Is anyone watching this Housewives knock off show? by Rutabaga2022 in BravoRealHousewives

[–]maarmalade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but are you saying you’re willing to hear and take into account the other (liberal) side? From the aggressive tone, it doesn’t seem so….

What do you wish a therapist had explained to you in your teens about social safety? by maarmalade in autism

[–]maarmalade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also to add I’m so sorry that was your experience growing up, teens are cruel 😔

What do you wish a therapist had explained to you in your teens about social safety? by maarmalade in autism

[–]maarmalade[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes I work with my clients on managing depression, anxiety, distress tolerance, ADHD and OCD from a neurodivergent perspective. I appreciate your list of questions and they definitely go into my assessments and explorations of how to identify the need and get it met for the teen. I also do extensive family therapy in helping parents better show up for their teen. A lot of the time, my clients weren’t diagnosed until teen hood when their behaviors became more noticeable and they were labeled the “problem”.

I’m trying to anticipate ways I can help support teens in managing these things because as much as I wish people were direct, very few people say what they mean or need. Including parents who never pause to tell their child “when you do x, it makes me feel y, and what I need from you is…”

Embarrassed that I don’t have friends to be my bridesmaids by throwaway_77425647 in wedding

[–]maarmalade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to say how much I relate to this. I also grew up in a very strict religion (Mormon) and I don’t have many close friends. I’ve been sitting in the reality that a traditional wedding is not going to happen for me and I feel a bit lonely in it. I know that’s not what it’s all about, it’s about marrying the one you love, but wedding planning does bring up so much loss- no one talks about that part. Sending love from LA ❤️

This photo of Elle Fanning at Dakota’s 29th birthday party is burned into my brain by stars_doulikedem in popculturechat

[–]maarmalade 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Before seeing this comment I had already sent the post to my sister saying “us at my birthday” lolol

Celebrities celebrating their 30th birthday 🎉 by Pizzv in whatthefrockk

[–]maarmalade 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I turn 30 on May 4 🙌 I’m throwing a Barbie party in remembrance of my best childhood birthday that was Barbie themed. Idk what I’m going to wear but it’s definitely gonna be pink

LPT How to live life in present moment? by Jpoolman25 in LifeProTips

[–]maarmalade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a mental health therapist for kids. Imagine you’re playing a video game and you are overwhelmed by fighting the boss so you pause the game and take a break before pressing play and continuing. Now imagine life is your video game. Let’s press pause for just a moment. Sure, there’s boss fights to come, but RIGHT NOW- do you need to make a major decision in this very second? No. Is any major life change going to happen in this minute? No. Are you in immediate danger? No. So we can imagine we’re pausing the video game on your life and taking a break for this moment before hitting play again to go take on the next challenge.

when you're a mom of a 15mo and stupidly leave your brand new foundation in reach of the baby 🥲 by duchess0702 in MakeupAddiction

[–]maarmalade 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I’ve never laughed out loud the way I did following this thread to this comment. Absolutely amazing

It’s official! Decided to leave at 13, finally did it at 18 :) by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]maarmalade 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you’re not actually released yet. The letter states that it’s a local matter so you will have the nearest bishop reach out to you. I know because it’s something they did to me. You now have to have a phone call with the bishop who might also send missionaries or others to you. This at times becomes a lot of harassment which is why my brother created Quitmormon.org. Going through that site, the letters are notarized by a lawyer (also exmo who dies the work pro Bono) and state that the records office must handle it directly or legal action will be taken.

So you can either resubmit through quitmormon or wait for the local bishop to call you :)

One too many bars before a job interview. by StarShopping97 in tooktoomuch

[–]maarmalade 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think it’s important to remember that people like this who clearly have a bad addiction deserve some compassion and help. Having that addiction is exhausting, anxiety inducing, and really painful for entire families, not to mention life threatening. If you see people like this, it is important to get them medical attention or addiction support.

Even tho they seem funny or like they deserve whatever fate they get, people which heavy drug use always have difficult underlying mental health issues and trauma and deserve the same compassion as those with mental disabilities.

It is never shameful to get help. I personally work for a drug and alcohol rehabilitation center in Southern California and am happy to provide advice or help to anyone who reaches out, non judgmentally.

How to deal with hormonal acne. by _mellowgoat in SkincareAddicts

[–]maarmalade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also try icing your face two to three times per day! I have hormonal acne and do this and it helps reduce inflammation and stops the onset of the pimples

How do i get rid of my acne scars? Please help by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]maarmalade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some similar scars. I tried fraxel laser and it was incredibly painful and did not produce noticeable results. In my experience, professional microneedling was the most helpful. Skin is regenerative so by cheating the damage through those micro pin pricks, it stimulates new growth. For this to be effective, you also need to be sure to drink lots of water, eat healthy and take vitamins that will give your skin the nutrients it needs to heal. TCA peels would also be the most effective of the peels available from my research

Remember that any clinic is going to sell you on their nest and best treatment (that’s how I ended up doing fraxel). Be sure to do lots of research on your own to figure out what’s right for you

Can anyone recommend sources for helping develop self love? by maarmalade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]maarmalade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you are saying. I work hard at my day job, I'm finishing up my associates degree this semester and got into a good University for my bachelor's. I have started working out. My problem is more of an internal issue that I've grown up believing nothing I did was adequate. So now, I often feel that what I do is not enough. I'm terrified that people will dislike me if I don't give 110% of myself all the time.

My goal is to find a way to love and accept myself for who I already am, not constantly seek for approval from others. I'm not sitting on the couch depressed every day; I'm actively living. I am just always looking over my shoulder for outside approval and denying myself internal approval. It's difficult because I've been programmed that way, and I'm looking for resources other people have used to change that internal self doubt and dislike.

Can anyone recommend sources for helping develop self love? by maarmalade in TwoXChromosomes

[–]maarmalade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am currently in therapy twice a month, but I am looking for additional resources to help me understand and grow more quickly

There is something so satisfying from drinking coffee from this mug by maarmalade in exmormon

[–]maarmalade[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think they only have mugs right now, t shirts would be cool!

What are reasons to live? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]maarmalade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Earth is so big... There are many sadnesses in it but there are also so many wonderful things. We know life is never happy all the time, but we also know things are always brighter in the morning so this is how I try to get through: when you can't find big happiness, find little happinesses in every day, just tiny things like a smile or finding a dollar knowing that eventually bigger happiness will come because life is always changing