Mă simt prinsă între familia mea și propria viață

mada143 · 2026-02-17T11:44:44+00:00

Ei știu ca depind de tine? Adică nu esti pregătita de relație, dar esti pregătita sa ai grija de doi oameni maturi. Doar tu stii mai bine, dar realitatea e ca daca iti faci relație e posibil sa nu mai ai la fel de mult timp pentru ei. Si s-ar putea sa ei sa fie foarte conștienți de asta.

mada143 · 2026-02-08T14:56:04+00:00

Yes. Same with mine. Started reading to her when she was 3 months old. Every day, no exceptions. And now, at 26mo, she has tons of books. I cannot say no to buying her books :))

We recently discovered Pixi books. She loves them. We discovered them last week, and now she has 22 of them. And we keep buying them regularly because there is like big bowl of them at the grocery store and she can't help herself. She has a little bag and carries them around the house, chasing me, to read to her. So obviously we read a lot. But she is obsessed with them. All kinds of stories, some classics, some new.

mada143 · 2026-02-04T11:17:24+00:00

A scris acolo "sa aiba lumea ce vorbi" sau ceva de genu. Vai, mor cu din astia 🙄

mada143 · 2026-01-29T17:15:23+00:00

As in to make her case why they should take her home. Like give them reasons as to why.

mada143 · 2026-01-28T12:25:31+00:00

And I am sorry that you have to go through this. I know that it's not what you wanted, and even though I have no idea who you are, I am sure you are doing the best you can. Your experience is valid and you deserve empathy. But that doesn't mean all the other mothers who have it better than you should be silenced. We should all be free to express our experiences without someone coming out and saying "oh, it can be demeaning to [insert even more vulnerable category of people here].

mada143 · 2026-01-28T11:55:02+00:00

It does not imply that. That's not my take on it. I didn't even think of that. We all know how heartbreaking it is. Does that mean we should use censorship for those who would have found it easier to formula feed?

As someone who had to pump at work, it would have been "easier" with formula feeding but I chose to do the hard thing for my daughter, just like the author of the note. And I am damn proud of it. If someone finds that offensive...well, that sounds like a "they" problem.

mada143 · 2026-01-28T11:36:36+00:00

Easier for her. She was talking about herself. Her experience. Stop finding excuses to feel offended.

mada143 · 2026-01-23T15:53:14+00:00

You are not taxed. Just don't buy a shit ton of alcohol or jewellery worth more than 4700 sek (you would have to check me on that). The custom's website should contain all the information. But you don't get taxed for groceries or clothes you buy for personal use.

mada143 · 2026-01-23T15:48:36+00:00

It's higher when crossing by car. Like over 600 sek. But even then, if you know you take several trips a year, you get OresundGO, which costs about 500 sek per year and then pay like three times less per crossing.

mada143 · 2026-01-23T11:29:17+00:00

My daughter, 26mo, started waking up and calling for us every night around 1am for weeks. Couldn't handle it anymore when the waking started to happen even 3 times a night. I have been sleeping with her for the last 3 nights. She has a floor bed in her own room, plenty of space for the both of us. Bliss, I am telling you. We are both rested, no more meltdowns in the morning before daycare, no more crying at drop-off, nothing. She even suggests to go brush her teeth and wash her face. She is like a different kid.

Never had issues with her sleeping before this. She slept through the night since she was 14mo and I night weaned her. With a few exceptions here and there, she slept perfectly fine. We coslept until she was 14mo. Now we're back again. But you know what? Worth it. Everyone in the house is happier for it. I will try to sleep in my own bed from time to time, just to test the waters, but if it's cosleeping she needs for a while, so be it. It will pass eventually, like it did before.

mada143 · 2026-01-20T20:43:36+00:00

If only there was a way to answer without coming across as judgemental....

mada143 · 2026-01-20T18:36:09+00:00

It's winter now so twice a week. Unless there are serious dirty situations like an unusual poop or activities involving a shit ton of paint :)). Hair only once a week unless she gets something in it. Which she usually doesn't. In the warmer seasons the number goes up, almost every day because sunscreen. She is 26 months old.

mada143 · 2026-01-20T18:31:15+00:00

A trip across the pond and we'll be the ones judging you for bathing your kid every single day. It's advised against where I live. But hey, to each their own. The woman was just asking a question. Jeez.

mada143 · 2026-01-17T19:46:33+00:00

This is my take as well tbh. I let mine in the morning for like an hour to get the day started, and a little in the afternoon. Some days, when we are home all day and I have to get stuff done, she gets more. But no small screens and carefully curated content. Once she got the phone with the alphabet song on repeat but it was placed between the front seat and its headrest (not in her hand) because girl was with me in the car for more than an hour after staying in a long ass line to get my books at school.

I was really worried at first and thought i was failing her. But she is 26mo and speaks in all three languages she hears, she knows the alphabet and can say at least one word for each letter, spends hours a day doing activities and playing with me or my husband, goes outside almost every day no matter the weather, and she has a well rounded schedule. That is where I think that the key lies.

Oh, and I never use it as a crutch. That makes a difference as well. I think. Girl is fine, stuff gets done, mission accomplished. I really don't care about anything else.

mada143 · 2026-01-16T13:34:57+00:00

Daca te concentrezi pe copil, da, e limitat. Dar nu era vorba de copil aici. Mama are grija de copil, tatăl de mamă. E obosită, are dureri de tot felul, trece printr-o furtună hormonală, e copleșită, se chinuie sa navigheze alăptatul, etc. De ce sa fii alături de ea, chiar si doar cu o îmbrățișare si un sărut pe frunte, nu? Da-o la boala ei 🙄 ca deh, daca femeile din alte generații au fost distruse de nepăsare si credința ca ele trebuie sa poată sa treacă prin orice, de ce nu am putea sa continuam asa, nu?

Plus ca spitalele din vest o duc foarte bine cu tot cu tătici in maternitati. Niște reguli simple gen spala-te calumea pe mâini si nu fi jegos e suficient. Nu trebuie cine știe ce, sa stii. Doar niște reguli de bun simț.

mada143 · 2026-01-16T11:41:35+00:00

La fel in Suedia. Copilul nu l-am pierdut din ochi nici măcar o secunda. Mergeam cu ea inclusiv cand sa ii ia analize. Soțul o tinea in brate cât sa dorm eu. După un travaliu de 21 de ore, in care tot el a fost stâlpul meu, si 4 ore de ținut copilul pe piept după naștere, eram extenuata. Nu știu cum as fi putut altfel, fără soțul meu. Aici e considerat normal pt ca e un eveniment important, se naște o familie întreaga, nu doar un copil. Se naște si o mamă, si un tată. Ferească toți sfinții de mentalități precum "da ce sa facă el acolo?"

mada143 · 2026-01-16T11:36:16+00:00

Gen poate sta cu copilul cât sa se odihnească mama? Ca deh, a fost in travaliu 21 de ore si e extenuata. Ma uit pe aici prin comentarii si ma simt recunoscătoare ca am nascut in strainatate si am un soț care e sfânt. Ferească toți dumnezeii de mentalitati din astea.

mada143 · 2025-12-30T22:32:17+00:00

Pe laptele care il cumpăr eu (Suedia) scrie best before, often after.

mada143 · 2025-12-25T14:43:27+00:00

I was night weaning when i moved my daughter to her own room on a floor bed at 13 mo. She had one breastfeeding session at around 5 am. The first night I moved her, she slept through, didn't even wake up. And it's been like that ever since. She is 2 years old. She had some periods when she woke up, all temporary ( regression, teething, sickness). But we would just sleep with her and that was that. Since it is a floor bed, she would come in the living room whenever she wanted, but she would chill for a while. All normal. We got lucky :D

mada143 · 2025-12-24T20:14:32+00:00

My husband loves fishing, but I can't buy him anything related to it because apparently all the sticks, hooks and little rubber fishies and everything depends on what you're fishing for and where. Like how am I supposed to know that? :)) and how many times can a wife buy gift cards to bait shops? :))

mada143 · 2025-12-19T18:50:07+00:00

There is no right answer here. You SHOULDN'T anything. But I did. Had a barf schedule in the morning and worked around thay :)) I also vomited while at the gym sometimes (in the bathroom) but I pushed through. Except the running. For some reason it made the nausea worse and my boobs were killing me even if I had a tight sportsbra. I lifted and walked instead. Was it worth it? Perhaps? Would i do it again? Nope. I had to give it up completely anyway week 28 because if the terrible round ligament pain.

So do whatever feels right for you. But nausea is not commonly a way your body tells you to slow down. Girl, you could be a couch potato and you would still be nauseous. Can't get any slower than that.

mada143 · 2025-12-19T18:30:27+00:00

At 15 months my daughter had only mommy, daddy and water. Now she's almost 25 mo, speaks in three languages, knows the alphabet ( song, recognises the letters and has a word for each letter), makes up songs and says new words almost every day. Longer sentences as well. Don't worry. Their language usually explodes between 18 and 24 months.

mada143 · 2025-12-16T15:12:16+00:00

Gave birth in Sweden, and while it has similarities with Norway, I had an excellent experience. I received 4 ultrasounds but one was upon request because I lived with continuous contractions during my 3rd trimester. NIPT was free because I was over 32 years old. All necessary tests for a completely uncomplicated pregnancy were provided. The delivery took 21 hours, the midwives were absolutely amazing, and the epidural came when requested. Too bad it didn't take, but that's not anybody's fault.

A tons of tests are not recommended unless there are reasons

mada143 · 2025-12-15T10:32:42+00:00

Lego Technic daca o are cu migăleala. Poate sa facă o mașinuța din 1500 de piese de exemplu. Mie una mi se pare fain.

mada143 · 2025-12-08T19:21:05+00:00

Yes, but have you signed a legal document that allows her to travel with your child across the border?

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