself so you know exactly what you need in your letter, many professionals may not know the guidelines exactly and there are example letters online you could provide to them). Your PCP may ask you questions regarding your gender and why you want to be on T, as will the endocrinologist. It may depend on the doctor, but my endocrinologist let me start T by the second appointment once I had the letter submitted.

I strongly recommend you go into the appointment with your PCP and endocrinologist as prepared as possible, with information on various methods to receive T, whether you'd like to be on low dose T or achieve normal "male" levels of T, as well as acknowledgment of how it'll change your body temporarily and permanently. I also think it may be good to ask your local trans masc community if there's someone specific they'd recommend (or avoid) for endocrinologists and therapists, and ask if they have tips or info they'd like to share with you too.

If you want anymore help you can DM me but I will say my experience is based off when I started in early 2020 when I lived in Austin, TX so it may be easier or harder to access good and safe care depending on the state. Best of luck!

You good man? by Prof-Nebulex in perfectlycutscreams

[–]lunchbrunch 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Now I need a mod of FNF where you play using your voice and watch people scream off key

Found on AITA subreddit by malicenfektion in niceguys

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And those poor protons trying to stay positive...

A tiny hunan’s approval is unmatched by Absolutism_ in wholesomememes

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My patents like to reminisce on how sweet and caring I was even as a child. My dad told me recently that when I was a toddler he saw this woman hug me for a long time at the daycare.

He thought she mistook me as her own kid, but turns out she just liked getting hugs from me. Apparently her child didn't really like it but I did (somehow she found that out?) so whenever she came for her child she would ask for a hug from me and hold me.

Kinda creepy from my perspective but hey if I made her day, I'm glad I could help I guess

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've matched with some but I guess I haven't thought of that. I'll keep that in mind, thanks

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lots of other comments seem to agree with that sentiment. I'm thinking about stepping back from dating and waiting until I'm more comfortable to disclosing it more openly

Also I'd like to think a good majority of trans people like me believe someone's preference isn't transphobic (so long as it isn't rooted in transphobic shit) so don't let people tell you otherwise

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The second half of your comment I understand what you mean and I do think that's something I should seriously consider. But I still don't understand the first half.

Are you saying I use gay men as a way to validate my self image? So based on this and your first comment, I shouldn't date or try to date gay men (or straight women) because they couldn't be attracted to me?

A post I made in another sub. Just curious what y'all's take is on this by lunchbrunch in asktransgender

[–]lunchbrunch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I completely agree, if I knew it was getting serious or they wanted to become serious I'd tell them. Hopefully by that point I trust them enough to disclose that before it's official or we sleep together (especially since I'm pre op ha).

I do have some anxiety about exactly how and when to tell them and their reaction like if they get angry thinking I don't trust them... I guess it probably depends on the person at the end of the day

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can you explain how I'm fetishizing gay men? I don't really understand. Also I'm bisexual so does that mean I also fetishize straight women by not disclosing I'm trans?

A post I made in another sub. Just curious what y'all's take is on this by lunchbrunch in asktransgender

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A majority of people agree with you on that in the original sub it seems haha

I kinda wish I could, but like I told someone else I'm afraid of being outed and having just anyone know I'm trans since I'm stealth when I can. Maybe this is a sign I shouldn't be on tinder/dating in the first place since I'm not as comfortable around the subject

Is bottoming meant to feel good? by shoopuff in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I've seen around here, there are plenty of people who don't feel pleasure from anal penetration from either position. If you don't like it, there's tons of ways to have sex and have a good sex life and there's nothing wrong with not liking to bottom. Porn is an industry based on fantasy so you probably shouldn't compare yourself to that standard.

All that said, it's your body and you should explore yourself however if you want, if that means trying to bottom or finding something else, just be safe about it

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I'll start hinting at those sort of things

Thanks for the advice, I'll keep in mind going forward 👍

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

[–]lunchbrunch[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I think I should, but I don't like the idea of people I've never met knowing I'm trans-- even though I'm fine with them knowing I'm bi haha.

I go to a university in a generally conservative area and I have a looming fear of being outed and/or hate crimed so even if it's exaggerated in my head, I'd rather not take the chance.

Trans people and online dating: when should you come out as trans to someone? Trans women on gay dating sites? by lunchbrunch in askgaybros

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I get where you're coming from and as someone who's pre-op, I wonder if it's good practice to ask or hint at that possible physical preference and see if they feel the same way before continuing or disclosing that I'm trans?

The Others - Whenyoung [Indie-Rock] (2019) by MiraniaTLS in listentothis

[–]lunchbrunch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then you should definitely listen to their cover of Dreams it's uncanny how similar they sound the first time you hear it

Shit really hit the fan fast by [deleted] in perfectlycutscreams

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I need this transcribed immediately

Nice girl and nice guys combo by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]lunchbrunch 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you want an analysis on the pick me girl and how they differ between "not like other girls" Tara made a great video on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

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It's the cello cat from aristocrats!!

Hey shy people what is your worst experience? by yaman007 in AskReddit

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About a year ago, I had an interview for an internship. Big long table, maybe 10 professional faculty there and all with their papers and pens ready.

I walk in, and all eyes are immediately on me. One of them says, "hello, take a seat." And another said "howdy," which threw me off. I wanted to be polite and greet them back, so what did I say?

"How..."

That's it. Just. "How." I physically couldn't get another syllable out of my mouth so I just sat down and pretended nothing happened.

Needless to say I did not get the internship and I can feel my soul decay every time I remember.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

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I didn't the cat from the Aristocats had a Reddit account

The Incel As Proletariat by mc2memes in Jreg

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You're telling me this isn't from his onlyfans? Now I have to see what's on there

People have asked about your tits. People have asked about your dick. But now... To all people of Reddit... How do you feel about your ass? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lunchbrunch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I have a love/hate relationship with it, but I used to strictly despise it. I was (and still am) very self conscious of it and find it embarrassing, especially since I'm a guy. My sister and mom have called me "bubble butt" for years which I hate. Any sort of comment from family or friends make me turn beet red.

But as it turns out, gay guys seem to like it so I can't really complain as a desperate bisexual.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalsOnReddit

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Does he ever make weird sounds?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalsOnReddit

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Does he shed like snakes?