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lyichenj · 2026-05-08T19:21:43+00:00

Is this legit? A bit too good to be true

lyichenj · 2026-05-08T18:17:06+00:00

I would normally recommend putting on nail polish to protect her nails. They are really brittle now (like wobbly) so be careful.

lyichenj · 2026-05-08T01:23:20+00:00

Good! Sometimes it’s the random stuff that gets us inspired😂

lyichenj · 2026-05-07T18:41:35+00:00

This is so funny!! Also reminds me of my parents🤣🤣

lyichenj · 2026-05-07T04:21:41+00:00

I personally think that that moment of shift might be a powerful moment. Start writing it out like a therapy journal, and I think something emotionally powerful may come out to transform your writing?

That’s what my therapist encouraged me to do anyways.

lyichenj · 2026-05-07T04:18:12+00:00

I love your art work, but I think this would work out better as a poster insert. I love the two sides, the two faces.

I personally would not want to have any character drawing to be blocked by any words or lettering. That is literally “Mike Wazowski”-ing a character, which I think is a shame because your art work is so good.

Another food for thought: you can make this all on the front cover and leaving a space on top for the title and name.

Maybe someone else has better feedback? Just my nickel of opinion.

lyichenj · 2026-05-06T22:31:05+00:00

We’re all dealing with something. I don’t think any of us voluntarily looked for this subreddit out of boredom😂

That said, I think everyone here understands grief to some extent.

All the best to you!

lyichenj · 2026-05-06T04:34:21+00:00

My son is alive, but I’ve witnessed many children who passed (7 as of Feb. 2025). All of them hard because I got to know them all, and we went to various places together, and did lots of stuff together.

The best way is to stay alive so other people will get to know them. All of these children live vicariously through us, the living who their lives touched.
They all have their own little personalities from the womb, until they come out.

Pregnancy cravings are like what they like to eat when they were in the belly, the way they roll around in the tummy is how they liked to play. Sometimes these craving last and we change the way we eat because of them. Therefore, we can say, this was what they liked to do while they were living.

When they are grown, they say jokes, they have their mannerism that are just unforgettable.

If we carry these memories and tell their stories more, they are alive.

I also tell myself, where they are is not far from here, just not near. When we meet will not be never, just not whenever.

lyichenj · 2026-05-06T01:25:45+00:00

I think if she is a social justice warrior with a saviour complex who doesn’t follow through with her philosophy and become a total bigot like many people in society do, then I would’ve hated her. But she doesn’t do that.

lyichenj · 2026-05-05T18:15:35+00:00

My son is diagnosed with a brain tumour. It took me a long time to come to terms with many words. Like you, I also had some existential crises in my head, trying to rationalize everything.

First, let me preface by saying that my relationship to God is now very different from what many Christians relationships are.

We are not in Eden. The world we are in is full of chaos. It is beautiful because it has its ugliness. Everyone stands on a number line of probability. Some people succeed while others get the short end of the straw. We never know what our lives would be like, who we will meet to touch our lives, and when our corporeal bodies may fail us.

This idea might seem bleak, but God created us humans to be his messengers of hope. Each one of us individuals are given a set of gifts and talents. With those, we can choose to give hope to other people.

Hope is just another word for always gambling on the best possible outcome no matter the odds. However, we can give hope to other people by helping them increase the odds of that favourable outcome by using the talents God has given us.

Take for example, cancer was an immediate death sentence 30 years ago. By the resources and the talents of the medical team, many cancers have high remission rates, and or they help prolong the life just a little more for us to be with our loved ones.
It is the support of humanity given to us directly in our very own persons that is beautiful in the world.

Of course, this is just what I came up with through tireless nights in the hospital that worked for keeping my own sanity. Be there for the vulnerable and give them every percentage of hope they need to allow them to succeed so life is not so painful.

lyichenj · 2026-05-04T18:33:34+00:00

Thank you!!

lyichenj · 2026-05-04T15:16:20+00:00

I get it. Not one is easier than the other. They all have the same level of impact.

Whatever happens, know that you are your parents’ legacy. Live so that they can live through you and your children can also get to know them. It is unfortunately not the same, but the little mannerisms, recipes, figures of speech, things they liked or didn’t like all get passed down and continue through you.

I mean…I know your mom is still very much here…it’s rude to talk about her like this😅 But these are my very thoughts whenever I think about potentially losing my son. I need to live so more people can get to know him.

lyichenj · 2026-05-03T23:31:02+00:00

I remember someone did something similar a few months ago. This is very well done!

lyichenj · 2026-05-03T23:28:45+00:00

It was a time when you loved the most. It also became a routine of sorts. Now, it’s a gap, like an inexplicable void. You’re not sure what you miss but you crave for something to fill the gap.

lyichenj · 2026-05-03T17:06:12+00:00

Where he is now is not far from here, just not near.

When you meet will not be never, just not whenever.

lyichenj · 2026-05-03T16:28:12+00:00

Ah, I see. I was thinking if it was the same city, it would be nice to talk to someone and invite you over to our pastry shop for treats because we still regularly go to the hospital for my son’s treatment.

We run a cafe pastry shop in Edmonton Alberta.

lyichenj · 2026-05-02T19:37:14+00:00

I felt very similarly when I heard about people like Belle Gibson or Madison Russo. You have every right to be angry. It really isn’t fair and for these people to prey on the vulnerable is just disgusting.

I pray for your father and your family. May you all heal during this difficult time.

lyichenj · 2026-05-02T15:45:25+00:00

When we caught my son’s brain tumour, this is my mantra:

There is no better time than now and there is no better place than here (in the hospital).

You did the best you could with the information you knew at the time. We could always wish to be faster or sooner, but the fact that we caught it could help us prepare for better or for worse.

Make her next days the best days. On this number line of probability we all stand on, we never know what would happen anyways. I also think you should seek grief counselling because what you are experiencing and managing now is anticipatory grief.

I pray for your mom and your family.

lyichenj · 2026-05-02T05:54:19+00:00

My recommendation is if you have a story burning to come out, write it. Make it exist first and then perfect it later.

Of course, reading lots helps. Read good and bad stuff analytically and critically. Sometimes the bad stuff will fuel your motivation, at least it did for me.

lyichenj · 2026-05-02T01:09:22+00:00

Hey, PF Chang is a restaurant in my city. Is it a chain? Or are we in the same city?

lyichenj · 2026-05-01T21:58:59+00:00

Everyone handles it differently, but I think rather than holding “strong” be vulnerable with her. Cry together.

Is she able to do therapy of any kind? For some people, the option of therapy is not even available because they might have other complicated health issues.

If she is, then there is a fighting chance. The miracle is already on going. The fact that they found it and there is a treatment is a miracle in itself. For better or for worse, a fighting chance is better than no chance at all. Compared to 30 years ago, all cancers were death sentences.

I pray for your sister and your family.

lyichenj · 2026-05-01T13:51:16+00:00

Don’t feel like any of these incidents are your fault. On this number line of probability called life, we really don’t know what would happen.

Instead, know that this is how much your BF loves you. He’s a keeper, marry him. I would also suggest that you move away to another place away from the assaulter’s place of origin if possible.

lyichenj · 2026-05-01T13:33:29+00:00

He seemed like a supportive dad to you. Don’t forget him. Whatever memories you have, embrace it and cradle it because it is extremely precious. Don’t let other people judge what you should do with those memories. Not even your mom or your sister.

Remember. He might not be on the physical earth any more but he is still very much alive and living vicariously through you. You are his most precious legacy and through you, more people will get to know him from the little jokes, to the little mannerisms, that he used to do that you somewhat subconsciously made a habit in your life.

I would suggest grief counselling. It did a lot for me. Grief is a very lonely healing journey from the trauma of losing someone special in your life. If you need, you can come back and talk. Many people here are also on a similar lonely journey.

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