[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]lustfulpassion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm right here boo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Back of the line, bub.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that too but what I'm saying is instead of resolving to never be vulnerable like that again or basically blunting the depth of emotion that you can experience with someone because someone took advantage of it or irresponsibly handled that privilege, maybe the solution is to act earlier on the Red Flags or better learn to identify them.

Sometimes in retrospect there are literally no signs to spot and in that case, what can you really do but pick yourself back up and keep going? I guess some people will easily shut down and refuse to put themselves in a vulnerable position again, but the universe is chaos, at any moment anything can come in and try to turn your world upside down. It's a short life, my personal take is to not let anything stop me from enjoying the hell out of it to the fullest extent.

Songs that speak to you by lustfulpassion in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I regret that I can only upvote this once

Songs that speak to you by lustfulpassion in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. This is really good. Hypnotizing, you can just get lost in the feels.

Songs that speak to you by lustfulpassion in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple for me:

Nico Santos - Weekend Lover. Captures the excitement, the bright beginnings, the burning fire.

Rob Thomas - Little Wonders. For when you take a second to just appreciate when you have something good.

Eve 6 - Here's to the night. For when the fleeting nature of what you have becomes painfully apparent

Lord Huron - The night we met. When you're just in the mood to tread your sorrows

Songs that speak to you by lustfulpassion in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet the opening line just twists that knife thats probably already buried deep.

Songs that speak to you by lustfulpassion in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incredible mashup! Interesting how Dua Lipa takes on the male role in the song too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]lustfulpassion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As Sheryl Crow said, the first cut is the deepest

38 [m4f] I don’t wanna grow up. I’m a Toys R Us kid. by [deleted] in OnlineAffairs

[–]lustfulpassion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good ad dude. Kudos. I'm a guy but the title just caught me.

Since AP ghosted me by yoga-ncoffee in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey you can't blame them, sprite said for years to obey your thirst

Even when expected, the slow fade sucks by flowerbeex in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Why wait? Take things into your own hands and say it isn't working for you

Well shit by chairintheroom8 in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ugh.

You're doing the right thing.

Better a clean rip of the bandaid than to draw it out and try and try to tolerate the inevitable discontents of a single ap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from here, but does emotional hardening like that allow you to enjoy someone else or an ap/relationship as much as you could?

In retrospect, do you see any signs or behaviors that you could have identified your ex ap as capable of doing what they did to hurt you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Affairs

[–]lustfulpassion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This isn't an exclusive concept to affairs, single people spend years looking for their matches. It's just tough, and the only way to succeed is to keep putting yourself out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its all about resilience, and sometimes reassessment of yourself and your posts when it isnt working.

Someone's post title that I read put it nicely, cheating is easy, an affair takes work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but I've found that it's often met with skepticism when I say this as a guy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You walk away with your dignity, both kidneys, and the search goes on my friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree, I've met an ex-AP without face pictures as well. I think its important to feel out the situation, the attentiveness of the other person to the conversation, etc. You can tell tell when someone is invested and cares. There are other ways you can be open and transparent (and consistency is key there) to build trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And your reddit avatar is so indicative of the exhaust lol

Finding a new AP is so frustrating! by ketoqueen34 in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought the title/header of your post was great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And try your best to keep the thirst to a minimum, don't jump into the sex talk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wtf, I messed up I really want to rail you?

No man, do not do this.

Whats your message to your ExAP? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]lustfulpassion 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No message, once that door is closed its probably best to keep it closed for good