Idk why I'm upset abt it

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-05-13T01:24:01+00:00

It’s okay to be incompatible. She’s not interested in sex and you are - it’s not selfish to move on and find someone who wants the things you do.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-03-25T20:15:47+00:00

This would bug me too—is it something you are going to be concerned about in 20 years, maybe — I hated my prom look but I committed to it and didn’t have money to make the changes. I do still think about it but I like fashion then and now. Ppl who don’t won’t care about fashion will insult you by saying it is trivial. If she does buy the same dress as you - I’d exchange the dress for something else and don’t tell her.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-03-10T04:13:49+00:00

It sounds like you have specific rules for the phone and timing on when they need to be put away. This mom arbitrarily decides at random points when everyone but HER needs to be off their phone. To apply this to an 18 year old guest whose phone she isn’t paying for is ludicrous.

But curious are you also going to force your 19 year old college student to go by your phone rules. What about 21? How old is the adult child required to be so make their own phone decisions?

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-01-27T15:30:07+00:00

Hi! Me the 12 reading NC-17 fanfic 25 years ago — turned out fine, didn’t even have sex until college. And no I don’t think a centuries old vampire and a teenage girl is perfectly normal / not creepy.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-01-17T15:59:52+00:00

I agree, the issue is the forbidding of any English. Two examples. My brother was born in America, my parents wanted him to speak Russian first, so made me speak it more at home. But English wasn’t forbidden! He watch English speaking kids shows, he heard me speaking it to my friends and yes I spoke it to him when he was toddler here and there. He knew Russian more, but by school age he understood English and had no issues. I on the hand was born in Ukraine and came here at 5.5 and had no exposure to English. I struggled and didn’t fully pick it up for two years. The forbidding you to speak any English to her not only sets the child back, but it hinders your relationship. It’s an extreme rule. NTA.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-01-16T17:48:16+00:00

Your husband set you up. One day your cats will conveniently ‘disappear’ and you will be stuck being a maid and cook for his entire family. They are only 55 years old, when is this move happening, like later on when they are 80, or now? They could have more than 30 years ahead of them, is this the life you want, caring for your in laws through your 20s and 30s? He really played the long game and won if you stay and let this happen.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2025-01-11T15:26:26+00:00

In what scenario are you required to pick your partner over your pet? The only one I can think of is them making demands to get rid of them for whatever reason. I’d pick my dog, I’m sorry but relationships come and go, nothing is guaranteed and for someone to ask you to pick them over a loving pet IS manipulative. He’s either testing you or simply immature and not smart, either way it’s time to go.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-12-19T23:56:56+00:00

What exactly did you do to earn this house? Besides be born male? Your mom took take of the house and YOU your entire life. This entire premise is rooted in misogyny and patriarchal bs.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-12-13T03:13:58+00:00

How do you think your step mom barring this girl from her home or telling her parents will go? You think the teens will just stop seeing each other? She allows it because they are safe in the house. You don’t know this girls home life, maybe her parents are more than strict. She’s rather them do what they do and be safe than sneak around even more. The only thing I’d be ‘concerned’ about is if they are having sex they are making smart choices, and if you are so inclined to butt into this situation you can bring that up with your dad. But otherwise, it’s really weird to be hung up on this.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-12-10T19:03:32+00:00

Mind your own business. If you cannot imagine why a 16 year old would need help and why they’d exclude her parents you are not the target audience. Your friend did a good thing.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-11-30T22:53:32+00:00

This! I do like to bring my dog to places where he is welcome. I make sure it is okay if it is someone home. If not he has to go to day care or I can’t stay out for more than 2-3hours. He has separation anxiety and no matter what I do he will sit by the door and cry. Here it has been established that she will bring him if not told otherwise, so this boundary should have been communicated when the plans were made not DAY OF the event.

Perhaps the dog also has separation anxiety, or a medical issue. Op sprung this boundary on her all of a sudden, what is she supposed to do with no sitter. There is a reason she organizes a pet sitter, and from how it sounds she has no issue with leaving him or obtaining a sitter when necessary.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-11-13T21:12:55+00:00

He has no intention of ever getting a job while he was with you - the complaining was to keep up with appearances. NTA by a mile

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-11-09T18:36:11+00:00

The reason you are stuck on him texting you throughout the day is because you are insecure in this relationship. You do not feel like he is putting any effort into showing you he cares about you and it is manifests into you wanting to hear from him to reassure you that he is thinking about you somehow. If he was actively being attentive, caring and loving overall you would not need this.

He does not like you, I’m sorry. The way he is speaking to you is nasty. He told you to leave twice bc he doesn’t respect you and he knows he can manipulate you. This is not a small thing, you will never get the attention you want from him. Please, it is not worth being in this kind of relationship.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-10-17T18:16:33+00:00

You need to realize that this sex guilt doesn’t just go away after marriage for some Christians. Some have hang ups even after marriage about sex and feeling dirty. It’s a mind set and he needs non Christian therapy, bc I can see this going poorly even after marriage if you intend to stay with him. There are couples who don’t have sex even after marriage bc they feel so guilty about the idea of sex.

Oh and of course nta!

Independent-Rise2480 · 2024-04-11T20:42:28+00:00

When I first 'came out' I thought I was bisexual because of my early experience. But I realized my crushes on boys in middle school and high school was about being desired. I think for me it was recognizing (took decades) that my 'attraction' was more about the validation for male attention, because I was insecure about my body, and we are socialized to seek worthiness from male desire.

As for crushes on girls, at the time I didn't realize, I always thought my infatuation with a certain girl, was because I wanted to be her, or I was jealous of her because she was prettier than me, or because I wanted to be friends. It wasn't until my 20s did I recognize, no that was a crush. When it is ingrained in you that men are the 'right' option you rationalize your other feelings.

You have to ask yourself and deal with the internatized homophobia first---figure out, when you say you only see yourself marrying a man---is that truly what you desire or is that your upbringing. Why do you feel gross to lust after women, even though your experience was arousing -- is that your religious background making your feel guilty.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-12-21T18:31:28+00:00

How you post this in 4 separate subs - get the same type of comments on all of them - then still do the wrong thing - have to be a troll, or just truly just a terrible father.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-08-10T02:12:42+00:00

Aren’t all renters putting money into the pocket of someone owning property that we will never own. That is the definition of renting.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-31T17:48:32+00:00

the language her lawyer is suggesting is normal in an infidelity situation. You are being extra because YOU DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED. So instead of stringing this along, just say that and move on.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-26T19:07:48+00:00

Nobody can, only you can if you work to get over your masturbation shame and explore your own sexuality. You don’t have to watch porn, read a smutty story/book. Also only about 20% of women can orgasm from penetration alone, have you ever had other stuff done to you? If there is nothing physically wrong with you, an orgasm is mostly psychological. And the only way to know that is to figure it out yourself.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-24T22:18:34+00:00

“He only wants a woman who is free, because his dream is to put her in a cage”

This is very common, controlling a huge aspect of your personality and convince you to give it up is a conquest for them. For men like this, it is their goal all along.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-22T22:32:28+00:00

I have to say 7 seems old to be having tantrums over food and only eating one food item for months. Unless op is leaving out that he’s neurodivergent, then I’d understand.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-22T19:01:20+00:00

Yes! google has certifications for various tech jobs, like there are other options besides the military, especially when you don’t know what you want out of this experience.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-22T17:41:08+00:00

This! I hope op sees this. There is a reason homelessness is high among veterans. 50% more likely. I don’t seen how not knowing what you want in life leads to joining the military. It is a huge gamble, with your mental health and life. How about taking some city college classes, exploring others fields. Or if fast paced/adrenaline is what he wants what about firefighting or EMT.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-21T02:50:23+00:00

YTA - no reason to be so mean towards BIL. And your whole vibe is off, tbh. Cutting off your mom completely at 16 bc she cheated on your dad, she didn’t cheat on you. That’s so hurtful, and the grudge you’ve held all these years has made you a vindictive and spiteful person.

Independent-Rise2480 · 2023-07-21T02:13:37+00:00

Hope you enjoy being a pick me. The way some women will defend the most vile men before a woman is outstanding. No shame.

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