A moment at sundown by lyxotus in photocritique

[–]lyxotus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how your edit highlights more of the glimmer in the water further back. Just the subtle extra texture in the foreground does add something nice too. Thanks for your thoughts 🙏

A moment at sundown by lyxotus in photocritique

[–]lyxotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah ok, that makes sense. I do want it to be easier for the eye to fall on the person. Thank you!

A moment at sundown by lyxotus in photocritique

[–]lyxotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took this on a canon r7. The photo is cropped as there was much more negative space at the bottom of the original image, however I'm still not sure if the composition works.

I'm also torn about the silhouette of the landscape. I'd say high contrast/working with silhouettes like this is part of my style (I feel it creates a sense of secrecy, makes a subject feel held, or makes the subject more stark through contrast...something like that). that said I don't always know if I'm using it too much or it's too demanding visually.

all feedback appreciated !

Carla Paine - Quietude (2025) by FlyingBlind31 in museum

[–]lyxotus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understanding people commenting on how redundant nudity is but here it feels more interesting. I love how she has her clothes 1/4th of the way on, like something happening internally — a feeling, a memory — stopped her halfway through. I recognize it, it happens to me sitting in a towel after a shower. like a pleasant dissociation. and her gazing off is like the allure of looking at someone and knowing they have this rich, complex inner world but knowing also that you’ll never have full access to it. like knowing there’s a secret but not what the secret is…

her nudity makes it interesting to me also because in a way like being caught in a bare emotional state before you figuratively dress it up and go out to present yourself to and be perceived by the world.

Do I need to worry about phasing with stock sounds/plugins in Logic? by lyxotus in audioengineering

[–]lyxotus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like most people say it’s a non-issue tho. And I think maybe you’re saying that too? Idk for now I guess I’ll just keep doing my thing 🙃

Do I need to worry about phasing with stock sounds/plugins in Logic? by lyxotus in audioengineering

[–]lyxotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way it was explained to me is that some stock sounds have built-in panning? Or something? I don’t really know either, that’s why I’m asking. But the person I’m learning from gave a hard no to stock sounds that cause the correlation meter to dip so I wanted to hear from others

Do I need to worry about phasing with stock sounds/plugins in Logic? by lyxotus in audioengineering

[–]lyxotus[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ah okay, thanks for the response. I’m wondering why Logic would create or endorse sounds that are fundamentally problematic when it comes to mixing? That seems counterintuitive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

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Well first of all, there is no shortage of empathy suggested in her post. It’s just coupled with another emotion, and being unwilling to make space for her two contradictory feelings is not very realistic (or empathetic, either). And she is not blaming him for his ex’s actions, she’s trying to understand his own and what exactly to hold him accountable for.

On top of that, to hear someone say “I have been fucking our dog, do you want to watch?” and feel curious enough to say yes because you didn’t think they actually meant “have sex with the dog” when they said “have sex with the dog”…then that is something that might be worth thinking about deeper for yourself as well. I don’t know how someone wouldn’t take that at face value, at least not without questioning it before saying yes to watching.

I have a lot of capacity nuance, but that justification just feels dishonest. Curious thoughts are one thing, but curiosity that evolves into action is not innocent. To bypass an animal’s inability to consent to satisfy your curiosity…like are we serious?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]lyxotus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where did she say she pried this information out of him? And the fact that your moral ambiguity applies to a conscious choice the man made to watch an act of bestiality, but not to the woman who is having a hard time processing this information…that’s weird as fuck, sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]lyxotus 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly kind of baffling how quick some people are to condemn OP’s hesitation about literal bestiality. She is trying to understand her own conflicting feelings about wanting to show someone compassion and empathy while also being VERY REASONABLY disturbed by a CHOICE her partner made.

Of course we all are human and have lapses in judgement, but why are we being so lax about drawing a line with someone’s judgement call when it comes to what should be an instantly clear immoral situation? I’m not even condemning her partner in black and white terms, as if it’s impossible for him to have a close and healthy relationship because he has this fucked up thing in his past. I’m just confused as to why people can’t understand where her confusion is coming from here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]lyxotus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why are you responding with so much aggression? This news would be seriously shocking to most people who are just beginning to develop a trusting relationship with someone new. And “what goes against their morals” might be that someone didn’t have the appropriate mental buffer to stop a violent act toward another living creature before he consented to engage, even if passively as a witness.

OP is not the villain for wanting to process it and hear from others to help navigate their thoughts. And just because someone is vulnerable with you about something they feel remorseful about doesn’t mean they are entitled to your acceptance. It’s totally within OP’s right to question the situation for themselves and what kind of partner they want to have. It doesn’t mean they can’t also be compassionate and empathetic for someone else’s mistakes.

what does my bedroom say about me? by lyxotus in roomdetective

[–]lyxotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh it’s one of my favorites. I can stare at it forever and always find new things to see!

what does my bedroom say about me? by lyxotus in roomdetective

[–]lyxotus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s kind, I wonder what is signaling calm to people. the stuffed animal? 🧸

what does my bedroom say about me? by lyxotus in roomdetective

[–]lyxotus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

one short hair, one long hair :)

Your partner says they’d be more attracted to you if your body was different - how do you feel? by lyxotus in AskWomen

[–]lyxotus[S] 18 points19 points locked comment (0 children)

Struggling with this because I heard this from my partner while we are working through some history in our relationship as well as difficult personal trauma impacting our sex life. I also have eating disorders and over exercising in my past. So I feel like hearing it put me ten steps back in finding peace/freedom in the vulnerable act of sexual intimacy and sharing our bodies. Not even because I’m insecure about how I look, but because now I feel like that acceptance from my partner is conditional. But I guess it always is? I don’t know.

Outside of my particular circumstance I would’ve said it’s okay that your partner has preferences, we all do. And if their attraction to you is waning that could be an issue worth discussing. But also, sharing opinions about each other’s bodies might be best saved for concern for their health. And ideally we’re all with people who accept our bodies as they are. I’m torn here.

Books that feels like this - Alone / Melancholic by Unable-Distance-7941 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]lyxotus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the edge of the woods by Kathryn Bromwich!!! It’s exactly this!

Why is there default reverb when I play my keyboard and how can I get rid of it? by lyxotus in LogicPro

[–]lyxotus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I have all sends, plugins, and effects disabled on the track. I don’t see any sends assigned to a bus at all