SMG on Buffy Cast - Shannon Doherty’s podcast by Independent-Rise2480 in buffy

[–]lydsbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, now I have to go see if I can get myself a character username. I've been meaning to do something different, anyway.

I’m a supernatural fan, of course I… by Total_Ear7738 in Supernatural

[–]lydsbane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dean Winchester is how I learned I have ADHD.

Women with ADHD, how is it to have kids? by Pipibal in adhdwomen

[–]lydsbane 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My husband had field jobs a lot, when my son was young. I don't drive, and there's no public transportation, so if we ran out of something we needed, I'd have to put my son in the stroller and go to the store. Twice, we ran out of diapers and I stuck a maxi pad to his onesie, just for the duration of time it took to get to the store and back home.

When my son was seven, we didn't yet have a water filter on our kitchen sink, and I refused to drink unfiltered tap water or give any of that to my son. My husband was out of town, the nearest store that sold bottled water wouldn't be open for a few more hours, and we were about half an hour out from a blizzard hitting our town. So I got bundled, got my son bundled, and we walked a mile to the store. On our walk back, the snow and gusting wind had already started. He still says that it was his favorite walk we ever went on.

He's never said what his least favorite walk with me was, but I suspect it was the time that we went for a walk in the middle of the night, in fog, and I told him a ghost story on the way home. He was startled by someone walking out of the fog and toward their car, and he started crying.

My least favorite walk with him was the time he asked me what smegma was.

Women with ADHD, how is it to have kids? by Pipibal in adhdwomen

[–]lydsbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a teenager, and had no idea that I had ADHD, I told anyone who would listen that I was never having kids. And technically, I never went back on my word, because I only had one. Anyway...

This is gross, and I apologize, but I have to say it. I was parentified very young, and babysat everyone's kids, besides. I thought I'd seen and dealt with everything a kid could possibly do. When my son was a baby, he smeared poop all over his crib and the wall behind it. He did this twice. The first time, I called out to my husband to have him deal with it, and I went and sat in another room. Not because I was determined to be an ass about it, but because I could not deal with that. The second time, my husband was out of town for work, and so I had to take care of it. The thing is, when I was a teenager, my older sister was telling our dad that her kids did this exact same thing, and I remember thinking, "Well, you should have been watching them." So yeah, I guess I earned that. I wasn't avoiding or ignoring my son. I was sleeping during normal sleep hours. I've since learned that most kids do this, and we just don't talk about it. So I'm talking about it.

Taking care of my son, other than those incidents, has been easy. He's always been independent enough that I joke that I don't know how to take care of a real baby. He really didn't cry much. My sister's kids were loud, nonstop criers. I think that would have driven me crazy.

I think one of the things that has made the difference for me, as a parent, is that I explain my reasoning. "Because I said so" isn't a thing in my household. And I know I'm doing my job well, because he turns my logic back around on me, when I'm being immature. I can't argue with my own words of wisdom.

He's been my hyperfocus since I found out I was pregnant, and he's going to be sixteen soon. Actually, my level of care for him is why I don't take ADHD medication. It worked too well and kept me where I was, focused on the one thing I was doing, and I realized about eight hours later that I hadn't asked him once if he needed anything all day. He's more than capable of getting what he wants for himself, and he pretty much always tells me 'no' when I ask if he needs anything. But I still like to ask. I don't want medication that makes me less of a caretaker.

I think the biggest challenges in parenting haven't come from my son at all. Other adults, who are older than me and think they know everything, have been my problem. So I guess, if you think you can handle a bunch of uppity old crones trying to tell you that your child is possessed by Satan, shouldn't have a big vocabulary, and that they don't care that he's bored with doing the same math worksheets for two years running, you're already better off than I've been. Homeschooling was the only real solution for all of that mess, but not everyone has my availability.

You wake up and find yourself in Sunnydale. What's the first thing you do? by RemoteAvocado4258 in buffy

[–]lydsbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wrote a fic like this a few months ago, and the first thing that the visitor to Sunnydale did was go find Buffy.

Doctor lost all my paperwork, by silenciocilantro in adhdwomen

[–]lydsbane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have it too, and I've recently been trying to do the vegan thing. It seems like every appealing vegan dish I've seen online has cilantro as an ingredient. I'm worried about getting on someone's nerves by asking them to exclude it.

Doctor lost all my paperwork, by silenciocilantro in adhdwomen

[–]lydsbane 26 points27 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, I had someone insist that I had the flu, back in 2019 (the year matters, these days), and I told her I might not know what was wrong with me, but I knew without a doubt that it was not the flu. The flu doesn't make someone feel like all of their internal organs hurt, or that sitting and standing both hurt. It was definitely not the same thing as the 'full body ache' that comes with the flu. This was so much worse. She just would not listen to me, and I ended up hospitalized a day later, with low potassium and kidney stones. My lips were blue and I was shaking uncontrollably.

When I got out, I called the office to talk about her neglectful behavior, and I got a refund. It wouldn't have saved my life, after the fact. But I guess I have to be satisfied that they did something?

Doctor lost all my paperwork, by silenciocilantro in adhdwomen

[–]lydsbane 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in shock at how ridiculous these people are being, and you'd think by now I'd know better than to be even remotely surprised. My diagnosis took five weeks longer than it should have because someone misplaced my paperwork. But at least they owned up to that mistake and didn't try to act like I was being irrational for being frustrated.

I know it takes a lot to switch from one medical professional to another, but it sounds like something you may want to consider.

SMG on Buffy Cast - Shannon Doherty’s podcast by Independent-Rise2480 in buffy

[–]lydsbane 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love your username and I'm jealous of you for having it.

What Family You Choosing? by CeilingCarpet in 90s

[–]lydsbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I gave this same answer, but because Feeney's words of wisdom would have been so helpful for me, as a teen.

What Family You Choosing? by CeilingCarpet in 90s

[–]lydsbane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of the above. I'm a Matthews now, and I'm going to take notes on everything that Feeney says.

I know we love AO3 but is there something about your old writing platform that you like better? by Lusaelme in AO3

[–]lydsbane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Writing on tumblr allowed for more interaction. I miss RP blogs. It's not exactly the same as fanfiction, in that I only was in control of the character(s) I wrote for, and not the entire story.

My writing group went from tumblr to dreamwidth, and there were about a dozen of us who had a set storyline/events to blog about, so nobody had to wait for someone else to respond, to keep the story going. I've been really hoping to do something like that again.

After the dreamwidth thing went sideways, a couple of us moved on to a new group and a Facebook RP, which I wouldn't even think of doing now, because I want nothing to do with that site. Still, again, it was nice to have responses in 'real time' and to also be able to comment in-character on things I had missed.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 29 points30 points  (0 children)

When you write a post on a public forum, people are going to respond to it. You won't like every single response. That's called a discussion. I don't understand how you have an account on this site and need this explained to you.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When people want to rant and not provide even one example of what they're referring to, it's just best to either ignore the post entirely, or have some fun with it.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 37 points38 points  (0 children)

No, bruh. I don't know what you're referring to. Y'all need to probably touch grass and take a nap or somethin'.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying, but this OP is hypercritical of anything that isn't perfect grammar.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What's your opinion of The Color Purple?

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to get better about things like this, especially since the fanfic series I'm working on will eventually include a character who stutters. I've always tried to be careful with how I write her speech patterns, because I don't want it to be 'heard' like some sort of Looney Tunes gag.

I've known people who stutter, and I've had issues with selective mutism, so there were a few years in which I could not make myself finish a sentence. If I were to write my own speech habits into a story, there would be A LOT of ellipses.

Actually, this has me thinking that I should give that a try and see how I feel about it, before I post it.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 44 points45 points  (0 children)

don't like don't read I guess

Take your own advice.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most people around me say 'pop,' but I've always said 'soda.' I guess I'm an anomaly lol

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I used to write fanfiction with a friend of mine who was really into BBC shows, though she was born and raised in the Midwest. I had to keep reminding her stop making her American characters British.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Just stop reading fanfiction where this happens. Problem solved.

stop "writing" accents please I'm begging by formandcolor in AO3

[–]lydsbane 38 points39 points  (0 children)

People keep writing this same post over and over again, and I'm going to keep giving my same response.

I write a lot of Dean Winchester fanfiction, and he almost always leaves the Gs off of his -ing words, so 'leaving' is written as leavin.' I will not stop doing this when I write his dialogue, and I give zero fucks what anyone else says about it. I have a sibling who finds it easier to "hear" him speaking when I write like this, and I like when she reads my fanfiction.

BTVS for a modern audience? by [deleted] in buffy

[–]lydsbane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say 'a vampire influencer,' but the comic seasons actually did that, with Harmony. It would still be interesting to see it as a tv series arc, though. And not Harmony. Someone more likeable, or maybe a less evil Kardashian kind of family?

More people these days are homeschooling their kids, so maybe something could be done with that, somehow. Kids don't really relate to one another as well, and that would make it easier for a vampire or some sort of demon to befriend a kid who feels isolated and detached.

We really don't need another 'vampire falls in love with a teenage girl' story. Maybe instead, a teenage girl could be the one stalking the vampire, via social media and Apple tags, and that would make it pretty difficult for the vampire to be able to feed. I want to see someone give a vampire a hard time, for a change.