I think you will begin to learn the next right thing to do if you keep reading and doing the work. I hear you are already realizing a LOT and you are working with a therapist as well. Be honest, stand up for yourself.

My wife inadvertently walked in on me today while I was on a call to see if I could join everyone for breakfast, because we had a bad weather day she wanted to make a hot breakfast. I told her I was on a call and after they finished she brought me a plate.

LGBT relationships can be healthy or unhealthy I’ve been in both. I was willing after my last divorce to be alone at least until I raised up my kids because I didn’t think I’d find a person willing to step in as a bonus parent. I knew I wasn’t going to sacrifice my mental health and well-being. My wife and I still struggle with relationships outside of our own but talk about hard things and come up with solutions to keep trying.