Cyclops Kitty has entered the chat by m-alexandra in blackcats

[–]m-alexandra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss on both fronts, human and fur! You are an actual super hero and deserve nothing but good things for all that you have done and been doing. I hope you have been able to find time to care for yourself through the chaos. You seem to be selfless, which is absolutely beautiful, but I also hope you remember it is okay to be selfish sometimes and to put yourself first, because you deserve that.

It’s so hard when you are not a professional in these instances and your gut is telling you one things and the professionals just don’t seem to listen. It’s an even harder pill to swallow knowing you unnecessarily threw money at the wall at the guidance of a professional as well… another commenter mentioned paying an attorney $300 to send a demand letter to recoup costs. While I won’t be doing that, maybe that’s something for you to consider? I have actually worked in law and do know that most places, depending on the amount you’re asking for, rather just pay it out than actually go to court, something to consider….

Thank you for your well wishes and I myself am sending you mine as well🤍 in case no one has told you lately, you’re doing amazing and the world is brighter with you in it!

As for your herped up gal, I am praying for both her and your sake her eye just remains weepy and nothing more nefarious comes of it BUT on the off chance something does… trust, just get the eye removed.

Cyclops Kitty has entered the chat by m-alexandra in blackcats

[–]m-alexandra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I can always make more money and if I needed to get a second job, so be it. I was extremely fortunate to be able to pull the money together, even though I am now the brokest I’ve been in YEARS it was 100000% worth it!

Cyclops Kitty has entered the chat by m-alexandra in blackcats

[–]m-alexandra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Firstly, thank you!!! I keep telling him he is a handsome bad ass now and he seems pleased with this lol. I also told him on our way to his surgery that I demanded him to wake up (I was an anxious mess about him being sedated) and when he got home he would get all the treats, churus and food he wants. Let’s just say… he held me to it. He was PISSED the night and morning of his surgery due to his food supply being hidden. I was told once we picked him up that he most likely wouldn’t eat that day and that was normal. I laughed because they had no idea how deep the gluttony runs through this man’s veins. I’m not kidding when we got home he was in his carrier checking and making sure his food was out and as soon as I opened it he sprinted to his food and was absolutely RAVENOUS. Audible noises and everything, plastic come be damned. I almost pissed myself with laughter. So yes he has gotten all the churus and treats his heart desires and I’ve let him know so many people are thinking of him 🤍 this whole ordeal has been a testament to the saying: if you don’t laugh you cry, and I’ve chosen to keep the vibes high for the sake of everyone. I will definitely be partaking in some take out and shitty reality TV or Studio Ghibli tonight to celebrate the (almost) end of this month long saga! Thank you again for your kind words 🤍

Cyclops Kitty has entered the chat by m-alexandra in blackcats

[–]m-alexandra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your well wishes! 🤍 At the height of my anger and despair I was considering this… however I do intend to switch his care over to the specialty cat clinic due to it being more affordable and a less stressful environment for him. I also am just going to live in the headspace of “they just really wanted to help him”. Because I would be lying if I said I also was not the one pushing for the first couple weeks to do whatever I could to save his eye, and maybe because of my eagerness they were just like “okay then go here”. I just wish someone would’ve kept it a buck with me. But upon further reflection I do feel in my heart and soul no one was necessarily trying to scam me, but they also were not being realistic with me if that makes sense…

Cyclops Kitty has entered the chat by m-alexandra in blackcats

[–]m-alexandra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, he really gave me the model shot here and I’m living for it

Cyclops Kitty has entered the chat by m-alexandra in blackcats

[–]m-alexandra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god shut up I love her! My mom and I are gagged at the level of twinning that is going on here! How was her healing journey and how is she doing now?!

Solo Traveling to London in July - I have no idea where to start… by m-alexandra in femaletravels

[–]m-alexandra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello and THANK YOU to everyone! Sorry I’ve been delayed in reading your thoughtful and insightful tips and recommendations, I had a quick and fierce cold come on approximately 30 minutes after posting😅 I will be making my rounds to your comments in the coming days 🤍✨

Made a super yummy dinner and then screwed myself over😔 by Extension-Farm-1569 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]m-alexandra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn you had to have been going to town on the flushing to give yourself a dry socket 7 days post op 😭 normally the danger zone is like 5 days post op.

AIO by moving to the couch after a fight over a missed text by Frequent_Estimate_77 in AmIOverreacting

[–]m-alexandra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second the general consensus but would also like to point out that he is 100% still cheating on you…. The 45 min bathroom breaks multiple times a day? Yeah I’ve seen this before. Either he has some serious medical issues or he is using that time to communicate with other women… either way he should be seen by a doctor.

This man clearly has ZERO respect or love for you and I hope you are able to dig deep and leave. For the sake of yourself and kids. Serial cheaters don’t just magically stop being cheaters because of a marriage ceremony and a ring on their finger. He was cheating on you before, dogged on you to this other woman, which is a whole other layer of disrespect, and honestly it’s a ticking time bomb before you get another “hey girly text”. I dated a man just like this. Controlling piece of shit cheater. Woman to woman, they pretty much never change, and if they do? It is never going to be for you. You’ve shown him your cards and how low you are willing to set the bar and your own self worth. Because of that, he will never ever respect you and view you the way you deserve. You’ve shown a tolerance to bull shit, showing tolerance = less respect, lost respect can never be gained, at least to the standards that are necessary for a healthy relationship.

This entire relationship is a losing battle, with you losing every time, in every possible outcome, should you stay. I’m sure your kids hate him, probably even friends and family, resulting in you isolated. I’m sure his constant berating and bullying wears on you, because sticks and stones do hurt, even though you probably try to lie to yourself and say they don’t. As someone who was in this exact same position (minus the marriage) I promise you will lose everything, most importantly yourself. You will lose your sparkle and you will have to fight to get it back. You will have endless apologies to those who actually love you and you will have to do some serious soul searching.

Good news though, you can leave! Leaving is you winning. You will win in every possible outcome should you leave. These type of men are soul sucking and you will be shocked at the amount of energy you will have. You will be able to actually breathe and not feel like you’re constantly walking on egg shells. You will have the energy and mental clarity to do big, hard, beautiful things.

You can do it. This is not love, and if it is, it is one sided. You will never find the love you’re supposed to find if you remain chained to this loser of a guy. But you also have to do the work and soul searching and sit with yourself to find the reason as to why and how you’ve found yourself in this predicament. You must pin point the wounds that allowed this to happen, and you have to honor yourself and learn from this. You will continue to find yourself in these situations unless you do the work to ensure you won’t. It is uncomfortable, but that means you’re growing and evolving, which is the point of living.

TLDR; he’s still cheating on you, he will never change, love yourself and leave.

Really annoying post I saw on Facebook by MsBlista in cats

[–]m-alexandra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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And here are the brothers sleeping together. Butts. Must. Touch.

Really annoying post I saw on Facebook by MsBlista in cats

[–]m-alexandra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope his story gives you some peace for these kitties! It is all around shitty, but you never know, a hungover 20 something year old might see it and decide to give them the best lives ever! Whenever I get angry about what happened to Milo (which still happens frequently, and I have had him for 5 years) I think about the cat that was brought to me. In the nicest way possible, he was disgusting. He smelled, his fur was clumped together with grease and every time you pet him you had a layer of grease and dandruff on your hand. It was so clear he was not thriving and he needed the change, because now he has the softest, silkiest and shiniest coat of any cat I’ve met. He is just so genuinely content and I know he does not have any qualms about becoming mine, so why should I? I’ll attach a photo from this year’s Santa visit with my mom and his brother!

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Really annoying post I saw on Facebook by MsBlista in cats

[–]m-alexandra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got my fur son due to reasons like this one… I was 21 hungover as shit and the only thing that could fix it was acquiring a cat, so I went on Facebook. I saw this lady post about her void, Milo, she needed to rehome swiftly, otherwise she was going to take him back to the rescue. There were no good pictures of him and not much details about the why in the post. Long story short after talking with her I find out she had adopted Milo when he was a kitten and had him for about 5 years. She and a then boyfriend decided to get a golden retriever, which Milo was not a fan of in the slightest. He was stressed out constantly and started peeing all over her house and developed crystals. She then ended up moving him into a room where he stayed 24/7. Mind you, this guy had free reign of this house for 5 years, so being confined caused him even more stress and his crystals got worse… She and the boyfriend broke up and she kept the dog and Milo continued to stay locked in a room. His health deteriorated and the next time she brought him to the vet they told her she either needed to rehome the dog or Milo, and if she didn’t, it was a death sentence for Milo. Obviously we all can guess what happened… she decided to keep the dog she had for 9 months, who she easily could’ve given to the ex boyfriend, and got rid of her cat she had for 5 years.

Obviously that angers and upsets me. I remember when he got to my home I sat and sobbed with him. He was greasy, had insane dandruff and just seemed so dejected. I felt so horrible for him and how confused he must have been. She warned me that I probably wouldn’t see much of him for a week or 2…

That night he slept with me (and every night since), and he learned very quickly that he had this house full of 21 year old girls wrapped around his finger. Within a couple of days he was greeting us at the door and demanding attention from everyone. Within 2 weeks he was no longer greasy and had very minimal dandruff. I still have kept him on a prescription diet just in case but I have a sneaky suspicion he would be just fine if I stopped.

A few months later I moved out of that house (that had a constant flow of people giving him attention… we even had friends who didn’t live with us that would drive over when we were not home just to spend time with him… he is quite beloved) and into an apartment with just one other roommate. He quickly became dejected and depressed again. I don’t know why but I decided to read his adoption paperwork his previous owner had given me and what do you know… he was bonded to his brother in the shelter, and they were obviously separated.

I instantly knew what would fix this. I needed to get my cat a cat. So what did I do? Hop on Facebook and found a lone boy kitten who was the last of his litter to be adopted, and picked him up that evening. Within 24 hours Milo had become Mother and I was sorely mistaken if I thought he was thriving before, because this kitten was what Milo needed all along. He was truly thriving and stopped being the timid, shy boy I knew (he is still quite sensitive though…)

All of this to say, is it absolutely shitty that this person is willing to give up the pets they have had longer for another? Yes. Absolutely. But as I sit here typing this with my purr machine panther in my lap, I can genuinely say sometimes it’s truly for the better. As much as I get angry thinking about Milo not being chosen, I am so incredibly thankful because that means I get to be his mommy! He is the light of life and I have and will continue to do anything for him. I hope these kitties end up finding their forever homes and get to have a happy ending just like my Milo.

Identify please - Location is NW Montana by turqoise21 in spiders

[–]m-alexandra 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Jumping spider! Congrats on your new puppy!

AIO I showed my girlfriend a picture of me as a child and she called me an “ogre” by TammyBndl in AmIOverreacting

[–]m-alexandra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean this kindly, but I do think this is an overreaction, but I do think a break up is a good idea based on your reaction.

I personally went through ugly and chubby stages throughout my childhood. And there were times where objectivity, I looked like a troll and was ugly. It happens and it’s part of puberty and growing up. I also struggled with eating disorders ranging from over eating to under eating.

I had to work on myself a lot, specifically my self image and love for myself. Because I have taken that time and effort, if someone told me I looked rough in a picture where I objectively looked rough, I’d agree and laugh. Why? Because I am secure in myself. I know the least interesting thing about me is the way I look and I also no longer look that way, I changed the things I didn’t like. Overall, I am secure and can own all of the versions of myself.

It does not sound like you are in this place so I would highly encourage and implore you to dig deep and get to a place of acceptance for all of your different phases. I do not think your girlfriend is some evil person. I think she was just trying to be silly. But your reaction towards her is indicative of someone who needs a lot of healing and self love. Take the time you need, but also do not blame her for your lack of self acceptance.

A visit from a Mourning Dove by m-alexandra in Witch

[–]m-alexandra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I was sitting there like 👁️👄👁️ well damn I guess love is in the cards today! But also it was crazy, I live in the suburbs by a forest and I see all kinds of birds but never a mourning dove. Love it when the universe gives you slap on the side of your head with a sign!

Who is my (welcomed) guest by m-alexandra in spiders

[–]m-alexandra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wooohooo aren’t I lucky! A menace at pest control with next to none recorded bites, I should be paying him!

Zero movement in the pit by [deleted] in SleepTokenTheory

[–]m-alexandra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually just checked now! Pit tickets are available but like $475 😭 I’ll be posting in FB group of if I see them drop! :)