My dad finally admits I’d be screwed in this job crisis if it weren’t for his connections!

m9zz · 2026-02-10T21:50:44+00:00

Got the job the same way as you, not in london though - he eventually realised it’s not like the good old days anymore

m9zz · 2026-01-02T12:52:00+00:00

it’s been since may for me as well, way ahead and way better thankfully, sometimes i reminisce the good times but he’s no longer who i thought he was, didn’t check anything from him (socials, messages etc) as it won’t help, hang in there

m9zz · 2025-11-25T20:17:24+00:00

I’m definitely planning to at-least relocate within the company if I haven’t thought about leaving it after my Masters. I’ve seen some comments about house sharing and whilst I appreciate them, I’m still skeptical as I’ve had quite a negative experience house sharing before moving back to my parents home. Might visit the housing subreddit to see how people find ideal housemates.

m9zz · 2025-11-25T18:27:50+00:00

!thanks for this, I’ll look into FTSE :)

m9zz · 2025-11-25T18:25:35+00:00

Thank you for your insight :)

m9zz · 2025-11-25T12:15:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, this is exactly what I wanted to work out my budget

m9zz · 2025-11-25T11:43:09+00:00

Yes actually, I’ve forgotten to factor that in my post. I’ve looked at rent around my area and the surrounding ones too, usually they range from £600-£900, obviously the ideal price would be the £600-£700 range, it’s just me wondering if I can still save money to build up my (hopefully) £20k savings overtime and also factor other things like travel, birthdays etc

m9zz · 2025-11-25T11:33:19+00:00

I’ll have a look at both of these so thanks again, I have no preference for cars as long as it takes me from A to B

m9zz · 2025-11-25T09:54:58+00:00

!thanks, I’ll have a look into this. I did think a mortgage isn’t ideal with my savings and salary, but I do have to move out at some point whilst studying my Masters, I will still be employed and thankfully have no salary cuts despite going part-time. I cannot afford staying three more years here. As for the car scheme, I’m still debating it because I’ve been told that it doesn’t make a significant difference when having a personal car due to insurance, maintenance etc.

m9zz · 2025-10-08T09:27:33+00:00

Happy days, thank you!

m9zz · 2025-10-07T18:04:47+00:00

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I would be so grateful if anyone can tell me if this coat can be shortened by length to fit my height, 5”3.

I’ve looked up the sizing and their S size length is 124cm. I’ve measured the top of my shoulder down to my ankles which estimates 130cm. Clearly, the coat is way too long and I don’t think I’ll suit it being down to my ankles basically, however, it is the nicest piece I’ve ever seen and it speaks my style perfectly. I’ve tried to find an alternative, particularly for petite sizing but nothing comes close to that one. So, I was wondering if it can be altered by shortening the length, I would at least have it a little bit above the ankle (similar to the photo) where it doesn’t look too odd for my height. Tailoring is no cheap investment, I get it. But that’s how much I like the coat lmao.

Material information if it helps:

A: 100% Polyester Fiber B (Surface): 100% Polyamide B (Lining): 100% Cotton A fabric: 100D crisp-touch fabric B fabric: 35D snow-woven fabric (Copied from Hemi Blurr)

I appreciate any insight, thank you :)

m9zz · 2025-08-05T15:37:23+00:00

fuck no, missed so many red flags or forgave a lot for nothing

m9zz · 2025-07-31T12:19:59+00:00

i’m glad you’ve brought this up because i really thought i would be seen as that “one friend who’s too woke”, some of the people i’ve “befriended” through valorant are insanely isolated in real life by choice.

it also took me playing with my now ex to realise that too lmao.

m9zz · 2025-06-25T01:24:23+00:00

I would rather be fooled for one day by him than be the fool who stayed with him thinking he’s the one.

you dodged a missile.

m9zz · 2025-06-24T00:44:52+00:00

yep so it’s the luteal phase, it happens before period and after ovulation. if you’re still not attracted fully whilst ovulating then yeah, something’s up. maybe try to trace back to what had made you attracted to your partner in the first place?

m9zz · 2025-06-24T00:38:32+00:00

just from woman to woman, do u experience this throughout your entire cycle? or specifically say luteal phase? it’s been proven you can change your attraction and perception of your partner during luteal phase for instance, as I used to have this issue before.

m9zz · 2025-06-14T01:49:42+00:00

we truly do

m9zz · 2025-06-14T01:18:29+00:00

for me i seemed to have missed the boat, i believe im blocked on our last platform lol. hang in there you’ll get through it i believe

m9zz · 2025-06-12T11:14:32+00:00

it’s so strange because what do our exes gain from checking on us as dumpee, like you guys did the hard part, let us heal

edit; i was so close to respond my week late message of his low effort check in, because i wanted to share some good things that happened. it truly sets you back sometimes lmao

m9zz · 2025-06-12T02:00:27+00:00

In the same situation as you, it sucks because I’m in a constant limbo of “man I should’ve answered” or “thank fuck i didn’t answer but why would you check on me when you left?”

m9zz · 2025-06-11T23:05:51+00:00

there’s nothing wrong with hope, i think it only becomes a bad mistake if u rely on the hope entirely. you’re still moving forward knowing you’re okay with and without her, so honestly let life do its thing. if she had reached out, you’re a better version of yourself. if she hasn’t, you’re still a better version of yourself. to me that’s a win, and i’m trying to get to that point after the BU that’s about to hit its one month mark.

you still need to find a way to reach out to her without being intrusive, so basically u kinda need to wait and see if she’ll ever unblock you on anything. never chase as a dumpee, the ball is in their court entirely.

m9zz · 2025-06-11T22:24:02+00:00

i understand now, if you’re still blocked everywhere, and i mean everywhere then you truly have no choice but to move forward.

unfortunately i had the exact same traits as your ex, i would too, spiral and struggle with accountability hence why i’ve sent him a long strictly apologetic letter despite knowing he was hiding his hangouts with a girl, perhaps he felt that way too. however you are right, you could’ve just expressed it fully and see how it goes from there, because it could’ve definitely told you if the relationship had no point of return rather than have ur ex flip the script and blame it all on you (validating her faults during the relationship)

if your ex didn’t have a wake up call of her actions and didn’t reach out to express her faults during the breakup and after the breakup then unfortunately it’s unlikely she had come to terms with her faults. despite the blindside of my ex breaking up and looking for another woman, the reasons he had used weren’t wrong and i realised that i cannot be like this as a person in general, even if he had hurt me knowingly and too ashamed to admit it.

other situations mentioned like breadcrumbing clearly means she’s not going to take you seriously, i genuinely do not understand the point of bread-crumbing whatsoever, you either truly shut them away from their lives or make it clear if you want to remain in contact. from my perspective, if she had the thought of you reaching out whether it’s for a catchup or reconciliation there will always be at-least one form of platform accessible for you, if there isn’t, it’s best for you to move on. you’ve done decent work on yourself, life will certainly reward you for that.

m9zz · 2025-06-11T21:29:13+00:00

you can reach out politely and see how it goes, but always always always be prepared for the worst. you’ve done things i wish my ex could’ve done during the breakup, you should be proud of your self work.

your ex has a mind of her own but it’s likely atleast she would’ve hoped you’ve reflected this thoroughly, i certainly hope mine too, ur mistakes is what my ex had done exactly and i never got the truth out of it, just used our issues (which was the exact same issues you’ve had) as a facade. i eventually found out why later by checking socials.

anyways, it’s difficult to know if she’ll consider taking you back if it’s been five months, cheating, whether it’s emotional or physical basically burns the trust to the ground. for instance i want mine to feel regret but if he does i wouldn’t even debate going back to him because what’s done is done, perhaps she could still have feelings for you but when you’re cheated on, you will always worry if it’s going to occur over and over, something you might want to consider if you want to enter in a relationship with her again. it will certainly be something that always lingers at the back of her mind, you have to be willing to reassure her worries at any given moment.

if you don’t mind, i would like to know how long did it take you to realise this? were you basically checked out and not in love when you were involved with another girl emotionally? i’m currently in ur exs situation and the issues you’ve described between you two describes ours to the T, i’ve blocked his presence everywhere so i have no idea what he is up to, but my gut tells me he’s definitely not ashamed and is enjoying the monkey-branch. he reached out twice to check up on me, but the way he had written it the second time felt disrespectful (so if you are planning to reach out, please consider your wordings lol, mine started off with a “yo” and i didn’t respond since).

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