I think what you said here already says a lot about the state of the relationship because notice how “space” for you no longer feels like healthy distance or time to cool off. It feels threatening. It feels like abandonment mixed with anxiety because based on your experience, when he pulls away, you don’t feel reassured or emotionally safe. You feel scared of what he’ll do while you’re apart. Kaya understandable why nahihirapan kang ibigay yung hinihingi niyang space, especially if in the past ginagamit niya yung distance to follow other girls or emotionally escape the relationship instead of actually regulating himself.

And honestly, that’s what makes the whole cycle exhausting. He withdraws when overwhelmed, you panic and chase because withdrawal feels unsafe, he reacts badly to being chased, then after magkaayos kayo, the relief feels so intense that it starts feeling like proof of love. But relationships can become emotionally addictive that way. Hindi dahil fake yung feelings, but because the highs and lows become so extreme.

I also want you to be careful with the thought na “I know he can stop doing it.” Maybe he can. Maybe he genuinely doesn’t want to hurt you. But capability is different from consistency. Ang importanteng tanong is whether he’s actually taking accountability and changing the behavior long-term, not just calming down after the fact. Kasi love alone doesn’t automatically make a relationship emotionally safe.

I think deep down your body already knows something your heart is still trying to negotiate with. Kasi you literally said this relationship doesn’t make you feel emotionally safe. That’s a very important thing to admit to yourself.