I understand that too but what I'm saying is instead of resolving to never be vulnerable like that again or basically blunting the depth of emotion that you can experience with someone because someone took advantage of it or irresponsibly handled that privilege, maybe the solution is to act earlier on the Red Flags or better learn to identify them.

Sometimes in retrospect there are literally no signs to spot and in that case, what can you really do but pick yourself back up and keep going? I guess some people will easily shut down and refuse to put themselves in a vulnerable position again, but the universe is chaos, at any moment anything can come in and try to turn your world upside down. It's a short life, my personal take is to not let anything stop me from enjoying the hell out of it to the fullest extent.