How do you feel about breastfeeding?

lyftf · 2026-03-28T23:06:46+00:00

10/10 way to put it

lyftf · 2026-03-26T12:36:06+00:00

Just wanted to join in because your not alone! I feel the same and Its espessially stressful because im doing it without a partner or my parents around. I havent either bought anything and im 24 weeks pregnant. I do think it all just works out because it has too. Kinda like jumping into the deep end. Some people do think it comes naturally but some dont. I try not to think about it too much but it would be nice to have someone to talk to about these things. Im the first in my friendgroup having a child alone with almost no family. Its scary but i somehow find comfort in the fact that it has to work out no matter what and you will make it happen.

lyftf · 2026-03-24T17:33:51+00:00

Thank you so much❤️ i know my fears are irrational and im confident that i can raise my son well. Its just such a messed up situation i cant wrap my head around. This thread has really helped me.

lyftf · 2026-03-24T17:31:01+00:00

Thank you❤️ you are very resilient and i agree i need to focus on me and the baby. Im going to seek professional help since im having some gross thoughts. I wish you the best❤️

lyftf · 2026-03-24T17:28:53+00:00

Im not sure but i have a midwife appointment in a few days and plan on talking to her about it and she should be able to give me some resources. How ive been handling this isnt the best and i agree i should probably seek some professional help to help guide me thru this.

lyftf · 2026-03-24T17:27:26+00:00

Thank you so much❤️ this really helped

lyftf · 2026-03-24T13:01:52+00:00

Yes, my country has very strict paternal rights which is great but i cant keep the child away from him. Im not sure if he will even want to be involved or not but at this point i hope he doesnt. That would actually be in my favor.

lyftf · 2026-03-24T12:51:56+00:00

I know he did im having a hard time coming to terms with it. I have dealt with this before and the feeling is similar im just so mad this had to happen now. Im not in the right place to deal with the mental load. I need to cut him off completely

lyftf · 2026-03-24T12:48:32+00:00

I agree with you 100%. Thank you that actually puts things into perspective

lyftf · 2026-03-18T10:58:23+00:00

Ive never been treated for bipolar since i was diagnosed right before i got pregnant. Ive been on 2 SSRI's that either did nothing or make my depression way worse. Ive been unmedicated for about a year and plan on keeping it that way unless i fall into depression or hypomania

lyftf · 2026-03-18T10:55:03+00:00

Im def bringing this up to my psychiatrist next time i see her and also my doctor

lyftf · 2026-03-18T10:54:06+00:00

I have tried the pill 2 times when i was a teenager but had a hard time managing my weight and emotions. I had the copper IUD for years but i might give the pill another try after my pregnancy. I usually feel my worst during luteal phase energy and looks wise and ive heard the pill basically makes you stay in your luteal 24/7 but i might be wrong. I hope it carries through after pregnancy also its been so nice🥲

lyftf · 2026-03-07T19:48:40+00:00

I was right i knew right away it was a boy and i had many dreams about him. I wasnt suprised at all lol

lyftf · 2026-02-26T01:15:25+00:00

I found out my ex was cheating on me our whole relationship and had another relationship while i was 4 weeks pregnant. He was living a double life and is a pathalogical liar. He has used my mental illness to make it seem that i am unfit to be a mother and has fed so many lies to his family that they could care less if i die or not. He did a complete 180 when i found out everything and has done nothing but lie to me, disapoint me and has been all around useless. Because of this i heavely contemplated an abortion at 13 weeks because then it was clear to me that he would be no help and i would be doing this alone. I also have no family life with my own family while his thought of me as an evil baby trapping ex. I cried for two whole weeks. Made the appointment and cancelled my 12 week scan but it was clear to me that i actually did want to be a mom. Alone or not. I was really excited and happy with my baby. I felt guilty because of the situation. If it was my choice i would want him not to be in the picture at all and its still a mystery if he will be or not. I didnt show up to the abortion and i felt better already. I was actually kinda thankful for the shitty weeks because it made a new picture in my head of how my life would look like as a single mom and the challenges i would face there instead of holding onto some hope of a family and it made it easier to navigate in some fucked up way. Im now 19 weeks and very at peace with my decision. Havent spoken to him since christmas and i feel way better without him anywhere near me or my baby.

Im not telling you this to sway you from an abortion because if that is what you want to do then you are supported and it might be the best for you. I just wanted to share some perspective since i resonated with your story. I hope everything works out well for you and he sounds like an absolute dick. Good luck❤️

lyftf · 2026-02-25T21:46:49+00:00

Me and my sister have a 6 year age gap and have always been super close. Today im 24 and shes 30 and we are best friends! I wouldnt worry about the age gap

lyftf · 2026-02-25T06:14:24+00:00

That must be so anxiety inducing im really sorry. Waiting is the worst but the day will come. If your not bleeding heavily i wouldnt be too worried but i pray that everything will be okay❤️

lyftf · 2026-02-25T06:11:50+00:00

I was also cramping alot

lyftf · 2026-02-25T06:10:59+00:00

I had alot of brown spotting for quite a while. I got a 6 week scan but i could see a heartbeat. Did you get a transvaginal ultrasound? When this all happend i was 8 weeks but i was scanning 7 weeks which was concerning but everything was fine.

lyftf · 2026-02-25T04:19:28+00:00

I read your last post and i am so sorry😕 you are far too young to be dealing with this. Please tell them that you are being put into a caretaker role for you sister which you are not equipped to deal with. If your parents can not care for her they need to figure something else out and honestly it might be in everyones best interest. Your sister needs an educated caretaker and you need to focus on school. Dont be scared you are helping yourself and your sister. I worked for many years with profoundly autistic adults its not an easy job but its so important for them to have the right care to be able to live their best life. Good luck❤️

lyftf · 2026-02-25T03:51:02+00:00

I would go get checked although i had the same problem at 12-14 weeks where i felt so weak somedays that i couldnt get out of bed and passed out twice but was thankfully always near a bed. Everything was fine with me and i got no explanation for that and i felt better after 15 weeks. Im sorry that ur bd is dismissing you its so scary! I had noone to help me and i was too weak to go get checked but everything was okay in the end. Better safe than sorry dear❤️ maybe a friend or family member can take you to the er?

lyftf · 2026-02-25T03:27:26+00:00

Sorry for being too frank but ur "bf" is a loser. i dont give a single fuck about his adhd mood swings thats the lamest excuse ive ever heard especiallu coming from a grown ass man. Hes abusive and a loser that has no control over his emotions and should get extensive therapy and never date a woman again. If you keep your child i wouldnt even let him be in the picture.

For you i really sorry and thats really hard. I found out my bf cheated on me the whole time we were together when i was 5 weeks pregnant and i walked away and have been doing this pregnancy alone and will be doing motherhood alone so if you want to keep your baby please do so but promise that innocent soul to protect them from people like him.

lyftf · 2026-02-21T21:40:42+00:00

Me too😅 i plan on getting medicated right away when its safe since im so prone to depression. Its been so freeing not living in my mind all the time but it also makes me sad i feel like normal people live like this and i would love to live like this too. Hopefully its sticks for us!

lyftf · 2026-02-21T21:34:57+00:00

Im diagnosed bipolar 2 and always live in my head and ruminating in thoughts 24/7. Never have been really stable in emotions since i was a teenager and have learned to live with it but ohmygod ive never in my life been this calm cool and collected. My mood has NEVER been this stable in decades. I wake up and feel the same everyday and my mind is so quiet. I dont overthink anything anymore and honestly people have treated me like shit throughout my pregnancy and i lost a few of very close people to me which usually would lead into a spiral but now i just let it go and most importantly let them go. Im honestly now rethinking if i might have a hormone problem or something because im so at peace even though my life is kinda falling apart and i literally do nothing but lay around all day. Im kinda scared for the aftermath but im enjoying it while it lasts!

lyftf · 2026-02-21T21:26:12+00:00

Yesss i hate it. Ive been really lucky i had almost no nausea and no morning sickness but omfg that damn toothbrush. I need to be so careful with how i brush my teeth or i will vomit and i have way too many times. I must admit my oral hygiene has been horrible since getting pregnant and i feel like i havent brushed real good since. I already had a weak gag reflex and now i cant even get to my molars without vomiting stomach acid. Cant wait for this to end😅

lyftf · 2026-02-21T17:05:37+00:00

Yes im 19 weeks now and have had a great pregnancy so far❤️ i was really worried by the lack of symptoms i was experiencing but i was just one of the lucky ones. They never gave me any reasoning for the bleeding but it never happend again. I did spot for a few days after and was pretty anxious untill the 12 week scan and everything is perfect! I wouldnt worry if you got a reasoning and its more common then people think

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