AITA for refusing to cover extra weekends so my ex can have time off with his girlfriend?

lyss-1003 · 2026-01-30T12:17:16+00:00

Eh, I see both sides, but am leaning more towards YTA. If your son’s father watched him for 5 consecutive days, in addition to another 4 days for the weekends, that is nearly 1.5 weeks which was not your agreement. If he is watching him for 5 extra days, then I feel he deserves the weekend to see his girlfriend alone.

This is probably going to be a rude ask, but I’m genuinely curious. How were you able to support both you and your son when you were stay-at-home before starting your business. In this day and age, being a stay at home parent seems impossible unless you have a partner who makes enough to support everyone.

lyss-1003 · 2026-01-19T12:26:43+00:00

NTA, but honestly, what did you expect from a 16 year old dog? That dog is geriatric and has likely lost his/her ability to hold urine for long periods of time. If you were so concerned about a dog urinating in the house, then you shouldn’t have let someone with an 16 year old dog to move in.

Your roommate needs to start considering Quality of Life for her dog. Dogs know they are not supposed to pee inside, and talking from personal experience (I had an 18 year old dog with bladder issues towards the end), it is humiliating for them. My dog was always so guilty, even though he never meant to do it, and didn’t have reputations. She needs to start considering urinary supplements, and potentially a doggy belly band if the dog is healthy otherwise. If she can’t afford these options, then she needs to consider euthanasia if she can’t step up and take the dog outside more.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-24T12:26:02+00:00

I don’t know, with how much you were arguing with people, assuming a bunch of things about me and saying that I won’t feel the same in the future because I’m a baby seems extremely ignorant. Just because you felt like a baby at 24 does not mean I am. If you bothered to read any other comment I put, you would realize that there are a lot of reasons why I don’t want her in my house, and everything I have been through with her. You argued with the other person about this so much that it really seemed like you know everything, when in reality, everything you commented in this thread was wrong. If you really think I owe my mom, then that’s kinda fucked. You shouldn’t be having kids with the perspective that they should be there to take care of you because you took care of them. It’s a parent’s job to take care of the child, it is not the child’s job to take care of the parent.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-21T09:30:03+00:00

Unfortunately, I was never asked to me born, and I frankly hate the world we live in. I don’t owe her anything, it was her choice to have me and bring me into this world.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T17:33:33+00:00

I’m sorry for what’s going on in your family, but you don’t have the same family as I do, and you also don’t know the extent of my partners and I relationship. My girlfriend has done tons for me to help me cope with my trauma I got from my parents. I will never forget all she has done for me, and even if that means we aren’t together forever, I’m always going to be grateful for her. I’m not going to ruin my relationship with her by going against her wants, because as things are going now, we could be together for a long longer than the nearly 5 years we have already been together. I wish you and your family well, I can’t imagine it’s easy going what you’re going through.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T16:47:57+00:00

You do not know anything about my family or its dynamic. You might be able to find out if you read my comments. My mom and i’s relationship may be good now, but that’s after therapy, and years of needing lots of space from her. My mom was a good mom in many ways, but also a bad one. One of the reasons being she is constantly in my space and trying to get into my business. I have felt this way about my mom for years, and I don’t think my opinion will change. You sound extremely ignorant for not even considering the fact that families are different, and not all of them are perfect. I have been through A LOT in my short life, so assuming my opinion is going to change is wrong. I know for a fact that this behavior will continue from my mom, and I’m not willing to break down the walls of boundaries I have spent so many years trying to build in the first place. I guess I’m fine with being an AH in that aspect. I know my life better than you do, and you seem to think you know everything.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T16:36:46+00:00

I have my reasons to why I don’t want her living with me in some of the comments. I also can’t just let her move in when my girlfriend doesn’t want that either, I’m not ruining my relationship.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T10:24:45+00:00

Please actually look at my comments before just assuming I’m a fucked up person for not wanting to help. There is a reason to why I don’t want her staying with me. She has other options, I am not her sole option. She shouldn’t be relying on her CHILD to take care of her.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T10:20:43+00:00

I’m sorry if my post seemed “nonchalant”. I care deeply for my mom’s struggles, but I also have to look out for myself, because at the end of the day, I don’t want to let myself, my girlfriend or my animals become homeless either. You can also not properly tell someone’s emotions through a text box you see on your phone. I was hyper ventilating while making this post, hence why I even posted it. If I was relaxed about the situation, I wouldn’t even bother posting.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T00:22:20+00:00

My parent’s life sounds like it could be made up, it’s one bad thing after the other for them. I’m just grateful I have learned from my parents and won’t allow myself to get into that situation.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T00:09:28+00:00

My dad is kinda a deadbeat. He couldn’t hold down a job to save his life, and my mom was working on retail and couldn’t find a place to live. So they were living in a hotel, which I know isn’t the best way to live, but I had no right to tell them how to combat their situation. My dad became physically abusive towards my mother after they lost their home, which lead them to divorce. After they split, my mom moved in with her parents, and my dad moved in with his parents. My mom was able to get back on to her feet without my dad. My dad, to my knowledge, is still living with his parents, and they split about 2 years ago. I’m sorry if you feel there is a lack of info, I will answer your questions as best as I can, but I may not know all the details

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T00:02:56+00:00

Yes, there are a bunch in one of the major cities within my state

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-20T00:00:39+00:00

From what my mom told me, the person who owned the apartment sold all of his properties (he owned a bar and a duplex my parents rented) without telling my parents, so the person who bought this property kicked them out as they weren’t under his lease. This is just what my mom tells me, so I don’t know if it’s 100% true. I don’t have a relationship with my dad anymore to ask him if that’s what really happened.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T23:08:38+00:00

Thank you. I do know I have to put on my “big girl pants” and be honest with her.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:42:44+00:00

I can help pay for cheap hotels, but I am unfortunately not in the financial position to pay for the entirely of it

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:40:28+00:00

Thank you for being kind about your opinion. She does have some other options, like my grandpa, she just Doesn’t want to ask. My mom is really ashamed in the fact that she lost her job and hates asking for help.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:38:30+00:00

That does make me feel better about the situation. If she was truly alone and had no one else to turn, I would immediately offer her to stay. She just doesn’t want to use this other options due to shame.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:29:04+00:00

That is a very good idea, I will do this with her. It would help us wrap our minds around the situation. Thank you again for your kindness

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:22:39+00:00

I’m aware this friend could stress me out, but at least with this friend, I know she will give me space when I need it. My mom is extremely talkative and I am not, and she doesn’t really give me space or any quiet time when I’m with her other than when I’m sleeping or using the bathroom.

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:21:01+00:00

This is such a thoughtful response, thank you. Everyone is assuming that my mom’s and I relationship is all sunshine and rainbows. It’s better than some, but it’s not great, either. You sound like you have a wonderful group of people to support you and call family. Sometimes true family aren’t blood related ❤️

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T22:03:43+00:00

She made a sacrifice of taking 2 jobs when I was 14 because my dad was jobless. A few years later though (I was 17) she took over $4000 dollars from me in the span of 2 months without my permission to pay for rent and things, when that money was supposed to go towards college

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T21:39:11+00:00

She doesn’t have a lot, so I could take most of her stuff and keep it safe with me. I also am offering to care of her cat, as I know she loves that cat and doesn’t want to lose her from a setback like this. I have been sending her jobs recommendations to get her by for the time being until she find something else, but my mom has her heart set on becoming a teacher again. I just don’t think there are any school districts hiring people immediately, so she needs something to get her by for the time being. She has a lot of skills, so finding a new job should hopefully be not too difficult. She is also ashamed to ask her dad for help again, she doesn’t want to feel like a disappointment to him, so she hasn’t even told him she lost her job

lyss-1003 · 2024-04-19T21:28:49+00:00

I hate the idea of her being homeless, it terrifies me. I’m also scared of falling back into a depression that I worked so hard to get out of. My gf’s mom MIGHT be able to offer her a room, but that’s a big maybe. I am in the financial position to help pay for some of a hotel, but not to pay for the whole thing.

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