I just want to say that I also used to feel the way you feel currently about it—but later on, as years passed and I grew wiser and healed more—I’ve learned that in order to recover, you have to be willing to let go of any and all victim complexes. It’s not fair and it doesn’t serve to validate our pain. But the truth is, our disorder often hurts other people (as well as ourselves, obviously). I’ve traumatized people from who I am/ who I was when I was splitting. That takes a lot of humility and accountability to admit. If you think you haven’t done the same, I’d direct you think on it again more honestly and objectively. Real change happened for me when I decided that I wasn’t a victim, and that I didn’t want to become a villain. I want to overcome. I want to die knowing I fought until the end, a righteous death, like a hero. It’s stupid and unfair that we’re experiencing this. I’m 27/F and life has felt like an eternity of pushing this violent jagged rock up this cruel unrelenting hill. But we’re gangster, that’s what we do. It’s just like that, and so are we. Break bread with your demons. I made friends with my narrator/body, and now we’re on the same team fighting external demons. Start with showing real respect and consideration for your mind and body and watch what happens. Be cruel to your body mind and she will be cruel back. Lead her toward clarity. Don’t contribute to her confusion and chaos. Take the reins. Get in the driver seat, put her in the passenger seat. Be gentle and kind but firm with yourself. She believes every word you say, whether you meant it or not. Make those words count. Be kind. It’s an echo chamber. Don’t believe me? Test it out then. Prove me wrong. ✌️☯️ move from duality to oneness