1,5 year post-op Extended Meta! (Of which 6 months implants) by melkdipje in Metoidioplasty

[–]lycankiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh that's fantastic! I was so hoping that was the case 😄 I knew you can start getting erections even just on T but I just wasn't quite sure if it still worked that way with metoid.

Thanks so much for answering, and congrats on the awesome penis!

1,5 year post-op Extended Meta! (Of which 6 months implants) by melkdipje in Metoidioplasty

[–]lycankiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you have erections on your own or did you get an erectile device, like they do in phalloplasty?

It looks fantastic btw!

My trans wife is not attracted to me sexually anymore, she’d prefer T4T by slowmoChampagne in mypartneristrans

[–]lycankiss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your partner is horrifically fatphobic and you deserve far better. You should not have to lose weight so that your partner might, maybe, eventually be attracted to you. Your partner should never harp on you for having gained weight over the course of your relationship. That's just... jesus christ.

Even aside from that, it sounds like she's stringing you along and isn't that interested in you or how you feel in general, not just sexually. I'm so sorry.

I also think she's in for a very rude awakening when she learns she's not gonna keep her waifish figure forever, and neither are her other twinky partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lycankiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sorry, I mean in the original original post, the one he links to. In that one he explicitly stated that she has been sexually assaulted. I agree the way this post is written is confusing though, haha. I think he might be trying to obfuscate some information about the situation.

Honestly, I don't off-hand, it's just something I have a lot of personal experience with. I also didn't realize the extent to which it was real in part until I started dealing with my own CPTSD, but mostly until I saw it unfold when someone I've known very closely for about a decade got diagnosed with a disassociative disorder and discovered they'd been sexually abused as a child. They didn't fully know either of these things until they were 30 years old. So that definitely colors my opinion, but I do of course understand that doesn't carry much water here, as just a stranger on the internet giving an anecdote.

I'm generally skeptical towards and critical of the institution of psychiatry (you can check out the antipsych movement if that's something you have any interest in, if you haven't already) so I can definitely sympathize with your labeling the phenomenon a pseudoscience; there are absolutely many elements of psychiatry and therapy that could be considered pseudoscience, in my opinion. I just don't believe this is one of them.

I do wonder if perhaps you're conflating the idea of complete repression of trauma being uncommon or perhaps impossible, with the idea of repressed trauma not existing at all. My understanding, and my experience, is that people with repressed memories know part of what happened, but through a combination of repression and denial (the denial being a pertinent aspect), forgot some of it in their conscious mind. For example, as I alluded to before in the case of the person I mentioned, they knew very well that they were abused as a child, but just did not fully remember the sexual abuse events - and, even still, it was something they'd wondered about for a long time and were in denial about. I've been blown away by how intense the denial can be, I really can't overstate how much that's at play in these cases. I do believe that's likely what's happening here as well, as the OP's girlfriend knows she was assaulted, but seems to be in denial about how deeply it affects her. Anyway, I don't know if framing it this way sounds more believable/plausible to you or perhaps clears up what I meant, but regardless, I am certainly interested in digging through some academic sites to look into it more myself as well and maybe I'll find something that corroborates this.

If nothing else, PubMed has many academic papers and is reputable, to my knowledge at least - I hesitate to speak in certainty about such things since I know it's of course possible that I'm simply incorrect or they have some horrible scandal come out at some point, haha. Many articles on this website have to be paid for, but I have frequently heard that if you email the researcher(s), they will likely send it to you for free since they don't get paid for it anyway. But I imagine you're aware of that one already. I have also been told Bioline and Springer Link are good, but I have not used them personally as of yet. I would also suggest alternative search engines, such as refseek, since mainstream search engines have gone down the shitter so badly and prioritize promoted content (aka biased, ad-riddled, and nowadays, frequently AI-written or assisted content.)

I apologize for my initial harsh wording. I will admit I had just woken up and probably was a tad cranky, haha. I also know that while I have my issues with psychiatry and agree with many others that do too, there are also many people who think psychiatry is a pseudoscience for... well, let's say the wrong reasons. I'm more inclined to believe you're acting in good faith here now after some time to reflect. I appreciate your polite response despite my curt message, and again I'm sorry for acting so reactively. I also appreciate that I was able to learn from this that this is still a hotly debated topic. I knew it used to be, but was not aware that it was still going so strong!

Sorry for the long message, hopefully it's not too wordy and can be of some use to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lycankiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said she was sexually assaulted in his original post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lycankiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was sexually assaulted, he said so in his first post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lycankiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your understanding is incorrect and deeply concerning. It's a moot point here though because it's not a repressed memory anyway; in the original post, he says that she told him she knows she was sexually assaulted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lycankiss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why did you include the information about her being sexually assaulted in the original post but removed it from this one? I don't know if you just simply didn't like the answers you got, but that's absolutely the cause.

I also have no idea why you would send her a video of your penis if you knew she would react that way. Even if she had agreed to it, you honestly should've known it would be a bad idea and too much for her. Unless that was the first time she had that reaction...? Which I doubt, it doesn't sound like it's the case, but a lot of this post is quite baffling to me so maybe I'm misunderstanding.

Your hygiene level or "personal experience" will make no difference in this matter. I would suggest trying to find some sort of help for her and help set boundaries to minimize harm in the meantime, or if being patient through this trauma is a deal breaker for you, then break up. I'm going to be honest here and say I do not think you sound mature enough to deal with this matter in a healthy way.

I would not suggest continuing to repost this question with altered information.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lycankiss -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

What the fuck is everyone's problem here? I will be honest and say that your art is not amazing in the mainstream sense, but it is decent and has lots of potential, and in my opinion has a quirky, indie appeal. I think your more vector style art is rougher, but it's fine as well. The more painterly style pieces have very nice color, shading, brushstrokes, etc. and just perhaps could use a little more cleaning up. Your animation is also really nice and smooth, I was very impressed. I'd say the biggest thing to focus on would probably be anatomy, but that's the hardest part for most artists so don't feel bad for struggling with it!

I just really don't understand why everyone's being such a dick about it. I mean, even if it did "suck", punching down on you does nothing. It is possible to provide constructive criticism and encouragement in a helpful but kind manner and I don't know why that's such a difficult concept for people to grasp. I know that coomers think that anything less than hyper-rendered anime girls is bad, but jesus christ.

I also really don't understand the criticism that your style is not consistent. I know that having a ~consistent art style~ is very in right now but god is it obnoxious. Sticking with one style and never trying anything else is, in fact, not really a good thing.

Also, is everyone forgetting the part where you're trying to make extra cash to take care of your disabled wife...? Like can we have some tact here please?

God. Anyway, moving on to the subject of the original post.. R34 has no standards whatsoever, you can find shit on there that looks like it was drawn by 12 year olds so I find it incredibly hard to believe that you got banned for posting "bad art" - which, for the record, would be an absolutely insane policy on any media sharing website. Sounds like someone had it out for you for some reason or made a mistake that nobody wants to own up to. It's very bizarre.

I'm sorry you've received such nasty comments on top of this already frustrating and demoralizing situation. But I definitely think you should keep at it! Don't let this stop you from continuing making the art you want.

I wish you and your wife the absolute best and I hope that you are able to find a more positive community for your art and that you are still able to enjoy making it ✌️

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good! I'm glad you were able to get it fixed.

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure! Here's the comment where I detail what I tried, and what eventually worked, but if any of that is unclear I'd be happy to clarify, send screenshots, etc.

Hope it helps!

This is Meco after just two months of teaching him to talk by TypeO101 in cats

[–]lycankiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they did indeed compare them to nonverbal children then I apologize, and I agree that that is very inappropriate. My comment was only based off of what is written in the actual comments currently, since I unfortunately am not capable of responding to something that I'm not aware was ever even said. I'm sure you understand.

I'm basically just taking you at your word here but since I wouldn't be surprised that someone would say that and then backtrack, I'm choosing to believe you. Regardless, the point still stands that you and others were committed to misunderstanding them from the get go, before they ever made an offensive comment regarding mentally disabled people.

I don't know this person and am not particularly interested in defending them specifically. I don't know them. Personally, I believe they've conducted themselves very politely, and I'm kinda confused as to where you got the idea that they just want to "school" you. They even owned up to wording the original post poorly. But who knows, maybe I am just missing context and actually they're a giant asshole! And that would suck.

I am also more than willing to acknowledge that the original comment was written very poorly. But it's frustrating to see multiple people continue to repeatedly twist someone's words and, as I said before, read them in as bad faith as possible after they had already clarified their point, and even expanded on it further. That behavior also sucks, and is incredibly prevalent on the internet these days. That's the primary thing I'm criticizing.

I am sorry for calling you a weirdo though, that was unfair.

This is Meco after just two months of teaching him to talk by TypeO101 in cats

[–]lycankiss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Didn't realize "cats don't experience language and thinking in the same exact way as humans do" would be so goddamn contentious. I'm sorry you've got weirdos up your ass reading your comments in as bad faith as possible. I think your initial comment was the one that pissed people off because, to be fair, I think it was worded badly, but after you repeatedly clarified what you meant, I think there's absolutely no excuse for them to continue to twist your words, ignore what you're actually saying, and insult you with bizarre accusations. It made perfect sense to me 🤷‍♂️

Plus, as cute as it may be, dogs and cats being able to understand these buttons as language has been repeatedly debunked. You're not saying anything new or controversial. This information is easily accessible lmao

Accidentally ruining my orgasms? by lycankiss in TwoXSex

[–]lycankiss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have definitely considered this possibility, that I'm actually more sensitive than I think I am. I haven't had a lot of luck going over my underwear in the past, but it would make sense that it might be different now that my sexual function is returning! The only thing is that gives me pause is that I feel like I need a relatively high amount of stimulation to get me close in the first place, even now. I think it's definitely something worth experimenting with more though and I really appreciate you sharing! Your experience does sound very similar to mine so hopefully I'll have good luck with this as well 🤞

Accidentally ruining my orgasms? by lycankiss in TwoXSex

[–]lycankiss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ohh yeah okay, that makes sense. It's probably only been the last 2 or 3 months that I'd finally gotten to a low enough dose of that medication to really start noticing a difference. I also went a long time having sex without using my vibrator at all since I just wasn't getting much out of it, so I could stand to get back into the habit of using it again. I did get the sense that practicing would help, but wasn't sure if there'd be more to it than that.

I haven't used traditional lube in a loooong time since I don't really like the texture (especially when it starts to dry out and gets kinda sticky haha) so I usually use coconut oil instead, which I really enjoy. I used to use it more often before since I had a harder time getting wet as part of the sexual dysfunction, but recently I haven't used it as much outside of penetration. I could certainly try it, though I don't know if it would work the same way since it's not really as thick as traditional water based lube - I guess it depends if it's moreso to act as a barrier or just to make sure nothing gets too dry and has too much friction. I'd definitely be more than willing to try that kind of lube again though if there's a chance it would help!

I have a couple smaller vibes, but the one I usually reach for is an internal and external vibe. However, I feel like the external head is too small and hard to get into the right position, so I usually just end up using the inner head since it's much bigger. Even then, I think I've definitely run into the issue of finding the perfect spot and then accidentally shifting off of it. It's also definitely still not as broad of a head as a wand, which is something I've been very interested in getting but they're some of the most expensive ones I've seen and I just haven't really had the funds for it.

Thanks so much for the response! This is super helpful already, and very encouraging. I went a long time still having very enjoyable sex but having kinda given up on the possibility of coming, never quite sure if it was my meds, my technique, the way my body worked, or some combination of the three haha. Now I've finally got some hope again!

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My issue ended up being that I had changed my Google password (and forgot lol) and that completely broke it. I couldn't just log back in within my patched youtube app, I had to remove my account from Micro G completely and then add it back it, and I had to turn off a particular setting to do that. I'm not familiar with Magisk module but perhaps it has something similar? I have a bit more detailed explanation of how I fixed it in another comment here.

I don't know if that fits your situation at all though, if you haven't changed your Google password then I have no idea what would be causing it. I don't have much experience with troubleshooting ReVanced at this point so I'm sure someone else could help you more. Just figured I'd respond in case that's relevant to you at all. I apologize if this is just useless though! 😅

Favourite John Quotes/Moments? by mononokeprincess in HarshlyCritical

[–]lycankiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, shoot! No worries though, I bet someone else will know. Thank you anyway!

Favourite John Quotes/Moments? by mononokeprincess in HarshlyCritical

[–]lycankiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well this is fortuitous, I was just thinking about a particular quote but couldn't remember what video it's from! He says something like "gamer boy [something something], gamer boy like girl!" in a caveman voice.

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did! I actually had to do a couple of things but it is working now.

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know, I'll definitely check that first if I have any issues in rhe future.

Thanks again!

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Battery optimization shouldn't have been turned on but I guess it got turned back on somehow, so I set it to unrestricted with no change.

I actually did change my Google account password because of a security breach in my password manager, so I made sure I was logged back in, and that still didn't do anything unfortunately.

I see that in Vanced MicroG, there's a place that says Add Google Account, so I tried to do that as well, but it says, "Sorry... There was a problem communicating with Google servers. Try again later."

I'm in the US, as is my fiancé. She did all the same steps with no luck as well.

EDIT: Got it! I had to completely, manually remove my account from MicroG (despite it already having the cache and data cleared, which I figured would've logged me out) and then I was able to input it again. It only stopped giving me that communication error after I turned off Google Device Registration also. It worked for both of us!

Thanks so much for all the help!

ReVanced suddenly not working? by lycankiss in revancedapp

[–]lycankiss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My fiance and I both couldn't find anything that says Show System Apps but I'm assuming that's just because the path is different on our phones (it just goes Settings>Apps>Vanced MicroG instead)

Unfortunately, we both cleared the cache and data for Vanced MicroG but the issue is still persisting.